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Contributor: .kaycat .kaycat
For me my biggest insecurity and thing I hated about myself was my face, especially my nose. I am Asian. Most Asians have flatter plain faces, unlike an American face with a beautiful nose bridge.
I don't have a nose bridge, just a little nose. I have been called a pug, and a parakeet. For me it killed my insides to hear that, since I hated my face shape and nose before anyone else.I remember saving up change in a jar on top of my closet that read "New Nose".
My Boyfriend of 5 years always told me I was beautiful and Asian women are beautiful, but it never stuck with me. I tried to tell myself you're decent looking. But it wasn't until I started to love myself that I found beauty in my insecurities, or at least my nose. It used to hurt me a lot, or I would be constantly focused on my nose, running my finger along it to the tip, but now that I've learned to be comfortable with myself and confident other people just see that. Might have been silly, but if it hurts you it's the world. What insult or negative comment have you learned to get over?
05/24/2013
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Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by .kaycat
For me my biggest insecurity and thing I hated about myself was my face, especially my nose. I am Asian. Most Asians have flatter plain faces, unlike an American face with a beautiful nose bridge.
I don't have a nose bridge, just a little ... more
I'm the big girl in my family. I have heard everything from "You have pregnant thighs," to "If you walked, do you think you'd lose some weight?" Also, I have a slight gap in my two front top teeth, and as a child, I heard a lot on it.
05/25/2013
Contributor: eri86 eri86
I'm a Caucasian American, but I grew up in Japan.

Japanese woman are beautiful! And Japanese men are handsome!
05/25/2013
Contributor: .kaycat .kaycat
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Originally posted by eri86
I'm a Caucasian American, but I grew up in Japan.

Japanese woman are beautiful! And Japanese men are handsome!
They are! I'm Vietnamese
05/25/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
Being smart in school was a nightmare for me with other students for many years. I was in advanced classes and was teased. I figured out in high school that the dollar amount of my scholarships was well worth the comments....and that is also when I quit caring about what others thought of me.
05/25/2013
Contributor: LoveX LoveX
That I don't deserve my kids, I'm a bad mom, and things of that nature. I've figured out that's just the lowest dig people can find on me. It's the only thing that hurt, because it's one of the biggest things I strive for every day (to be a great mom).

I got over it, I know better, my kiddos love me and are treated great.
05/25/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
That I wasn't helping at all to a task at work I alone put my heart and entire soul into. No one else wanted to deal with it so I volunteered and was highly criticized for the way I handled it. I will never volunteer again as a result.
05/25/2013
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
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Originally posted by .kaycat
They are! I'm Vietnamese
I've heard this SOOOOOOOO often while I've been here. I have a nose. It sits on my face. Do I like my nose? Of course! It suits it's function. Do I think it's pretty? Never really thought about it. My students and random people I meet here on the streets talk about how much they love my nose, my eyes, my lips, my skin, my hair and go on and on and on. Then they sit there and talk about all their "flaws" which in my opinion are just silly.

And their flaws are these:
A size zero girl being told she is fat and must loose weight so she then begins to beleive she is fat
A girl with a square jaw line (think Bones)
A girl who is short
Not having big enough eyes
Girls who think they are stupid and dumb because they take a little longer to learn something

Oh yeah. These are some of the things I have to hear on a daily basis.

For me, I am constantly told I am fat. To which I usually chuckle at the person who says it and reply with a witty come back, "thanks", "Really? I had no idea!", "Thanks for letting me know, I forgot!" or if I am really in a sassy mood, "that I am! And dang proud of it!", or feel myself up a little and say, "your husband seems to enjoy the way I look", which usually makes her angry as it's true. Men check out my breasts and ass on a frequent basis.

I love my body even with it's imperfections. It's mine. It is basically the only thing that I can really say is mine 100%. I am one of the very rare people who are truly comfortable in my skin with who I am. It doesn't really bother me.
05/25/2013
Contributor: TJax TJax
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Originally posted by js250
Being smart in school was a nightmare for me with other students for many years. I was in advanced classes and was teased. I figured out in high school that the dollar amount of my scholarships was well worth the comments....and that is also when I ... more
I was also picked on for being smart / nerdy. I'm one of the few that made it out of the city though, so whatever, they can have that Podunk inbred cesspool if they want it
05/26/2013
Contributor: LadyRelentless LadyRelentless
"bitch"


Yep. I got opinions, and I say them. Sure, bitch, whatever.
05/26/2013
Contributor: SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I don't think I could ever get over insults. I pretend not to care, but it gets me every time.
05/26/2013