I tihnk that the idea that a relationship will work or fail based on who asked out whom is LAUGHABLE. Seriously, we're not in middle school.

I asked a guy out before I met my husband- he said it made me seem desperate and overeager, whereas it made me feel like I had some control over my dating life- I took the reins and I went for what I wanted.

It really doesn't matter in this day and age. It also doesn't matter who pays for the date. Relationships are about give and take and it's not a requirement for men to pursue first.

All the talk about- well this is the way it's supposed to be, and it's all about survival of the fittest, etc. The spotted hyena is the perfect example of a strong woman- the females always have the first and last say when it comes to who they mate with, they make the first move after watching the males compete for them and often they deny the males any sex at all. They're absolutely brilliant animals and their mating rituals are all about the female and her wants and needs.

A relationship would only last if there is a connection between the people involved..

I don't think it would really matter who started what as long as it goes well in the future..

Thank you for confirming my thoughts. Plus my husband says that usually a man waits for a positive signal from a woman before asking and that women often initiate contact by flirting.

It may be that since my friend is 59 and a little conservative that she's remembering how it was when she was 20.

I was asked out by my now fiancee, and we've been together 6 years. It really doesn't matter one bit.

I asked my husband out first, & we've been together for about 25 years. It may be that since she's older, she thinks the man should be the one to ask first.

Different things work differently for different people. If there was one sure fire method to anything having to do with relationships and romance, someone would have figured it out by now and they would be selling it on the internet.

lol. Sorry, that's my only response.

If I waited for men to ask me out, I'd never get laid.

I asked my current boyfriend out first. We shared many common interests but he seemed so shy. Don't even think about it now but so glad I did.

To me, who cares? It doesn't matter either way. For me and my partner, we never cordially asked each other "out." We were just together, and I basically said to her, "We're together now." I'm quite demanding, so it was me in our case. But in some, who cares? And also, in the case of homosexual relationships, it doesn't matter either way as well.

Balderdash! How in the world could that possibly influence the quality or duration of the relationship? It just doesn't matter.

if they both like each other, it doesn't matter.

Didn't matter to me

It doesn't really matter. I have never asked a guy out but I honestly doubt that if I did it would matter to them either.

I'm not a man, but I totally, 100% disagree with that. I don't think it matters who asks who out. There's nothing wrong with the woman being confident enough to do so. I haven't ever really asked, but I am the one who initiated everything with my current partner and we've been together for 5 years. Had I not came onto him, I don't think he would've had the nerve to hunt me down to get in touch with me like he did.

Have to agree with the comments made so far. It does not make a difference who asks who out. What makes a relationship last is the 2 people and the connection they may or may not share. I came on to my man originally, and he thanks me everyday, because otherwise we probably would not have gotten together. After I came on to him, he proceeded to pursue me without hesitation until it "took".