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Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
Just curious what everyone is doing this holiday season? What are the traditions things like that!

We have Thanksgiving dinner/Christmas Dinner and Christmas Eve Dinner at my parents house and all my family comes. We have tons of traditions from reading the christmas story to the dinner that we eat. We always have Turkey on Thanksgiving and Christmas Day and then for the New Year we have Ham and we have to have black eyed peas for luck!
11/15/2010
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Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by SexyySarah
Just curious what everyone is doing this holiday season? What are the traditions things like that!

We have Thanksgiving dinner/Christmas Dinner and Christmas Eve Dinner at my parents house and all my family comes. We have tons of traditions ... more
Honestly, nothing really. Most of my tiny family is out of state, and this is kind of a transitional year with my boyfriend because his kids still need the post-divorce attention and time put in. I'm ok with it though - it's actually REALLY nice to have a stress-free holiday season.
11/15/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I'm still debating, do I want to head to Florida with the sort-of-back-together boyfriend for a week or stay up here in freezing Western New York? If I go down there then I guess that Thanksgiving day consists of three(!) meals and football; I'll be doing homework that day. There will also be some beach time and a day at Busch Gardens.
If I stay up here I have to figure out how I'm dividing my time between families and enjoying a full week off from work.
11/15/2010
Contributor: JEM JEM
For Thanksgiving, since I am not a fan of any of the food served, my husband and I usually go down to the Casinos in CT. We decide to give back to the Native Americans on Thanksgiving....just our way of showing them thanks! Christmas is always a trip somewhere with my parents, my sister & brother-in-law, and myself & my husband. Last year we did a cruise to Cozumel. This year we are going to one of my favorite cities DC. We do this in lue of buying gifts for one another...a fairly new tradition that I have grown to love.
11/15/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
Uggg, I have my real family that's split apart because we go to my parents house, then my sister and her husbands house, then my brother and his girlfriend's house. Then I have to go to my other families. I'm considered a daughter to a few different families. So I have to spend the holidays with my best friends family, and her parents are split, so I have to go to her Dad's AND her mother's because they both love me and consider me family! Then I have to go to my other best friends parents. Then I have another "mom" that adopted me. So much running around on holidays!!!
11/15/2010
Contributor: Heartthrob Heartthrob
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Originally posted by SexyySarah
Just curious what everyone is doing this holiday season? What are the traditions things like that!

We have Thanksgiving dinner/Christmas Dinner and Christmas Eve Dinner at my parents house and all my family comes. We have tons of traditions ... more
My family does not spend the holidays with us. Even so, we go all out and have large spreads, a huge tree, parties and what not. You'd think our family was there from the looks of it.
11/16/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Have a few friends and family over for dinner and conversation. We usually put the tree up.
11/16/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
For Thanksgiving I'm driving halfway across the country to spend it with my sister and my grandmother. And for Christmas, I'll be drinking at my aunt's to avoid fending off wedding questions since I'll be getting married a week later, lol
11/16/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
We used to run around a lot. Both families (his mother refuses to have parties, so she used to want us to just come over to their house and do nothing all day, while my family was having big parties, they started going to FLA in the fall and not bothering with Christmas. It sucks for my husband. Now, with my FIL dead, my MIL goes to FLA and refuses to fly home for Christmas. She's a PITA.)

We decided between my family broken up (so many silly fights and grudges that it is impossible to see them) we have Christmas here, but my brother's wife has to have every holiday with her own Mother so I don't see him until the day after Christmas now. She hasn't learned that you have to make some sacrifices when you get married. In all the years I've known her (my brother used to bring his kids to our house for Christmas without her, because even though I'd invite her mother, she had to have HER children all at her house for everything) she has NEVER been to my house. She always has to be with Mommy. (She's a grown woman. It's ridiculous.)

So, my brother ends up having Thanksgiving, and then if he wants to see the rest of the family, he has a party the day after Christmas. We have Christmas at our house, and it used to be a huge celebration. But, my dad is BiPolar and gets weird and paranoid and makes up some illness almost every year and stays home while his wife comes to our house. My Man gets so angry, he has threatened to not host Christmas anymore. Where will that leave our children?

We have New Years Eve at our house with friends. But, my best friend's husband is dying of cancer, so I have no idea if we'll be able to see them, either.

On top of that My Man is going on about "don't spend a lot of money this year." Basically, he has virtually no one to buy for except the kids and I, all he does is send his mother a bouquet, because all she does is send a check made out to HIM, without my name on it anywhere which is supposed to be "our" Christmas present. And his family is crazier than mine so there's no one for him to buy for there. So, most of the presents are for people in my family. And most of "our" friends are my friends. He COULD see some of his family, but....I don't want to get into it. He usually thinks of it late on Christmas Eve, after he's been drinking and heaven knows, what everyone wants to hear from it's a drunken relative you haven't heard from in a year!

The holidays are going to SUCK this year.

Sorry for the bummer.
11/17/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by P'Gell
We used to run around a lot. Both families (his mother refuses to have parties, so she used to want us to just come over to their house and do nothing all day, while my family was having big parties, they started going to FLA in the fall and not ... more
That sounds extremely stressful, and sorry you're having to go through all that at this time of year
11/17/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Luckily both my family and his family live near each other so we can usually do both on the same day. We prefer to do Thanksgiving on two different days though since it involves so much food, but unfortunately this year the kids' school was closed earlier in the year for a few days and so now they have to go to school the day before Thanksgiving. This means that we can't do Thanksgiving with my parents that day, and have to double up..doing them both on Thanksgiving day. We'll do a lunch at my MIL's house at 1pm and then for dinner we're going to go to a restaurant with my parents since my dad is the one who cooks and he has to work overnight the night before and the night after Thanksgiving, so it's just easier for him to not have to cook.

