No, I don't believe it's wrong, but I still wouldn't do it. By having sex, I've accepted the possibility that the consequences might include a child, and I would feel obligated to accept that consequence if it were to occur.
Would/have you ever? Abortion. Private poll.
01/24/2013
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i never said it was cupcakes, but werent you scared of what your child would go thru during the 'procedure'. This is the probelm. women need counceling of all their options. abortion does not solve teh problem it just bandaides the situation.
Originally posted by
VioletMoonstone
It's my body and I chose not to go through with pregnancy and birth. It's difficult to explain to someone else. I was deathly afraid of what it would do to my body and I was extremely depressed to a dangerous state of mind. I wanted my
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It's my body and I chose not to go through with pregnancy and birth. It's difficult to explain to someone else. I was deathly afraid of what it would do to my body and I was extremely depressed to a dangerous state of mind. I wanted my body back. I felt like I had lost all control over my body and my life. I felt like my life was over. I felt that I was going to lose my mind and end up losing the love of my life and my mom in the process. I was scared to death of getting larger and larger, stretching out my insides, and all the blood, gore, and pain involved. Also I had some health risks both physically and mentally. I chose not to go through with it and I don't regret it at all. Pregnancy isn't all cupcakes and rainbows.
There's so many children that need to be adopted at this very moment. I chose not to add to that number when there's already so many in need as it is. When people say, "just put it up for adoption" I wonder if they've ever adopted a child and if not how can they make such a personal suggestion for me? less
There's so many children that need to be adopted at this very moment. I chose not to add to that number when there's already so many in need as it is. When people say, "just put it up for adoption" I wonder if they've ever adopted a child and if not how can they make such a personal suggestion for me? less
So because there are children needing to be adopted we should kill off the new?
and by the way, yes i am in the process of adopting.
01/24/2013
I am very Pro-life. but I would never judge any woman for recieving an abortion just because I don't know what her story is. far as i know she could be a victim of rape. but in the event that me and my lover got pregnant, id be eccstatic
01/24/2013
I haven't and probably won't unless the baby is through rape or would be brought into the world into an unsafe environment. Sadly, I wouldn't have much help from my family in this type of situation but I would look into adoption before abortion. I respect a woman's right to choose but I don't think I could go through with it.
01/24/2013
I think of it very pragmatically, I have an IUD so I don't really think I'd be in any danger of becoming pregnant unexpectedly. Even if I did get pregnant at this point in time i would probably keep the baby. I have talked with my 15 year old sister and told her I would rather buy her condoms if she were ready to be sexually active than have her become pregnant. But if she for some reason did get pregnant I would take her to get an abortion if she wanted that, rather than have to fight with raising a child on her own, I want her to go through school and enjoy her youth, not waste it on an unwanted pregnancy.
01/25/2013
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Agreed, I never understood baring faulty condoms/birth control method how unplanned pregnancies happen? All it takes in some cases is one time and boom, your in baby city. If your dating a guy who doesn't like condoms (been there) then either "no glove no love" or if your mutually exclusive the pill. I didn't want to ever put myself in the position of getting pregnant unexpectedly so I am obsessive with my birth control as well.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
Choice - What a Beautiful Right
At any rate, I've never had to face such a decision. I've either been in a celibate marriage or on the Pill when active, so I'd prefer to not have to get to such a point. I am not Mother material, ... more
At any rate, I've never had to face such a decision. I've either been in a celibate marriage or on the Pill when active, so I'd prefer to not have to get to such a point. I am not Mother material, ... more
Choice - What a Beautiful Right
At any rate, I've never had to face such a decision. I've either been in a celibate marriage or on the Pill when active, so I'd prefer to not have to get to such a point. I am not Mother material, and I think it's best that I simply 'prevent' so I won't have to 'correct'. Worse comes to worse, I can look up some oral remedies.
I take my sexuality very seriously in matters of reproduction, and I refuse to be caught flat-footed when there's prevention available. less
At any rate, I've never had to face such a decision. I've either been in a celibate marriage or on the Pill when active, so I'd prefer to not have to get to such a point. I am not Mother material, and I think it's best that I simply 'prevent' so I won't have to 'correct'. Worse comes to worse, I can look up some oral remedies.
