Would/have you ever? Abortion. Private poll.

Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by SexyTabby
But that's a medical reason not totally a personal choice. It may be the risk was high for her or something. Still, I was told the same thing with my first son and didn't care. I had been through too much to finally have a baby - I would ... more
It was not a medical reason, it was a choice. If the baby can be carried to term without hazard to the physical life of the mother or the baby (i.e., if the doctor says "If you go through with this pregnancy you or your baby will die.") then you're making the choice to terminate.

(I hate to be so black and white there but I'm trying to say it without emotion because the situation made a big impact on me and I was very angry about it because it was so late in the term and because her husband said to her, "If he can't be normal, I don't want him." So, it was definitely a choice.)
02/07/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
It was not a medical reason, it was a choice. If the baby can be carried to term without hazard to the physical life of the mother or the baby (i.e., if the doctor says "If you go through with this pregnancy you or your baby will die.") ... more
I do not agree with late-term abortion at all unless there's a life threatening issue or a fetal death. But that's ME.

I'm not really a fan of abortion on any level, but I don't want my choice to have one taken from me.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
It was not a medical reason, it was a choice. If the baby can be carried to term without hazard to the physical life of the mother or the baby (i.e., if the doctor says "If you go through with this pregnancy you or your baby will die.") ... more
That depresses so much that parents who have those kinds of expectations placed on their unborn children already are taking the blessing of having children for granted... The babies aren't even born yet and they already need to be "perfect"? And whatever happened to "You're my child and I love you just the way you are"?

I so need a hug now.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
What someone else feels is best for them is none of my business.

I personally haven't and never would. I think I'd feel too guilty for the rest of my life - especially if the pregancy was avoidable. If I REALLY don't want a child, then I'll do everything possible (pill and even condom if I'm THAT worried) to prevent getting pregnant.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
I've never had one. I wouldn't get one unless it was a danger to the unborn child's and or my health, or it was(Knock on wood) caused by the outcome of rape.
Thankfully I'm dating a women.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
How can I put this?

I have nothing against early-term abortion (i.e. abortion within the first trimester). If I got pregnant and were not able in any way to take care of a child at the time, I would definitely consider abortion an option. Mid- or late-term abortion is not an option, period.

That said, my significant other and I are monogamous, in a long term (and forever) relationship, and have decided that if I do somehow get pregnant, the baby would be kept, and a wedding would be imminent.

So, I chose other.
02/07/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Hot button topic. I think there need to be more regulations, it should be a lastditch effort type of thing.
02/08/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
It was not a medical reason, it was a choice. If the baby can be carried to term without hazard to the physical life of the mother or the baby (i.e., if the doctor says "If you go through with this pregnancy you or your baby will die.") ... more
I was trying to give the benefit of the doubt but no if it was just "if he can't be normal, i don't want him" that's just plain murder in my opinion.

It's really interesting how everyone views life so differently. Like when it begins and what constitutes a living being.
02/11/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
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Originally posted by Victoria
I truly hope that some of the heated posts here lead to deeper compassion for each other and not feelings of polarity and isolation. You WILL NEVER KNOW what it is like for someone else in a situation that would require making this decision, so ... more
Thank you Victoria. I couldn't agree more.
02/11/2011
Contributor: Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
All abortion is wrong! Why would anyone want to kill a innocent baby?!?! Why murder a innocent soul?!?!

Whoever has an abortion should be punished severely! WHY?! You should never ever kill an innocent baby!


There are plenty of women out there that ARE NOT able to have kids! Give the baby up for adoption! Do not murder the poor baby!
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03/07/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
I don't think I can truly answer this question until I become pregnant.
03/07/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
Too many people count on abortion as a form of birth control. Ugh! I do believe if the mother is at risk then it should be considered but just because you dont protect yourself..absolutely not. There are thousands of people who will love that child even if you wont.
03/07/2011
Contributor: Haiku Haiku
I did. The father talked me into it despite my tears and I eventually agreed. I regretted it for a long time. Grieving behind me, I can now say it was the best choice for my baby and myself that was available.

Now I have two wonderful kids with a loving father, and I would not have them if I hadn't had the abortion.

It isn't a choice for everyone, and anyone who thinks it is a casual decision is fooling themselves, but it sometimes is the best choice available.
03/07/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Haiku
I did. The father talked me into it despite my tears and I eventually agreed. I regretted it for a long time. Grieving behind me, I can now say it was the best choice for my baby and myself that was available.

