I have a few weddings coming up. One is for a family friend that I have known since she was born. Another is my brother in law. I know that my friend of the family would have no issues with taking a toy from here....but my sister in law is a different story LOL. She is a rather sexual person and brother in law...not so much (or so I hear lol). I want to get them something that may help out their love life a little and maybe get them both more interested and on the same page sexually and sensually.
Wedding Gift for InLaws....
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Which one do you think would be a better gift for the Inlaws?
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Which one do you think would be a better gift for the Inlaws?
02/22/2012
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Im leaning more towards the Knead Me set, but I can't decide lol.
02/22/2012
I have the massage stone but not as a kit. I'd like to get a massage candle to see how it is. The thing with that is if either one of them likes giving/receiving massages.
02/22/2012
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I think it's a cool idea either way!
Originally posted by
MamaDivine
Which one do you think would be a better gift for the Inlaws?
02/22/2012
I wouldn't buy a couple a sexual gift unless they specifically asked for one.
It's not my job to "loosen people up" if they don't ask for help and I think if either of the couple were embarrassed or unimpressed with a sexual gift it could not only go to waste, but cause friction within their relationship.
A sensual gift that is very mild may be good, though. The JimmyJane Massage Candle Sampler has 6 scents and is more fun than the boring old vanilla (that not everyone likes) that comes with the Knead Me Set.
Don't embarrass the man in this second couple. I remember years ago, when I was more demure about things like this when my husband and I received a few for our wedding, throwing away unwanted gifts with heavy sexual themes. The person's money went to waste. You can't change people until they are ready to change. (I've always like sex, but at that point in my life, I didn't want sex toys. People giving them to me didn't change me one bit, and the money they spent on the gift was wasted, because I got rid of these immediately.)
Stick with something more commonplace. You don't want to be known as "the chick who gave us the vibrating panties that went into the trash the next day" in this couple's injoke library.
It's not my job to "loosen people up" if they don't ask for help and I think if either of the couple were embarrassed or unimpressed with a sexual gift it could not only go to waste, but cause friction within their relationship.
A sensual gift that is very mild may be good, though. The JimmyJane Massage Candle Sampler has 6 scents and is more fun than the boring old vanilla (that not everyone likes) that comes with the Knead Me Set.
Don't embarrass the man in this second couple. I remember years ago, when I was more demure about things like this when my husband and I received a few for our wedding, throwing away unwanted gifts with heavy sexual themes. The person's money went to waste. You can't change people until they are ready to change. (I've always like sex, but at that point in my life, I didn't want sex toys. People giving them to me didn't change me one bit, and the money they spent on the gift was wasted, because I got rid of these immediately.)
Stick with something more commonplace. You don't want to be known as "the chick who gave us the vibrating panties that went into the trash the next day" in this couple's injoke library.
02/22/2012
I agree with P'Gell that you don't want to give them something that will make them uncomfortable. The Knead Me set, and even the Afterglow sampler are great because if they don't want to use them as massage candles, they can use them as regular candles. I've given the Knead Me set to my parents-in-law and they loved it. I'll probably be giving my cousin getting married in a few months the Afterglow sampler with the Contour M, and same with my brother-in-law who's getting married this summer.
02/22/2012
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I think that a massage is certainly sensual, but not very Sexual. If it is a sex-specific thing, that leaves the body-dust (some people are sooo not into food play), the vibrating toys (which could be great assistance but some men are jealous/uncomfortable about them), the fantasy kit (again, bondage could be too much for some people) or the liberator wedge. I think the wedge is the best pick because it is *definitely* for the sex act, not just sensual. Also, it can modify position to get better angles and stimulation, but it isn't 'extreme' in any sense, nor is it something likely to really turn people off or be too far out of their comfort zone. I think that'd be the best starter gift, and maybe it can help them expand their horizons.
Originally posted by
MamaDivine
Which one do you think would be a better gift for the Inlaws?
02/22/2012
I think the best idea on your list was the Liberator, but that is just the conversion kit not the foam inserts, so I would get a liberator. Personally, I would purchase the heart wedge for a wedding gift. It looks like a cute decorate pillow and is the most discreet.
02/22/2012
Massage candle is best
02/22/2012
The massage candle.
02/22/2012
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I would say the weekender kit or knead me massage kit. I'd LOVE to get either of those as a wedding gift.
Originally posted by
MamaDivine
Which one do you think would be a better gift for the Inlaws?
02/22/2012
My suggestion might be to give a sensual gift at a more appropriate place and time. Is your sister in-law going to have a bachelorette party or a easy going wedding shower? That my be a more appropriate time to give her an item like the ones on your list which she can then share with your brother in-law.
I would feel it out because wedding gifts are not always very private things, some couples even open them in front of people so be warned that something even as innocent as the Knead Me could be considered embarrassing, also do think about the thank you cards that go out later with the pictures, do you think they are going to feel comfortable writing a thank you for that Liberator Wedge in there?
