I never understood make up sex. How can you emotionally connect with someone who just hurt you or that you are angry with for something? I just don't get it. Even when it wasn't love in the past it took work to get me in the mood. As in the person being nice to me, touching me over time all he had to do it kiss me and i was putty in his hands. the idea of being upset or angry and having sex with my husband just doesn't sound like an enjoyable thing.

I just thought of something else too. I re-read you post and thought maybe as a guy he is feeling like that is the ultimate way he can apologize to you for what he said. He thinks he can make up for it even more so then just saying sorry. I know men think so very different then we do... what do you think?

I enjoy make up sex a lot. It tends to be rougher and a lot more intense.

Ditto.

Agreed!

I hate fighting with my husband, it makes me feel like crap and stresses me out (causing a whole swarm of other problems; stress and MS are not compatible!) If we happen to fight and have sex afterwards, great. We truly enjoy our playtime with each other, but would never go out of our way to purposefully pick a fight with each other.

You could have a point there... I do like having sex w/my bf and he knows it so he may be trying to make me feel better w/sex. However, I usually dont feel better. = ( I might feel better if he was more romantic about it... More kissing and touching... but hes just not like that. = (

Similar time and situation for us.

We have not had make-up sex and do not think we will ever have the situation to consider it. Our communication is completely open and honest, not always immediate though, and any issue that starts is quicky brought up and discussed. With our varied interstes and activities, we do not see anything that would cause one to judge the other or create an environment where an argument would begin.

We may be thought of as naive, but with 24 years of a prior marriage full of secrets and un-shared feelings, I have learned a great deal about what does not work. And my SO has a few relationships that have failed due to various issues, many of which revolve around poor communication and/or respect for the other.

We hope we never get to try make-up sex, but it certainly cannot be any better (more raw, emotional, romantic) than what we have now.

umm....i used to, but since my bf is an ass and i can see that he's not really going to change...with him it's lost its novelty. i guess it depends on the person, i think it could be great the first few times but other than that...probably not.