I take my sexuality very seriously in matters of reproduction, and I refuse to be caught flat-footed when there's prevention available. less
01/25/2013
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good choice
Originally posted by
peachmarie
Agreed, I never understood baring faulty condoms/birth control method how unplanned pregnancies happen? All it takes in some cases is one time and boom, your in baby city. If your dating a guy who doesn't like condoms (been there) then either
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Agreed, I never understood baring faulty condoms/birth control method how unplanned pregnancies happen? All it takes in some cases is one time and boom, your in baby city. If your dating a guy who doesn't like condoms (been there) then either "no glove no love" or if your mutually exclusive the pill. I didn't want to ever put myself in the position of getting pregnant unexpectedly so I am obsessive with my birth control as well.
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01/25/2013
I have had an abortion and a miscarriage. I don't regret it either. I don't want to be a parent to a product of rape or a parent at all for that matter. I have too many health problems that would get passed along.
01/25/2013
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Of course I was afraid if the fetus was going to feel pain. I took every precaution necessary in order for the fetus to pass away without feeling any pain. It was an unwanted pregnany so I wasn't emotionally attached to it in the first place. Of course I feel bad that it happened but I had to make a choice and I did. I'd rather go through an abortion than to give birth. I do everything possible to prevent pregnancy and I'm very responsible but if it ever happened again I'd get another abortion. I don't want to physically go through 9 months of pregnancy and then give birth. I don't want children. Ever.
Originally posted by
captainsgirl
i never said it was cupcakes, but werent you scared of what your child would go thru during the 'procedure'. This is the probelm. women need counceling of all their options. abortion does not solve teh problem it just bandaides the situation.
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i never said it was cupcakes, but werent you scared of what your child would go thru during the 'procedure'. This is the probelm. women need counceling of all their options. abortion does not solve teh problem it just bandaides the situation.
So because there are children needing to be adopted we should kill off the new?
and by the way, yes i am in the process of adopting. less
So because there are children needing to be adopted we should kill off the new?
and by the way, yes i am in the process of adopting. less
The options I had were made very clear to me. I was told what my options were in great detail. I still chose abortion.
I think it's a beautiful thing that you're choosing to adopt. You're a very kind person. All I have is respect for you.
01/25/2013
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WEll Im glad all your choices were given to you. Thank you for being kind. have you ever thought about getting your tubes tied.
Originally posted by
VioletMoonstone
Of course I was afraid if the fetus was going to feel pain. I took every precaution necessary in order for the fetus to pass away without feeling any pain. It was an unwanted pregnany so I wasn't emotionally attached to it in the first place.
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Of course I was afraid if the fetus was going to feel pain. I took every precaution necessary in order for the fetus to pass away without feeling any pain. It was an unwanted pregnany so I wasn't emotionally attached to it in the first place. Of course I feel bad that it happened but I had to make a choice and I did. I'd rather go through an abortion than to give birth. I do everything possible to prevent pregnancy and I'm very responsible but if it ever happened again I'd get another abortion. I don't want to physically go through 9 months of pregnancy and then give birth. I don't want children. Ever.
The options I had were made very clear to me. I was told what my options were in great detail. I still chose abortion.
I think it's a beautiful thing that you're choosing to adopt. You're a very kind person. All I have is respect for you. less
The options I had were made very clear to me. I was told what my options were in great detail. I still chose abortion.
I think it's a beautiful thing that you're choosing to adopt. You're a very kind person. All I have is respect for you. less
01/25/2013
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Most childless women under the age of 35 or so will be turned down for a tubal ligation by most doctors. (I'm a nurse and have worked in Infant Maternal Care for years.) Sadly, too many doctors think "You'll change your mind." although few women who truly do NOT want children ever do.
Originally posted by
captainsgirl
WEll Im glad all your choices were given to you. Thank you for being kind. have you ever thought about getting your tubes tied.
A friend of my husband's, a man in his early 50s was turned down for a vasectomy because he "only" had one child. The doctor thought he "might want more later." It took him a year to find someone to perform the procedure. I know many many younger women who have never found anyone to do a Tubal for them. It isn't just a procedure that most woman can walk into an OB/GYN's office and simply request. You have to have a bunch of kids, or have serious health problems, or both.
Most women who attempt to obtain Tubal Ligation in their 20s or 30s, especially if they are childless will be turned down by one hospital and doctor after an other.
01/25/2013
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Tubal ligation is a very invasive procedure with plenty of risks. Minor complications include infection and wound separation. Major complications include heavy blood loss, general anesthesia problems, organ injury during surgery, and need for a larger laparotomy incision during surgery. Although fewer complications occur with laparoscopy than with other kinds of tubal ligation surgery, these complications can be more serious. For example, in rare cases, the bowel or bladder is injured when the laparoscope is inserted.