If you really want to do something like that for them here is a way I have used to give the couples a sexual/sensual gift that is more private. We found out where the couple was staying the night of the wedding and had arranged to have the room of the hotel decorated with rose petals and left some massage oils, candles and a couples of toys we figured wouldn't freak them out so badly. We got a card from the couple later saying how much they appreciated the thought and humor that went into the wedding night suite.
I would feel it out because wedding gifts are not always very private things, some couples even open them in front of people so be warned that something even as innocent as the Knead Me could be considered embarrassing, also do think about the thank you cards that go out later with the pictures, do you think they are going to feel comfortable writing a thank you for that Liberator Wedge in there?
If you really want to do something like that for them here is a way I have used to give the couples a sexual/sensual gift that is more private. We found out where the couple was staying the night of the wedding and had arranged to have the room of the hotel decorated with rose petals and left some massage oils, candles and a couples of toys we figured wouldn't freak them out so badly. We got a card from the couple later saying how much they appreciated the thought and humor that went into the wedding night suite.
02/22/2012
I know I am terribly old fashioned, but for a wedding gift use their registry. You can't go wrong with china! Now if we're not talking wedding gift, but a lingerie shower or a bachelorette party then any of those would be fine. But your priority is nicest gift for the wedding gift and then as funds allow add fun and sexy gifts as lagniappe.
02/22/2012
I think the Knead Me massage kit is a classier gift that's not going to offend anyone. It's a safe bet, that can still add to their love life.
02/22/2012
Knead Me. It's from such a solid company.
02/22/2012
wdanas
The massage set, definitely. It's thoughtful and sensual, but leaves taking it to a sexual level up to the couple. This is as it should be.
02/22/2012
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Knead me
Originally posted by
MamaDivine
Which one do you think would be a better gift for the Inlaws?
02/23/2012
( I am the husband of the original poster of this). I talked to my brother about some of these things and he said that it would be nice to try something like this. So I would go with any of the candles babe.
02/23/2012
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Thanks for the input P'Gell, but I have spoken to my sister in law quite a few times about this. She said that they aren't really "open" or try new things, and its something that they would like to do. I know that with as many kids as they have, they are always running around crazy like....and she is about to give birth to her third child, so I know for sure they could use something a lil spicy in the bedroom OR they could always use the massage items. I would never give something inapporpriate in front of their family and friends (But quite honestly, I think that she/he would love it and make jokes about it) they aren't prude or anything. I was just asking what would be a great gift, not if I should give them something of this nature. But thank you!
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I wouldn't buy a couple a sexual gift unless they specifically asked for one.
It's not my job to "loosen people up" if they don't ask for help and I think if either of the couple were embarrassed or unimpressed with a ... more
It's not my job to "loosen people up" if they don't ask for help and I think if either of the couple were embarrassed or unimpressed with a ... more
I wouldn't buy a couple a sexual gift unless they specifically asked for one.
It's not my job to "loosen people up" if they don't ask for help and I think if either of the couple were embarrassed or unimpressed with a sexual gift it could not only go to waste, but cause friction within their relationship.
A sensual gift that is very mild may be good, though. The JimmyJane Massage Candle Sampler has 6 scents and is more fun than the boring old vanilla (that not everyone likes) that comes with the Knead Me Set.
Don't embarrass the man in this second couple. I remember years ago, when I was more demure about things like this when my husband and I received a few for our wedding, throwing away unwanted gifts with heavy sexual themes. The person's money went to waste. You can't change people until they are ready to change. (I've always like sex, but at that point in my life, I didn't want sex toys. People giving them to me didn't change me one bit, and the money they spent on the gift was wasted, because I got rid of these immediately.)
Stick with something more commonplace. You don't want to be known as "the chick who gave us the vibrating panties that went into the trash the next day" in this couple's injoke library. less
It's not my job to "loosen people up" if they don't ask for help and I think if either of the couple were embarrassed or unimpressed with a sexual gift it could not only go to waste, but cause friction within their relationship.
A sensual gift that is very mild may be good, though. The JimmyJane Massage Candle Sampler has 6 scents and is more fun than the boring old vanilla (that not everyone likes) that comes with the Knead Me Set.
Don't embarrass the man in this second couple. I remember years ago, when I was more demure about things like this when my husband and I received a few for our wedding, throwing away unwanted gifts with heavy sexual themes. The person's money went to waste. You can't change people until they are ready to change. (I've always like sex, but at that point in my life, I didn't want sex toys. People giving them to me didn't change me one bit, and the money they spent on the gift was wasted, because I got rid of these immediately.)
