Okay, I need some more opinions on a dilemma I'm having at home. This might be more of a vent but I want to know some honest to god opinions as well.

I'm unfortunately sharing an apartment with my sister and grandmother which puts a damper on the sex life. The apartment is never empty because my grandmother never leaves. So, needless to say, I don't stay home when I have "company" and actually choose to have my company play host or go to a motel.

Here's where the dilemma lies. My sister, on the other hand, decides to always play host to her company whenever both my grandmother and I are here. I'd have no problem with that if she wasn't using the living room as her own personal bedroom. Yeah, that's right. The living room, the dinning room, and kitchen become all of her play things whenever she decides to host company.

She has her own bedroom here in the apt. but it's not currently clean. It's not like it's junked to oblivion and she could still maneuver in it. As a matter of fact, it's practically clean all but the bed has her clothes on it and there's no tv in there (both reasons why she states she doesn't move back into her room). She's been sleeping and living in the living room for about 3 years now.

I've tried telling her that she could and should go to a hotel/motel room as that would be more appropriate, she would have more privacy, and she wouldn't be invading my grandmother and my space. And not to mention, it's really cheap. But she tells me that's sleazy (gee, thanks).

It gets quite annoying because she always seems to tell me about her company coming over either moments before he arrives at the door or when I have plans to leave the house (The only way out of the apt is through the living room and my plans usually have to get canceled because she doesn't want me leaving when her company is here or coming back too early when her company is here).

It's completely inevitable that she's not going to change her behavior (and she's supposed to be the older one) and things won't change until I could find a stable job so that I can move out on my own. I'm not trying to cock-block or anything, but it's rather annoying that every single time, she has to play host in our living room. I could understand if she was living alone or even in her bedroom which I told her many times would be fine with me.

So my question is, is it appropriate for her to use the living room as her personal sex den? If you were in this situation, what would/could you do? less

Her behavior is completely unacceptable. She has her own bedroom here in the apt.? Then there is no excuse for her to be 'hosting' company in the shared areas. I suggest you inform her you are not going to be held hostage by her rude and selfish behavior, and if she wants privacy, clean her f---ing room.

That you've put up with it for this long amazes me. I would have become evil about it a long time ago. less

Okay, I need some more opinions on a dilemma I'm having at home. This might be more of a vent but I want to know some honest to god opinions as well.

I'm unfortunately sharing an apartment with my sister and grandmother which puts a damper on the sex life. The apartment is never empty because my grandmother never leaves. So, needless to say, I don't stay home when I have "company" and actually choose to have my company play host or go to a motel.

Here's where the dilemma lies. My sister, on the other hand, decides to always play host to her company whenever both my grandmother and I are here. I'd have no problem with that if she wasn't using the living room as her own personal bedroom. Yeah, that's right. The living room, the dinning room, and kitchen become all of her play things whenever she decides to host company.

She has her own bedroom here in the apt. but it's not currently clean. It's not like it's junked to oblivion and she could still maneuver in it. As a matter of fact, it's practically clean all but the bed has her clothes on it and there's no tv in there (both reasons why she states she doesn't move back into her room). She's been sleeping and living in the living room for about 3 years now.

I've tried telling her that she could and should go to a hotel/motel room as that would be more appropriate, she would have more privacy, and she wouldn't be invading my grandmother and my space. And not to mention, it's really cheap. But she tells me that's sleazy (gee, thanks).

It gets quite annoying because she always seems to tell me about her company coming over either moments before he arrives at the door or when I have plans to leave the house (The only way out of the apt is through the living room and my plans usually have to get canceled because she doesn't want me leaving when her company is here or coming back too early when her company is here).

It's completely inevitable that she's not going to change her behavior (and she's supposed to be the older one) and things won't change until I could find a stable job so that I can move out on my own. I'm not trying to cock-block or anything, but it's rather annoying that every single time, she has to play host in our living room. I could understand if she was living alone or even in her bedroom which I told her many times would be fine with me.

So my question is, is it appropriate for her to use the living room as her personal sex den? If you were in this situation, what would/could you do? less

By the sounds of it, you and her own the apartment equally. Her paying the bills doesn't change that. Tension or not, she can't kick you out unless she wants to buy your half of the apartment. I would strongly suggest not moving out unless she does, either.

She is used to making the rules and doing this for so long that it will likely take some time before she changes, but you need to stand up for yourself and reclaim the shared space as... shared space!

If she din't have a bedroom at all, and HAD to stay in the living room that would be different. less