Originally posted by
captainsgirl
WEll Im glad all your choices were given to you. Thank you for being kind. have you ever thought about getting your tubes tied.
Also, and estimated 5 out of 1,000 women (some medical sites even suggest 1 out of 100) get pregnant in the first year after having the surgery done. So not even this is 100% perfect. And when these women get pregnant, they have an incredibly high risk of it being an ectopic pregnancy, which can kill them.
I don't think we, as a culture, should be so cavalier about putting women under the knife just because we think she'd be more moral doing this. I think condoms, birth control hormones, and vasectomy are all better options with fewer, if any, risks.
01/25/2013
Never had one, but I think I would.
01/25/2013
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i never said it was 100%...do you know that the risks of having an abortion with coomplications is higher than a tubal. i am not undereducated on this subject. i have been an avid pro life advocate for 15 years now. i suggested teh tubal b/c i was not sure of her age.
Originally posted by
Darling Jen
Tubal ligation is a very invasive procedure with plenty of risks. Minor complications include infection and wound separation. Major complications include heavy blood loss, general anesthesia problems, organ injury during surgery, and need for a
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Tubal ligation is a very invasive procedure with plenty of risks. Minor complications include infection and wound separation. Major complications include heavy blood loss, general anesthesia problems, organ injury during surgery, and need for a larger laparotomy incision during surgery. Although fewer complications occur with laparoscopy than with other kinds of tubal ligation surgery, these complications can be more serious. For example, in rare cases, the bowel or bladder is injured when the laparoscope is inserted.
Also, and estimated 5 out of 1,000 women (some medical sites even suggest 1 out of 100) get pregnant in the first year after having the surgery done. So not even this is 100% perfect. And when these women get pregnant, they have an incredibly high risk of it being an ectopic pregnancy, which can kill them.
I don't think we, as a culture, should be so cavalier about putting women under the knife just because we think she'd be more moral doing this. I think condoms, birth control hormones, and vasectomy are all better options with fewer, if any, risks. less
Also, and estimated 5 out of 1,000 women (some medical sites even suggest 1 out of 100) get pregnant in the first year after having the surgery done. So not even this is 100% perfect. And when these women get pregnant, they have an incredibly high risk of it being an ectopic pregnancy, which can kill them.
I don't think we, as a culture, should be so cavalier about putting women under the knife just because we think she'd be more moral doing this. I think condoms, birth control hormones, and vasectomy are all better options with fewer, if any, risks. less
01/25/2013
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Absolutely. I just can't afford it right now. I really want to though. It's just not an option at this moment in time.
Originally posted by
captainsgirl
WEll Im glad all your choices were given to you. Thank you for being kind. have you ever thought about getting your tubes tied.
01/25/2013
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Yeah, I've heard this before so I assume it's pretty much not an option right now. =[ If I had the funds and found sa doctor that would do it I'd gladly do it. It's just not gonna happen.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
Most childless women under the age of 35 or so will be turned down for a tubal ligation by most doctors. (I'm a nurse and have worked in Infant Maternal Care for years.) Sadly, too many doctors think "You'll change your mind."
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Most childless women under the age of 35 or so will be turned down for a tubal ligation by most doctors. (I'm a nurse and have worked in Infant Maternal Care for years.) Sadly, too many doctors think "You'll change your mind." although few women who truly do NOT want children ever do.
A friend of my husband's, a man in his early 50s was turned down for a vasectomy because he "only" had one child. The doctor thought he "might want more later." It took him a year to find someone to perform the procedure. I know many many younger women who have never found anyone to do a Tubal for them. It isn't just a procedure that most woman can walk into an OB/GYN's office and simply request. You have to have a bunch of kids, or have serious health problems, or both.
Most women who attempt to obtain Tubal Ligation in their 20s or 30s, especially if they are childless will be turned down by one hospital and doctor after an other. less
A friend of my husband's, a man in his early 50s was turned down for a vasectomy because he "only" had one child. The doctor thought he "might want more later." It took him a year to find someone to perform the procedure. I know many many younger women who have never found anyone to do a Tubal for them. It isn't just a procedure that most woman can walk into an OB/GYN's office and simply request. You have to have a bunch of kids, or have serious health problems, or both.
Most women who attempt to obtain Tubal Ligation in their 20s or 30s, especially if they are childless will be turned down by one hospital and doctor after an other. less
01/25/2013
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I would rather my boyfriend get a vasectomy and I'm sure it'll happen someday. We're both still young in our 20's so I doubt anyone would take us seriously. I really hope that he chooses to do that someday but I can't make that decision for him.
