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6 top reasons for NOT having sex (community poll)

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Contributor: Gary Gary
I was just reading an article and saw the result of a survey called 6 top reasons for not having sex. I was wondering how our community compares to these averages.

So for those of you that live with your partners, what is the most common reason for you to NOT have sex?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Too tired or need sleep
69
Not feeling well or health problems
66
Not in the mood
37
Taking care ofd children or pets
11
Work
20
Watching TV or a movie
3
other
17
Total votes: 223 (112 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
(Review Program Mentor)
Sometimes it's because we're too tired....but sometimes we can be super tired and still get it on...

I think energy level is still the most used reason to not get naked.
05/08/2013
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
Usually we don't have sex because we're too tired or one of us is not feeling well.
05/08/2013
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
If we are too tired, we usually wake up and have sex in the night or early morning The most likely reason for us to totally avoid it is because one of us is super super sick. A cold doesn't stop us though!
05/08/2013
Contributor: ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
If I'm not feeling well.
05/08/2013
Contributor: Rokmai Rokmai
Too tired, usually. That's a lot of thrusting...
05/08/2013
Contributor: bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I was just reading an article and saw the result of a survey called 6 top reasons for not having sex. I was wondering how our community compares to these averages.

So for those of you that live with your partners, what is the most common ... more
Sometimes foreplay just doesn't "work" - it's so frustrating!
05/08/2013
Contributor: Pumpk1nPatch Pumpk1nPatch
Pretty much the only time I don't initiate or deny is if I'm hella sleepy.
05/08/2013
Contributor: butts butts
honestly for a while, my partner was acting super selfish and unattractive, I didn't want to sleep with him much. Things have changed since, but I'd say one of the top reasons I've turned down sex is solely because I felt unattracted to him because of how he was acting. Also sometimes I'll just get into a work mode and sex doesn't seem appealing, same with him.
05/08/2013
Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
(Review Program Mentor)
I definitely think that our number one reason not to have sex when we're together is that one of us is feeling ill. My partner found out that he was allergic to dogs about a day after we were left with one for a week, and it seriously put a major crimp in our sex life until the little rat left.
05/08/2013
Contributor: gwenevieve gwenevieve
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I was just reading an article and saw the result of a survey called 6 top reasons for not having sex. I was wondering how our community compares to these averages.

So for those of you that live with your partners, what is the most common ... more
well we never really..turn each othr down so..i guess none ;P
05/08/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Most likely, if I turn down, it's for health or exhaustion
05/08/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
I only turn it down when I am not feeling well. I could be dead tired and still find the energy to have sex.
05/08/2013
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
(Review Program Mentor)
I don't refuse with my husband. Even if I am not feeling well, I do not refuse sex.

With my ex, I refused because I felt unloved/unwanted and I had no respect for him due to his actions. I might use the excuse I was tired or didn't feel well but that was not the real reason.

So none of the choices given applied to me.
05/08/2013
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Neither of us are in the mood when I'm "closed for business due to flooding". He's not into period sex, and I feel like hell while on my period.
05/08/2013
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Not wanting to clean up after.
05/08/2013
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Being tired kills my mood for sure.
05/09/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
Usually it's because one of us is too tired to preform, or are just not in the mood. There have been time though, where i just have felt well and that in itself killed the mood.
05/09/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
I've actually never turned down sex before? The only reason I can see myself refusing is being extremely ill or not feeling emotionally connected to my partner (failing relationship).
05/09/2013
Contributor: lovelyzombie lovelyzombie
If I'm not feeling well.
05/09/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Mostly the need for sleep - my wife get's up at 5:10 AM, so she needs her sleep. When we have sex during the week, we plan it for early in the evening.
05/09/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I was just reading an article and saw the result of a survey called 6 top reasons for not having sex. I was wondering how our community compares to these averages.

So for those of you that live with your partners, what is the most common ... more
Well, I'd say health stuff/not feeling well since that's probably one of the only times I just won't do it. I have migraines & endometriosis, so there have been times where those things have prevented it. Not much anymore though.

Probably being too busy is the thing that gets in our way more than anything else. Running around for kids, working, school, etc. sometimes those things cause us to have a few days wait in between, but we never let it go on for long.
05/09/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
Tiredness and stress for us at least.
05/09/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
I'd have to be tired, sick or angry at my partner to not want to have sex.
05/09/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Only if I'm sick, that's really the only time I'm not in the mood.
05/09/2013
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
Being tired and work are big factors. Also my inability to let go of my insecurities has kicked into high gear here lately. I gained some weight and while he doesn't make me feel bad about it, I just feel gross.
05/09/2013
Contributor: joiedejouets joiedejouets
Usually I'm just not in the mood or too sleepy.
05/10/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I'd say if there was a reason to not have sex... It would be because I'm too tired or way too sick. I love sex so I think my attitude in those cases would be "do what you want". lol
05/10/2013
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Health problems are by far the most common for us.
05/10/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I was just reading an article and saw the result of a survey called 6 top reasons for not having sex. I was wondering how our community compares to these averages.

So for those of you that live with your partners, what is the most common ... more
It happens when we are just too tired.
05/10/2013