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I'm not offended if someone opens a door for me if I clearly need the door opened (I'm carrying something, for example) or the person happens to be directly ahead of me and is already opening the door. I do honestly get pissed when men go out
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I'm not offended if someone opens a door for me if I clearly need the door opened (I'm carrying something, for example) or the person happens to be directly ahead of me and is already opening the door. I do honestly get pissed when men go out of their way to hold the door open for me. Like, thanks bro, but I'm not a toddler, I can open the freaking door on my own. If you want to be a hero why don't you go pay my student loans or handle something that's actually difficult for me.
Like I said, if it's just a dude that happens to be in front of me and is already getting the door for himself and just holds it open a few seconds longer for me, I always say thank you and am appreciative. The whole weaker sex chivalry shit doesn't fly with me, though.
Re: men being pissed when women hold the door, holy crap I see this all the time. If a guy is a few steps behind me I hold the door, or if he's got something in his hands, I'll get the door. Usually if I hold the door for a man they make it a point to reach out and hold it for themselves. Cute little double standard, that. And I don't use the word "usually" to be hyperbolic; I actually mean like 7/10 (unscientific estimate) times I hold a door for a man he'll reach out to hold it for himself and do not acknowledge me. The other 3/10 just realize I'm trying to be courteous and would do the same for anyone else.
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This is the response I get most often from men. I'd say about half the time they go on through, but the other half reach up and grab the door over my head and then try to have a stare-off over who's going to hold it for whom.
I don't mind people of any gender holding the door for me but don't expect me to wait for it, and don't go scurrying around the car or trying to scoot in front of me to open it either.
I once had a guy (stranger) cut in front of me and cause me to pull up short to keep from bashing my face on him so that he could open the door for me at the movie theater. I found that beautifully ironic.