Originally posted by
Darling Jen
Tubal ligation is a very invasive procedure with plenty of risks. Minor complications include infection and wound separation. Major complications include heavy blood loss, general anesthesia problems, organ injury during surgery, and need for a
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Tubal ligation is a very invasive procedure with plenty of risks. Minor complications include infection and wound separation. Major complications include heavy blood loss, general anesthesia problems, organ injury during surgery, and need for a larger laparotomy incision during surgery. Although fewer complications occur with laparoscopy than with other kinds of tubal ligation surgery, these complications can be more serious. For example, in rare cases, the bowel or bladder is injured when the laparoscope is inserted.
Also, and estimated 5 out of 1,000 women (some medical sites even suggest 1 out of 100) get pregnant in the first year after having the surgery done. So not even this is 100% perfect. And when these women get pregnant, they have an incredibly high risk of it being an ectopic pregnancy, which can kill them.
I don't think we, as a culture, should be so cavalier about putting women under the knife just because we think she'd be more moral doing this. I think condoms, birth control hormones, and vasectomy are all better options with fewer, if any, risks. less
Also, and estimated 5 out of 1,000 women (some medical sites even suggest 1 out of 100) get pregnant in the first year after having the surgery done. So not even this is 100% perfect. And when these women get pregnant, they have an incredibly high risk of it being an ectopic pregnancy, which can kill them.
I don't think we, as a culture, should be so cavalier about putting women under the knife just because we think she'd be more moral doing this. I think condoms, birth control hormones, and vasectomy are all better options with fewer, if any, risks. less
01/25/2013
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Did you know that abortion is 14 times safer than childbirth? I'd be interested to know where you got your statistics.
Originally posted by
captainsgirl
i never said it was 100%...do you know that the risks of having an abortion with coomplications is higher than a tubal. i am not undereducated on this subject. i have been an avid pro life advocate for 15 years now. i suggested teh tubal b/c i was
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i never said it was 100%...do you know that the risks of having an abortion with coomplications is higher than a tubal. i am not undereducated on this subject. i have been an avid pro life advocate for 15 years now. i suggested teh tubal b/c i was not sure of her age.
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01/25/2013
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There are definitely risks with abortion too. Just as there are risks with childbirth, taking antibiotics, sharing food with someone, or walking outside at night. What I'm saying is that sometimes the risks far outweigh the benefits when it 1. puts your life on the line and 2. doesn't even fully protect you from what you're trying to prevent.
Originally posted by
captainsgirl
i never said it was 100%...do you know that the risks of having an abortion with coomplications is higher than a tubal. i am not undereducated on this subject. i have been an avid pro life advocate for 15 years now. i suggested teh tubal b/c i was
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i never said it was 100%...do you know that the risks of having an abortion with coomplications is higher than a tubal. i am not undereducated on this subject. i have been an avid pro life advocate for 15 years now. i suggested teh tubal b/c i was not sure of her age.
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If a women used contraception AND had a tubal ligation but still got pregnant, people would still hold it against her for then taking the only step left to protect her right to choice. Everything else failed her that she could possibly do and she doesn't want to lose the right to make choices to her body. A woman who has an abortion is not evil. She's at her last resort. It's a hard choice and comes with physical and emotional risks. No one actively wants to have this procedure. But some need it.
01/27/2013
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never have had one wouldnt knock anyone who has everyone has their own situation
Originally posted by
Morganna
Have you ever had or would you ever get an abortion?
01/27/2013
no i would never have one
01/27/2013
I have never had one, and I don't know if I ever will. Personally I take a politically pro-choice but morally neutral stance on it. I will never be able to understand each individual's situation, so it's not up to me to judge whether they are making the right or wrong decision regarding their pregnancy. Whatever the choice of someone in their specific situation is, it needs to be respected, and it needs to be safe.
01/29/2013
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this! Thank you Jen!
Originally posted by
Darling Jen
Tubal ligation is a very invasive procedure with plenty of risks. Minor complications include infection and wound separation. Major complications include heavy blood loss, general anesthesia problems, organ injury during surgery, and need for a
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more
Tubal ligation is a very invasive procedure with plenty of risks. Minor complications include infection and wound separation. Major complications include heavy blood loss, general anesthesia problems, organ injury during surgery, and need for a larger laparotomy incision during surgery. Although fewer complications occur with laparoscopy than with other kinds of tubal ligation surgery, these complications can be more serious. For example, in rare cases, the bowel or bladder is injured when the laparoscope is inserted.