Now I have two wonderful kids ... more
Thanks for sharing something so deeply personal and so emotional.

Everyone Else: Let's be considerate of other people's feelings. There are some people here who struggle still with their decision and until you've been in the position, you cannot say how it feels or even what you would do. Let's make sure that we are stating our opinions without judging others. We are all accountable for our own actions at some point in our life and it's not anyone's place here to judge anyone else.
03/07/2011
Contributor: Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
Ok I am just wondering why my post was flagged? What I can not speak my mind on my views of abortion? Yet others can? I noticed another person who posted in the topic had their post flagged. What is someone going around flagging post of people who are anti-abortion?
03/07/2011
Contributor: gone77 gone77
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Originally posted by Stephanie Marie
Ok I am just wondering why my post was flagged? What I can not speak my mind on my views of abortion? Yet others can? I noticed another person who posted in the topic had their post flagged. What is someone going around flagging post of people who ... more
The issue here seems to be how you expressed your views:

"Whoever has an abortion should be punished severely! WHY?! You should never ever kill an innocent baby!"

We've had members of the community who have made that difficult choice and I think they feel that your condemnation of them is making them uncomfortable and alienating them. It would me as well. It's also just not appropriate for the forums.

You can be anti-abortion and not personally condemn every single person who has had one.

Thank you.
03/07/2011
Contributor: Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
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Originally posted by gone77
The issue here seems to be how you expressed your views:

"Whoever has an abortion should be punished severely! WHY?! You should never ever kill an innocent baby!"

We've had members of the community who have made that ... more
Yes but in the same way some of them in this topic have condemned anti- abortionists. At least that is how I see it, and I wonder have they gotten flagged for it?
03/07/2011
Contributor: gone77 gone77
Neither I nor the Eden staff controls what is and what isn't flagged. People who have posted in a negative and hurtful manner has been flagged in the past, regardless of what side of an issue they may be on. As of now, I have not seen another post like that on this thread.
03/07/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by gone77
Neither I nor the Eden staff controls what is and what isn't flagged. People who have posted in a negative and hurtful manner has been flagged in the past, regardless of what side of an issue they may be on. As of now, I have not seen another ... more
I was just getting ready to say:

I read through the forum quite carefully and no one who was defending their stance for pro-choice ever said that anyone needed to be punished for not believing in abortion.

@Sgril116, The way you said your point of view was not only offensive, but it was also against the Expectations of Conduct for the forums. I'm not staff, but I've seen people get their accounts suspended for being in violation of the EOC. Let's just remember that there's a way to state your opinion without being offensive.

For example, you could say: "I am vehemently against abortion." It's simple, expresses your true feelings, yet doesn't make anyone feel like crap.
03/07/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Haiku
I did. The father talked me into it despite my tears and I eventually agreed. I regretted it for a long time. Grieving behind me, I can now say it was the best choice for my baby and myself that was available.

Now I have two wonderful kids ... more
Are you saying the best choice for your baby was death? I can only hope I'm somehow misunderstanding you. What if someone decides your best choice is death?

We're all here because our parents chose life. Obviously you are glad to have your live children. Is that pride built of the sacrifice of your first child?
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    This is unacceptable / Against the Expectations of Conduct
03/07/2011
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Are you saying the best choice for your baby was death? I can only hope I'm somehow misunderstanding you. What if someone decides your best choice is death?

We're all here because our parents chose life. Obviously you are glad to have ... more
She does not have to defend her choice to anyone on this thread. We don't know the circumstances of her life at the time. Just take her at her word that it was for the best. Perhaps the father of her child was abusive, perhaps he had a pattern of criminal activity, or perhaps he had a life-threatening disease that could have greatly harmed the baby in later stages. We don't know and we don't need to.

To accuse her of twisted pride built out of terminating her first pregnancy is terribly offensive. We all know you're anti-abortion so you don't have to harass the women on this thread about their past choices or if they're pro-choice to get your message across. Coming off aggressive or accusatory won't bring anyone over to 'your side' anyway.
03/07/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Are you saying the best choice for your baby was death? I can only hope I'm somehow misunderstanding you. What if someone decides your best choice is death?