Stick with something more commonplace. You don't want to be known as "the chick who gave us the vibrating panties that went into the trash the next day" in this couple's injoke library. less
02/23/2012
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I don't think I could make these two uncomfy if I tried to Sam LOL....They are pretty open folks. They both have a great sense of humor too. I know for sure that they would get a kick out of some of these items. I have most of these items included in this comparison and they are visiting this weekend, so Ill be showing them the stuff I have to get a feel for what they may be interested in. The vibrating panties would be more or less a gag/shocker gift....and im pretty sure that they would totally give me crap for it LOL. I agree that the Contour M and Knead Me set is awesome! I love it
Originally posted by
Jul!a
I agree with P'Gell that you don't want to give them something that will make them uncomfortable. The Knead Me set, and even the Afterglow sampler are great because if they don't want to use them as massage candles, they can use them as
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I agree with P'Gell that you don't want to give them something that will make them uncomfortable. The Knead Me set, and even the Afterglow sampler are great because if they don't want to use them as massage candles, they can use them as regular candles. I've given the Knead Me set to my parents-in-law and they loved it. I'll probably be giving my cousin getting married in a few months the Afterglow sampler with the Contour M, and same with my brother-in-law who's getting married this summer.
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02/23/2012
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Knead me set! I say get this one because of the ceramic massage thingy! That thing is awesome from what I hear and I've came close to buying it 3 times! Was actually going to give it as a gift to my sister and mom! You can't go wrong with that!
Originally posted by
MamaDivine
Which one do you think would be a better gift for the Inlaws?
02/23/2012
Massage candle would be a good choice.
02/23/2012
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Oh, well then gift vibes away! lol
Originally posted by
MamaDivine
I don't think I could make these two uncomfy if I tried to Sam LOL....They are pretty open folks. They both have a great sense of humor too. I know for sure that they would get a kick out of some of these items. I have most of these items
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I don't think I could make these two uncomfy if I tried to Sam LOL....They are pretty open folks. They both have a great sense of humor too. I know for sure that they would get a kick out of some of these items. I have most of these items included in this comparison and they are visiting this weekend, so Ill be showing them the stuff I have to get a feel for what they may be interested in. The vibrating panties would be more or less a gag/shocker gift....and im pretty sure that they would totally give me crap for it LOL. I agree that the Contour M and Knead Me set is awesome! I love it
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02/23/2012
I think the candle or the weekender kit would be great! She'll be able to use the candle as a moisturizer if it doesn't pan out for sexy time.
Just a heads up, the wedge ramp conversion kit is just a spare cover with cuff attachments, not the actual wedge pillow.
Just a heads up, the wedge ramp conversion kit is just a spare cover with cuff attachments, not the actual wedge pillow.
02/23/2012
I agree with the knead me set
02/23/2012
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OMG I agree Kendra! I love that thing, its awesome . I am thinking about putting together a massage gift basket and including a few things from column A and a few things from Column B lol! I think if I use a few of the samplers from here too, that would add some nice lil add ons
Originally posted by
K101
Knead me set! I say get this one because of the ceramic massage thingy! That thing is awesome from what I hear and I've came close to buying it 3 times! Was actually going to give it as a gift to my sister and mom! You can't go wrong with that!
02/24/2012
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Ahhh Thank you for that info Jaimes! I think someone else had mentioned that too lol. I think Im going to steer clear of the wedge. I might do a hide a vibe pillow in the gift basket too. This way she can use it for whatever.
Originally posted by
Jaimes
I think the candle or the weekender kit would be great! She'll be able to use the candle as a moisturizer if it doesn't pan out for sexy time.
Just a heads up, the wedge ramp conversion kit is just a spare cover with cuff attachments, ... more
Just a heads up, the wedge ramp conversion kit is just a spare cover with cuff attachments, ... more
I think the candle or the weekender kit would be great! She'll be able to use the candle as a moisturizer if it doesn't pan out for sexy time.
Just a heads up, the wedge ramp conversion kit is just a spare cover with cuff attachments, not the actual wedge pillow. less
Just a heads up, the wedge ramp conversion kit is just a spare cover with cuff attachments, not the actual wedge pillow. less
02/24/2012
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LMAO Sam. My friend that is getting married, I KNOW she would be interested in that. She is a "cam model" LOL...I hate saying that but that is what is what they are being called these days I suppose
Originally posted by
Jul!a
Oh, well then gift vibes away! lol
I told her about the points system on here and she was all crazy and said "What!? FREE TOYS!?" lol...I still have to head over there to show her around the site. It was confusing as all get out to me when I first started, so I want her to know what she is doing before she calls me every 5 minutes asking questions lol.
02/24/2012
The Knead Me set.
02/24/2012
Weekender kit looks fun. My husband is terrible at massage, so that seems good.
02/29/2012
the weekender kit or any of the candles
02/29/2012
I think the weekender kit would work well!
02/29/2012
I have the Knead Me on my wishlist!!
03/02/2012
The massage kit looks like a good option.
03/02/2012
Get them a Eden gift card. A no miss present
03/02/2012
I think the weekended kit is the best opption but I like Brandonn's idea about an eden gift card. I personally would probally go that route myself than they can pick something together instead of getting something that may never be used if hes not that open to it.
03/02/2012
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knead me
Originally posted by
MamaDivine
Which one do you think would be a better gift for the Inlaws?
03/02/2012
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