Also, and estimated 5 out of 1,000 women (some medical sites even suggest 1 out of 100) get pregnant in the first year after having the surgery done. So not even this is 100% perfect. And when these women get pregnant, they have an incredibly high risk of it being an ectopic pregnancy, which can kill them.
I don't think we, as a culture, should be so cavalier about putting women under the knife just because we think she'd be more moral doing this. I think condoms, birth control hormones, and vasectomy are all better options with fewer, if any, risks. less
Also, and estimated 5 out of 1,000 women (some medical sites even suggest 1 out of 100) get pregnant in the first year after having the surgery done. So not even this is 100% perfect. And when these women get pregnant, they have an incredibly high risk of it being an ectopic pregnancy, which can kill them.
I don't think we, as a culture, should be so cavalier about putting women under the knife just because we think she'd be more moral doing this. I think condoms, birth control hormones, and vasectomy are all better options with fewer, if any, risks. less
02/18/2013
Nope, I don't think I would. I think it's really sad to have one. But then again, I couldn't imagine how extremely over populated the earth would be if women did have abortions.. I just don't think I'd have one.
02/19/2013
I would absolutely consider having one.
I might be too dysphoric to have a baby, and know I definitely would not be able to afford to have one. I can barely afford to feed/clothe/etc myself. There's no way I'd be able to afford someone else as well. Also, my family would disown me and I'd lose even further financial resources
I might be too dysphoric to have a baby, and know I definitely would not be able to afford to have one. I can barely afford to feed/clothe/etc myself. There's no way I'd be able to afford someone else as well. Also, my family would disown me and I'd lose even further financial resources
02/19/2013
I have never been pregnant or had an abortion. However, if I were to have an unplanned pregnancy, there is no doubt in my mind that I would have an abortion.
02/21/2013
it depends on the situation. what I'd do.
02/25/2013
I've never had one and I hope I don't ever have to but I firmly believe that the option should be open for anyone who needs one.
02/25/2013
First of all, I'm not gonna say people are wrong for getting abortions. It's a personal choice and everybody has their reasons. I know a few women who are close to me who have had an abortion and I supported whatever decision they made. I am not here to judge anybody. None of us have the right to judge others for the decisions they make. Simply because whether you would have an abortion or not, we all make bad choices. We all have done something bad or horrible at some point. May not have been as bad, to you, but still we all have regrets. We are only human. A couple of years ago I would say "yes, I would have an abortion". But I have changed along with my beliefs. Now, I believe everything happens for a reason. If god ever blesses me with a pregnancy, at any point regardless of the circumstances, I'll know that this child is meant to be in my life and I will gladly accept the gift. And if it's not meant to be, then it simply won't happen, on it's own terms. All I will do is sit back and let nature take its course. Of course if I don't want to have a baby then I will take care of myself as much as I can, but sometimes it's simply not enough. Those are just my beliefs. Everyone has different opinions.
02/25/2013
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I really respect that. There are a lot of women who would not be good role models and are simply not fit to be a parent but go on and have children anyway and just end up mistreating them and neglecting them. And no child should ever have to pay for their parents' mistakes, irresponsibility, and selfishness. There should be more responsible women like yourself in this world. That is a very respectable trait and decision.
Originally posted by
PussyGalore
I do not regret my decision to terminate my pregnancies. 2 AM diaper changes and feedings, teething, colic and exploding diapers is my very worst nightmare. Even though that is the smallest part of parenting and it only lasts for a couple of years,
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I do not regret my decision to terminate my pregnancies. 2 AM diaper changes and feedings, teething, colic and exploding diapers is my very worst nightmare. Even though that is the smallest part of parenting and it only lasts for a couple of years, overall I think I am quite the terrible role model. I know this about myself and feel no child should be subjected to the way I feel about the world.
Though, I suppose there is some underlying current of guilt in there somewhere. As soon as my best girlfriends became pregnant I essentially dropped off the face of the earth and only reconnected with one of them after she moved several states away. I'm not a babysitter and I have a very very hard time communicating with children. I've found I am constantly correcting behavior instead of letting them be footloose and fancy-free.
So...yeah. Audra = bad parenting potential. less
Though, I suppose there is some underlying current of guilt in there somewhere. As soon as my best girlfriends became pregnant I essentially dropped off the face of the earth and only reconnected with one of them after she moved several states away. I'm not a babysitter and I have a very very hard time communicating with children. I've found I am constantly correcting behavior instead of letting them be footloose and fancy-free.
So...yeah. Audra = bad parenting potential. less
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