We're all here because our parents chose life. Obviously you are glad to have ... more
I'm seething at this. I'm shaking I'm so mad right now. I have a head full of things that I want to say, but I respect Eden Fantasys too much to do so.

I do want to ask you a question, and I'm genuinely curious as to your answer.

In response to this: "Is that pride built of the sacrifice of your first child?"

You're no longer expressing opinion but speaking in judgment. So I want to know: Where do you get the right to pass judgment?

I really do want to know. I know that EF didn't ask you to dole out judgment onto others. I know that God doesn't approve of this. I know that you've made mistakes in your life that you feel terrible about and you would be ANGRY if anyone kept making you feel badly about them. So what gives YOU the right to do it to others?

PS, your comment violates the EOC particularly this paragraph:
Open discussions and opinions are welcome. We strongly support freedom of speech, but we do not support negative or hurtful behavior. Debates and disagreements are a part of the territory, but we expect members to conduct themselves in a mature and respectful manner. We will not tolerate bullying, deliberate provocation or disrespect. This includes insinuations and threats of action that may take place outside of the EdenFantasys community.
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03/07/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I also want to say that EF is supposed to be a safe place to share and these comments I've been reading today challenge the integrity of a safe place and cause people to think twice before sharing intimate and difficult things. It does damage to the community.
03/07/2011
Contributor: gone77 gone77
OK, I think we all need to step away from this thread. This is getting way over-heated and I do not like where it's going.

I want everyone to remember this: It's no longer about what side of the issue you're on and how you feel about it, it has become a case of deliberately provoking people. And that disappoints me greatly. So, please, everyone step away from this thread and give yourself a chance to cool down.

Thank you.
03/07/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by gone77
OK, I think we all need to step away from this thread. This is getting way over-heated and I do not like where it's going.

I want everyone to remember this: It's no longer about what side of the issue you're on and how you feel ... more
You're right... *backs away slowly*
03/07/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
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Originally posted by Stephanie Marie
All abortion is wrong! Why would anyone want to kill a innocent baby?!?! Why murder a innocent soul?!?!

Whoever has an abortion should be punished severely! WHY?! You should never ever kill an innocent baby!


There are plenty of ... more
I think you need to check yourself.
03/07/2011
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I'm seething at this. I'm shaking I'm so mad right now. I have a head full of things that I want to say, but I respect Eden Fantasys too much to do so.

I do want to ask you a question, and I'm genuinely curious as to your ... more
Lady, you have handled yourself beautifully - thank you for being a shining example of civility
03/07/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Victoria
Lady, you have handled yourself beautifully - thank you for being a shining example of civility
Thank you.
03/07/2011
Contributor: Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I was just getting ready to say:

I read through the forum quite carefully and no one who was defending their stance for pro-choice ever said that anyone needed to be punished for not believing in abortion.

@Sgril116, The way you said ... more
What I can't express my opinions but yall pro abortion folk can?

I just do not think that makes sense and is not fair.

If people don't want to hear critisism about having an abortion then why do they post that they have had abortions? I mean no matter what people are going to hear the opposing side. No need to be so defensive and rude once someone who is against abortion posts.


Im sorry but where I used to live girls started having abortions in middle school! At the ages of 12,13,and 14 yrs old! Many of them had multiple abortions by the age of 16! Then at 16 they started having kids! I know 11 yr old who have had babies. I know females that have noone yet still had the baby. People who were dirt poor. Those are no excuses to have an abortion. You can find a nice loving family for your baby. Abortions is wrong and it is not the way to go at all.
03/07/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Stephanie Marie
What I can't express my opinions but yall pro abortion folk can?

I just do not think that makes sense and is not fair.

If people don't want to hear critisism about having an abortion then why do they post that they have had ... more
This has already been addressed with you privately and here in the forum. As I said, expressing an opinion is one thing. Judging others is another. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I don't actually agree with abortion; however, I do not feel that anyone has the right to tell me what I can or cannot do with my body. I also have this thing. It's called COMPASSION. I understand that the women here who have had abortions struggled with the decision and may STILL struggle with that decision. To make people feel worse is rude, judgmental, and against Eden's policies (linked and quoted above).

And to whomever flagged me: I'm sorry that I offended you. I was very much in control of my emotions when I wrote that and tried to be objective and level-headed.
03/07/2011