No, mine does her business down there with no added commentary
Do you get slut shamed by your gynecologist?
10/17/2012
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Nope, I don't... I think your gynecologist is really unprofessional.
Originally posted by
Sera26
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
10/17/2012
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I know you're having a hard time finding another female gyno, but you shouldn't have to deal with this. Please consider filing a formal complaint against her, and certainly consider finding a new doctor. Is there a reason you have to go to a doctor in the same county where you live? It may be worth traveling out of your way occasionally to see someone who respects you and makes you feel comfortable.
Originally posted by
Sera26
Thanks for all of the comments everyone. And the issue I have now is that my fiance is younger than me, which she apparently didn't agree with. I don't know, the whole thing seemed very hostile.
10/17/2012
I could care less what they think
10/17/2012
This behaviour is unacceptable and bizarre in a professional Dr. I have been asked how many lifetime partners I had by 1 female Dr. and she made no comment just wrote it down. You should not have to go to a Dr. and suffer this kind of attack on your sexual partners or lack of. It just doesn't sound right to me. I would get another Dr.
10/17/2012
I won't go to anyone that makes me feel uncomfortable. I had similar experiences as you, now I drive 65 miles to go to my gyno.
10/17/2012
Heck no! If anyone ever judged me for my life, they would simply cease to become part of it. As a doctor, she should most definitely remain impartial to your lifestyle choices; her job is simply to provide you the highest level of medical care. I'd personally give her a piece of my mind.
10/17/2012
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I absolutely second planned parenthood if one is available! I had nothing but wonderful experiences there, and their payment options are great.
Originally posted by
Zombirella
No, I go to the Planned Parenthood because it's cheaper even with insurance. They are all really nice and professional there. Though this one time, this OLD lady was filling in for the gyno and I went in with an irritation. I had a wound, that
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No, I go to the Planned Parenthood because it's cheaper even with insurance. They are all really nice and professional there. Though this one time, this OLD lady was filling in for the gyno and I went in with an irritation. I had a wound, that was small and wouldn't stop bleeding and hurt BADLY. I went in and that woman looked at me and told me I had herpes! I totally lost it right there and went hysterical. Even then, the women were really nice and trying to tell me it was gonna be okay and all that crap. Well I was on the edge of doing something stupid. I had been with a guy I was talking to (after my 4yr relationship) and KNEW he was clean and we used protection. I ended up calling my family doctor just as hysterical and he told me to get my ass there now. Turns out, it was a FRICTION BURN from the condom! I know what herpes looks like and I looked at myself before I went the place and that's why I called my family doctor. He gave me some ointment and a few days later, it healed up. But I was super pissed and I called and gave them a piece of my mind, they don't need people in there not knowing what they are doing. They could have re-scheduled me to come in when the REAL gyno was there!
They do ask on the forum to list your number of partners, but I don't have a number to feel "slutty" about and I wouldn't care if someone said I was or whatever. less
They do ask on the forum to list your number of partners, but I don't have a number to feel "slutty" about and I wouldn't care if someone said I was or whatever. less
I go to a private practice obgyn now, but I sort of miss the ol' PP!
10/17/2012
Went in once, and the little old gyno told me it might be herpies. She held my hand until I stopped crying, and gave me all the tissues I could use. She also called me up when the results came in for the negative result instead of having me come in. I love my doctor
10/17/2012
nope
10/17/2012
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Agreed
Originally posted by
Mwar
Oh HELL no!
Medical professionals are NEVER supposed to judge. You could be Debbie in Dallas and the most she should say is "what kind of contraception should you use?"
Really, if you can manage, see someone else and let it be ... more
Medical professionals are NEVER supposed to judge. You could be Debbie in Dallas and the most she should say is "what kind of contraception should you use?"
Really, if you can manage, see someone else and let it be ... more
Oh HELL no!
Medical professionals are NEVER supposed to judge. You could be Debbie in Dallas and the most she should say is "what kind of contraception should you use?"
Really, if you can manage, see someone else and let it be known she is this way. No other woman deserves such remarks. Talk about your experience in insurance/provider listings and everywhere. This is not right. I'm sorry you had to experience that. less
Medical professionals are NEVER supposed to judge. You could be Debbie in Dallas and the most she should say is "what kind of contraception should you use?"
