Students pay vs Parents Pay?

Students pay vs Parents Pay?

MamaDivine MamaDivine 03/11/2012

In my experience, with those that I have known, stories I have heard and my own experience, I have found that more times than not, when a student has to pay his or her own way, they tend to buckle down and get those good grades and pass their classes more so than when they have their parents pay for their way through college. What do you think about this topic?

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MamaDivine MamaDivine
Do you think that students tend to appreciate their schooling MORE if they pay for it themselves, or do you find that its 50/50 or depending on the situation?
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MamaDivine MamaDivine
Holy Run-on sentence! Yikes lol
Taylor Taylor
I don't think it's true for me. I've always gotten mostly A's and B's with the occasional C. This was true when my dad was helping me out as well as now that I am paying my own tuition completely.

I do think that generally though, it does give you a little kick in the butt if you have to pay for it yourself.
spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
I have paid my own way, and have worked my ass off so that I am not wasting any chances of making my dreams come true.
HannahPanda HannahPanda
Of course we appreciate things more when we pay for them ourselves.
Falsepast Falsepast
Its natural that humans dont have nearly as much appreciation for things they didnt pay for.
married with children married with children
my parents did not have extra money to help me out, I paid for my own schooling.
brevado brevado
I tend to agree with that view
Deeder Deeder
I think this is true with any situation. Which is exactly why my husband and I have decided that if our children decide to go to college, or even when they're ready to buy their first car, the financial responsibility is on them.
sktb0007 sktb0007
I disagree sort of... I mean, I'm sure that is the case for some people but it wasn't for me. My parents paid for my college and I worked my ass off. I graduated with honours. I guess it depends on who the person is, if they really want it, how motivated they are, and who they have as parents.
K101 K101
Originally posted by MamaDivine
Do you think that students tend to appreciate their schooling MORE if they pay for it themselves, or do you find that its 50/50 or depending on the situation?
Honestly? No. I don't think it's always a matter of what the student has had or has not had to pay. Not always. I say this because for instance, I have ALWAYS been a very strict on money kind of girl. Even when I was a kid -- very young, around 6 when I remember myself -- I would look at prices and NOT buy something if it didn't seem to be a good deal. Of coursee someone that age can't tell what's best, but I would tell my mom no, not to buy me something because I thought it should be cheaper. She says I was born a tight wad. Lol. I have never ever lost it either. I'm still really careful about how I spend and it's not anything that I was taught or picked up on. My parents did not discuss money AT ALL in front of us as kids. They took care of us and if we ever wanted something, they bought it. Pretty much always. So it's really about personality. Everyone is different. Someone who's had to pay their own way since they were 12 could even turn out being bad with handling their money. I know a perfect example. My partner has always had to pay for anything he ever had, even clothing. He started working at 12 and if he had something, he bought it, not his parent. Turns out, he's more lenient about spending than me! But of course that's just us.

As for a college student having to pay, I do think it can open their eyes some. I'm paying my tuiton fully out of pocket. No help whatsoever from the government, grants or anything. And I do think I maybe would've chose to take MORE classes had I went with grant money. I would. I know I wuold. If I had grant money right now, I'd also be taking psychology and absolutely hypno therapy. But since I don't, I chose to go with the one thing I'm most passionate about -- writing. So yes, having to pay your own can make a person different in some ways. I guess it truly depends on the person and how much they really care. Some people just downright blow their money no matter what.

I don't think I would let myself slide had my tuition been paid for by a grant or something. It's about the classes. Since I could be terminated just for doing horrible work, I don't think the money part wuold make a difference for me any in that department. I'd be making the same grades if I weren't paying my own. The work is just too important to me. I slack sometimes, but only with time, never in my work.

I guess it all depends on the person, their ability to handle money well in general as well as whether or not they're paying out of their own pocket.
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
I really wouldnt know but i would think so
mpfm mpfm
I paid for my own. I think it was good because I had to learn to budget out that money. And I took my studies seriously. Our children are paying for their own. So far they are are doing well.
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