Christmas I don't know what we're doing on my husband's side, since his family is actually Jewish though they do celebrate Christmas a Secular Holiday. We're not religious at all so it doesn't really matter to us when anything is celebrated. I'm trying to get my parents to come over our house on Christmas and I'll do a little buffet of Hors D'oeuvres and desserts for everyone. It'd just be easier for us to be able to have the kids here on Christmas rather than go to my parents as we normally do so that they can play with their new toys and not have to leave everything.
11/17/2010
Contributor: mysecretcollection mysecretcollection
We are doing a "drive across the US" with our kids for Hanukkah which will land us in Michigan sometime near the end. We want to show our kids a new exciting place every day.

Who says Hanukkah can't be fun?
11/18/2010
Contributor: dv8 dv8
Next week, early-morning Black Friday shopping!
11/20/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
In a few days, I finally get to go home from Thanksgiving break, and then unfortunately, I have to go back to school.
11/20/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
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Originally posted by mysecretcollection
We are doing a "drive across the US" with our kids for Hanukkah which will land us in Michigan sometime near the end. We want to show our kids a new exciting place every day.

Who says Hanukkah can't be fun?
That sounds incredibly awesome! I'm jealous!
11/22/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Hey, free "feel up" with every air plane ride!

My mother calls me yesterday, just as we're coming in from seeing Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Part I it was an exhausting movie. Too tiring to have to talk to my mother after just walking in the door. Anyway, I talked to my brother last Thursday or Friday, and he let me know what time Thanksgiving is etc. She starts in with, "Your brother doesn't even know if you are going to be at his house on Thanksgiving. You better call him." Then she starts with the fact that she "had to" tell my GROWN daughter where the holiday parties are. I'm sorry. I'm not the Event Secretary for the ENTIRE FUCKING FAMILY! My daughter is a grown woman, she can call and find out where the holidays are, or let people know she has lived on her own for 2 years so they can contact her. WHY is it MY job to have to inform a grown woman where parties are, when she doesn't even live with me? Shouldn't the frickin' relatives keep the fuck up? They expect me to know all the minutia of their lives. Of course, some of them still think "P'Gell is a vegetarian, right? Should I make something with cheese for her?" When I stopped being a vegetarian during my first pregnancy (see GROWN daughter) and became allergic to dairy at the same time. KEEP THE FUCK UP FAMILY!

Also, my brother knows I'm coming to Thanksgiving. It isn't my fault my mother has a memory like a sieve and makes shit up also.

WOW, I LOVE the Holidays. (HEAVY SARCASM.)
11/22/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Then my cousin whose turn it is to have "Christmas" this year, on my Mom's side, thinks it's such an imposition that he decided to have "Christmas" for our family, NEXT SATURDAY! Two days after Thanksgiving. Thanks for giving a shit about the rest of us, because hosting the Holiday for the entire family once every nine fucking years is "too much" for you and your wife. Do what we do (when it's our turn EVERY NINE YEARS) and rent a hall, so you don't have to freak out about having 100 people in your house.

Don't ruin MY Christmas by having it two days after Thanksgiving. I have no natural siblings (my brother is a step brother and used to come to our house on Christmas, but his wife can't leave her Mommy for a single moment, so every holiday has to be with her, so I don't see him, or my niece and nephews on Christmas anymore.

So, as per usual. My Christmas will probably suck. If we spent more time with just My Man and our kids that morning, it would be cool, but he's so weirded out by having "people" (meaning my Mom, my Dad and my step mom) over that he gets "in gear" while we're still opening presents.

OMG, I HATE IT SO MUCH!
11/22/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Hey, free "feel up" with every air plane ride!

My mother calls me yesterday, just as we're coming in from seeing Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Part I it was an exhausting movie. Too tiring to have to talk to my mother ... more
My 4 day weekend of nada is starting to look pretty good, isn't it?
11/22/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
My 4 day weekend of nada is starting to look pretty good, isn't it?
YES!!!!

One of these years, I want to go to, like a "Destination Holiday." Just get on a plane (and either get irradiated or sexually molested by the FAA) and go away for the Holidays.

Or, just be with My Man and our kids, and maybe a few friends.

But, this year (P'Gell continues to bitch, because that's what she does) So, my "Christmas" with people I actually ENJOY being around is My Mom's side's party....which is two days after Thanksgiving this year. AND, I do "Buy Nothing Day" on Black Friday, so I have to buy all the presents in the middle of NOVEMBER for our "Christmas" Party. How fucked up is that?

Also, My Man takes Thanksgiving week off. Are we doing something fun? No freaking way. He started scraping the ceiling in our living room this morning, no drop cloths, no moving shit, just put the couch in the middle of the room and decided "We need to paint the ceiling, it is chipping. We may as well do the entire room." OMG......why me?

(Bitch bitch, grumble grumble. I think I am supposed to be "helping him" which requires me to BE THERE but not actually DO anything, because I "do it wrong" so I am only online because he went to the hardware store, again. (I went this morning for drop cloths. He couldn't have had me get what we needed then? Is gas suddenly 0.99 a gallon all of a sudden, that we can go to the freaking hardware store 1000000000000 times in one day?)

AUGHGHGHGGHGHGHHGGHHGG GGG!!!!!!!!!!!
11/22/2010
Contributor: Anne Ardeur Anne Ardeur
We had Thanksgiving at my in-laws, and we'll be going there again Christmas day. Or rather, I'll be going, since the husband is working. My family is all on the other side of the pond, so fortunately there's no running back and forth from a half-dozen different places.
11/22/2010