Really, if you can manage, see someone else and let it be known she is this way. No other woman deserves such remarks. Talk about your experience in insurance/provider listings and everywhere. This is not right. I'm sorry you had to experience that. less
10/17/2012
I never had it happened
10/18/2012
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My doctor tries to handle himself in a very professional manner but he is uncomfortable with my lifestyle. I allow him his convictions because he is true to his oath as a doctor and he tries really hard to remain professional. He doesn't shame me and he treats me respectfully.
Originally posted by
Sera26
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
10/18/2012
Usually they are more shocked I've only had one partner.
10/18/2012
We are not supposed to be judgmental in healthcare and yes the number of partner's is an appropriate question because it helps to stratify your risks. and if you could be susceptible to things like hpv and cervical cancer.
12/18/2012
No, I've never felt shamed by my gynecologist.
My gynecologist does ask how many people I have been with, but it's just kind of one of those ..."I hate asking, but I have to..." kind of things. And when I answer, she usually just moves on to the next question -- no conversation about it at all.
My gynecologist does ask how many people I have been with, but it's just kind of one of those ..."I hate asking, but I have to..." kind of things. And when I answer, she usually just moves on to the next question -- no conversation about it at all.
12/18/2012
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Nope-never happened to me.
Originally posted by
Sera26
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
12/18/2012
Because of my numbers, mine makes me feel like a slut lol
12/18/2012
I've never experience this and I would never go back to a doctor who treated me that way. I really hope you can find a way to get a better doctor.
12/18/2012
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I enjoy pap smears. I always feel like they're doing something bad to me.
Originally posted by
Sera26
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
12/19/2012
I would think that a low number of partners would be a good thing in the eyes of the obgyn? But they definitely shouldn't be judgemental or say anything to make you feel bad. I hate that you have to share how many partners you've ever had but they need to know if they should test you for stds or not. I'm with one person and one person only so they don't check me for stds unless I specifically ask them to. No one should say anything negative about that though.
12/19/2012
I haven't had any problems like that with my gyno because I've only had PIV sex with one person that I'm currently still in a serious long-term relationship with.
12/19/2012
Heck no!!! I would have been SO pissed off if they had done this.. Sorry you got so dissed by your gyno!!!
12/20/2012
My biggest problem is to shave or not to shave. I always think it's gross to go in all hairy but I feel like a creep when I do. "Did she do this just for me?" LOL
12/20/2012
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no. i've only had one partner too
Originally posted by
Sera26
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex ... more
I was just wondering how prevalent this is.
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
I had an appointment recently and even though I'm now in a real relationship she still managed to make me feel bad about it. Last time I went it had been quite a while since I'd had any sex (I was going because of pain issues) and she shamed me for my (I think) relatively low number of past partners. I don't feel like I have a choice in the matter because I can only handle going to a female gyno & she's the only 1 in the entire county.
P.S. This is not to say that I think that people who have sex with lots of partners should feel bad about it. That's what I used to want to do when I was single I just didn't have the opportunity/social skills. less
01/24/2013
absolutely not
01/24/2013
No and yours shouldn't, it's very unprofessional and I'm sorry she's the only woman dr in your county. I go to a woman too and she's wonderful. She even helped me out because I wasn't handling my internal too well. She has no right to voice her opinion to you in a demeaning way. I would probably re-evaluate my preference in going to a woman and instead go to a man. I've been to men dr's before and actually found them more gentle.
01/24/2013
The ladies at my local Planned Parenthood are pretty cool and don't judge me like that. I did however have a clinic I had to go to because they were the only ones that took Medicaid when I was pregnant judge me and treat me like shit, right down to hurting me needlessly when examining me internally. You could tell those people thought I was some slut who just got knocked up by a random person or something even though I was married at the time, it was terrible. Thank god it didn't last long and I went somewhere else once we got different insurance.
01/24/2013
No, but I had a GYN reply to my urge to adopt with, "You don't want those kids. They have problems." I instantly changed GYNS.
01/24/2013
Pururin
I've never had this problem and I currently don't have a gyno. If I thought my doctor was judging me, I would speak up and say something to them.
01/24/2013
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