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What one thing do you wish you'd been told as a teenager?

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Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Almost everyone has thought, "If I only knew then, what I know now..."

What weren't you told as a teen, that you really wish you had been?

How would hearing that have made a difference in your life?
04/06/2013
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Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I guess it's not what I wasn't told, it was what I didn't believe.

I thought I was so fat when I was a teen. I was 5'9" and weighed 165lbs. I wasn't skinny, but I was healthy and my body was nice. Now, three kids later, I wish I could go back and realize that I looked a lot better than I thought and felt at the time. It really damaged my self esteem and if I had believed that, I would have treated myself better.
04/06/2013
Contributor: Chelynn67 Chelynn67
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Almost everyone has thought, "If I only knew then, what I know now..."

What weren't you told as a teen, that you really wish you had been?

How would hearing that have made a difference in your life?
It doesn't get easier
04/06/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I guess it's not what I wasn't told, it was what I didn't believe.

I thought I was so fat when I was a teen. I was 5'9" and weighed 165lbs. I wasn't skinny, but I was healthy and my body was nice. Now, three kids ... more
I couldn't agree more!!! What a shame!
04/06/2013
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
That sexual thoughts aren't immoral.
04/07/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
You're going to college!

I didn't go to college until I was a married adult and it set back and changed my career path. I don't have major regrets that my parents didn't discuss, inform or push college, I might not have met my wife, but an education is important and I'm frustrated that my parents allowed me to slide through high school without any ideas about furthering my education. I look back on my childhood now and see how sheltered I was and its made me approach parenting totally different. My kids hadn't started Pre-school yet and we were discussing college with them.
04/07/2013
Contributor: Virgingasms Virgingasms
Listen to everyone except your parents.
04/07/2013
Contributor: ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
Good answers! I identify with PropertyOfPotter's and Martiniman's answers.

I AM glad I was told from an early age how not to get pregnant.
04/07/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Martiniman
You're going to college!

I didn't go to college until I was a married adult and it set back and changed my career path. I don't have major regrets that my parents didn't discuss, inform or push college, I might not have met my ... more
Good for you for having gone anyway, even though it was probably more of a disruption to your life than if you'd gone when everyone else did. You're smart to be considering college even though your children are young; you need to start saving that early, *groan*, to be ready when they are.
04/07/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by GONE!
That sexual thoughts aren't immoral.
What a horrible burden to place on a child! Those things can be so difficult to shake.
04/07/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
My parents told me that grades didn't matter in college. News flash, Mom & Dad: they DEFINITELY DO matter if you want to go to grad school!

Ah, who am I kidding? I'm sure I still would've partied my ass off.
04/07/2013
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
"You're not obligated to be the way your parents want you to be."

Then maybe I wouldn't have been a closet atheist for six years....
04/07/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by WhoopieDoo
"You're not obligated to be the way your parents want you to be."

Then maybe I wouldn't have been a closet atheist for six years....
I think many people wished they'd been told this & believed it, too! I'm glad to see you weigh in on this, because I always find your comments insightful, (or damned witty).

With the damage even well meaning parents can cause, I shudder to think what the abusive ones do. I can't help but think of what Woman China reminded me of -- the problems in Chinese society where the belief is ingrained in children that they owe their very existence to their parents & ancestors.They are nothing if not obligated to follow their parents' wishes.
04/08/2013
Contributor: rosythorn rosythorn
Stop working so hard! You will be fine.

I almost worked myself to death, with a semi full time job, school, after school activites.
04/08/2013
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
Quote:
Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
I think many people wished they'd been told this & believed it, too! I'm glad to see you weigh in on this, because I always find your comments insightful, (or damned witty).

With the damage even well meaning parents can cause, I ... more
Your first paragraph delights and flatters me ^_^.....your second is quite sobering. I can't even imagine being raised that way. I was never even explicitly told that I had to be like my parents, but I definitely felt they would blame themselves if I left the church (luckily I didn't attend a church where the congregation was so appalling so as to drive me away - it was just the religion itself).
04/08/2013
Contributor: quackbuster quackbuster
I wish someone had told me that acne doesn't magically go away when you're out of high school. I kept thinking "oh, my face will be nice & pretty someday!" & now I'm 23 & it's most definitely not.
04/08/2013
Contributor: Eugler Eugler
Quote:
Originally posted by GONE!
That sexual thoughts aren't immoral.
Yes, that would have changed my life a lot.

To the better I guess.
04/09/2013