My dad's birthday was the other day and I made him a cake. I spent 4 hours of the day making a two layer chocolate cake with a fresh strawberry ganache filling. He hasn't even touched it. He likes chocolate too.
Would you be upset?
05/19/2011
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I chose yes, but need to put this in context. If this is the first time he has not noticed or seemed thankful for the work and effort, you might want to ask if something is wrong. If this is a recurring thing, might want to let him know this may be the last time you put forth effort for his birthday - you may be (pleasantly) surprised by his response.
05/20/2011
I could see how it would make you upset but I've done something similar. I'm not big on sweets and once my gf made me some cookies for valentines day and I only nibbled one. I felt bad that I wasn't eating them but at the same time just really didn't want to eat something sugary.
05/20/2011
I don't know. I would have to investigate first to find out why he didnt eat it. I'm sure it's wouldn't be because he didn't want it. Unless your dad shows his upsets by acting that way? Maybe he's trying to stay away from too much sweets at the moment. I'd give it a couple of days and then say something in a joking way just to see how he responds then you can get an idea of what's going on.
05/20/2011
I would probably be somewhat disappointed but gifts are gifts. They are free and provided with no strings or conditions. So, although it is really nice to get feedback on gifts and especially to see someone enjoying something that I spent time on, I don't feel it is required.
There could also be other factors at work here too, depending on context like other posters suggested. I don't know if he's busy, decided to cut back on sweets, going to eat it later, or just doesn't realize that his acceptance of your cake is important to you.
There could also be other factors at work here too, depending on context like other posters suggested. I don't know if he's busy, decided to cut back on sweets, going to eat it later, or just doesn't realize that his acceptance of your cake is important to you.
05/20/2011
I would be upset but would try to find out the reason...perhaps he was told of a medical condition or that he just wasn't feeling well? Can you ask someone else?
05/20/2011
I would be. It takes a lot of time and effort to do that and for him to not even touch it.... I'd be insulted.
05/20/2011
Did you ask him why he hasnt tried it yet?
05/20/2011
yes ill be mad
05/20/2011
I'd be a little upset, but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he wants nothing to do with the cake and doesn't appreciate your effort.
05/20/2011
Something is missing from this story. Is he worried about diabetes? Is he trying to lose weight? Definitely ask him. Silently staying angry isn't good for either of you.
05/20/2011
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I totally agree with you! I would be upset at first but I think I'd be concerned that something else was going on.
Originally posted by
Tuesday
Something is missing from this story. Is he worried about diabetes? Is he trying to lose weight? Definitely ask him. Silently staying angry isn't good for either of you.
05/20/2011
Maybe he wasn't feeling well at the time? You should ask him to find out the real reason why he didn't touch the cake.
05/20/2011
i would be a little mad
05/20/2011
I would be upset after spending so much time making it.
05/20/2011
Even if it was store bought it still would upset me. Hello I didnt have to make or buy you a cake I was doing it to be nice.
05/20/2011
I said other...
Have you sat down and tried to eat a slice with him?
Sometimes that's all it takes.
Otherwise, I'd ask him if he's tried it, or why he hasn't. Just out of curiosity, not out of being upset. I'd ask what flavors he prefers maybe? Or if next time he'd like something else.
Have you sat down and tried to eat a slice with him?
Sometimes that's all it takes.
Otherwise, I'd ask him if he's tried it, or why he hasn't. Just out of curiosity, not out of being upset. I'd ask what flavors he prefers maybe? Or if next time he'd like something else.
05/20/2011
Not a bit, perhaps he just isn't in the mood for cake.
10/23/2011
If there's a decent reason, like him being ill, or full, then I wouldn't mind. If there wasn't then sure I would.
10/25/2011
I'd be a bit upset if he acted unappreciative yes.
12/25/2011
I said yes, but I do know that sometimes people just aren't in the mood for sweets or maybe he's been having a bad day.
12/26/2011
I'd be a bit upset if he didn't say "Thank you" or something like that. No Biggie though, maybe he's trying to watch his diet?
12/26/2011
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Maybe he isn't hungry? Doesn't feel well? I dunno hun, sounds crappy though. I would be offended too, but I would say something and ask why if it were me.
Originally posted by
Dizzykakes
My dad's birthday was the other day and I made him a cake. I spent 4 hours of the day making a two layer chocolate cake with a fresh strawberry ganache filling. He hasn't even touched it. He likes chocolate too.
04/20/2012
I would definitely be mad at my dad. My dad is uh... not exactly the most appreciative person. He tends to waste my time a lot. But hey, that's my dad. I'm not sure what kind of issues your dad has at the moment. Is it unusual for him to act this way? If not then I'd just eat the cake myself and never make him one ever again.
04/20/2012
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I don't care what the reason is...If someone puts forth this much effort for me, I would at least pretend to eat it. I'm a picky eater, and yet I always forced down anything my ex's mom would make for family dinners.
Originally posted by
Dizzykakes
My dad's birthday was the other day and I made him a cake. I spent 4 hours of the day making a two layer chocolate cake with a fresh strawberry ganache filling. He hasn't even touched it. He likes chocolate too.
04/20/2012
It wasn't a gift for you... get over it
08/30/2012
I wouldnt. It is his birthday. He gets to do whatever he wants
08/31/2012
I had a similar situation with an ex-boy friends father.
It was his birthday and the ex and I went out bought him a grill and all the fixing for a summer BBQ. I set up the grill and prepared a great meal. When my ex's father came home he basically seemed to snob it off and when't to bed
after discussing it he was very pleased for what we did but missed his family back in China quite a bit and was feeling depressed
I dont know what is up with your dad but I would eat it
It was his birthday and the ex and I went out bought him a grill and all the fixing for a summer BBQ. I set up the grill and prepared a great meal. When my ex's father came home he basically seemed to snob it off and when't to bed
after discussing it he was very pleased for what we did but missed his family back in China quite a bit and was feeling depressed
I dont know what is up with your dad but I would eat it
08/31/2012
Yes I would be upset.
08/31/2012
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