I'm VERY blunt and honest about everything. Weeds out the crap.
Honesty and the first few dates
10/11/2012
I tend to be entirely upfront. It saves a lot of trouble finding out a few months in where our feelings are stronger that there are major differences in viewpoints
10/12/2012
it's good to be upfront about who you are
10/12/2012
I've had bad experiences in the relationships where I've waited for things to become an issue before I discuss them.
10/12/2012
In the few dates I've had, yeah, being honest was always the best, though they didn't always liked what they heard.
10/12/2012
I'm always upfront. Why waste my time?
02/21/2013
I'm very honest. I'd rather be honest from the start instead of spending a lot of effort later on with righting the wrong impressions she had initially.
02/25/2013
I do agree with being honest, there's no point in deceiving someone because if something is an issue early on it's not going to go anywhere! However, I am extremely hesitant when anyone does the "overshare" on the first few dates. I don't think it's appropriate for someone to go on and on just talking about themselves. Everyone has thoughts, feelings, opinions but a date is an opportunity to talk and get to learn about the other person as well.
02/25/2013
Honesty is the best policy.
03/04/2013
It's not always best at 1st to tell someone everything it's easier to hear something after you already love the person. I know a lot of people that I would think bad about if they told me things upfront
03/05/2013
I definitely believe in being upfront to potential partners. I want to know that I am compatible in my belief system before I let any feelings develop too far, because if I found out something I couldn't live with it would be so hard to break it off. Lay everything on the table and if you still like each other it will only get better! You don't want to be in a relationship for a year and all of sudden find out your partner has a view on something that is completely opposite yours, and it is a topic that is very important to you. Yes, I believe making sure you are compatible should be the first thing you do.
03/05/2013
im a very blunt person. dont need any surprises later on!
04/18/2013
I'd say learn what they think first, since it is a first date. Of course, I will be honest once I get to know them better (and if they ask me a direct question on the first date).
04/25/2013
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Generally, I don't mention being in porn/fetish work on the first date. I like to get a reading of someone first because more often than not, I've been objectified then "dumped".
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I find that I prefer to be honest and upfront about my beliefs and things I feel strongly about (gender relations, views on marriage/abortion/chil dren, family involvement, etc) with potential partners rather than playing coy the first few dates.
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I find that I prefer to be honest and upfront about my beliefs and things I feel strongly about (gender relations, views on marriage/abortion/chil dren, family involvement, etc) with potential partners rather than playing coy the first few dates. See, I hate to waste time and I wouldn't want to deal with a huge conflict of interest just because I was too scared to be clear about my expectations and beliefs. What do you prefer?
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Occupational hazard, and the ones who stick around tend to be awesome people, so in the end it's worth it for me.
04/27/2013
I'm fairly reserved so I usually learn whether or not my beliefs will land me in a sticky situation without having to speak up too quickly (I try to listen/feel out the situation first). If someone asked me directly, I'd have no problem providing a response, but tact is always important
04/27/2013
Honesty is always best, you just have to work out when to pour itout
05/20/2013
It depends. A lot of my views would be defined as "radical" and would turn a lot of people away if I just dumped them all on right away, so I'd rather ease into it. Otherwise I'd probably spend the whole date ranting! I certainly wouldn't lie if they asked me directly, though.
05/20/2013
The reason our relationship works so well is because we were honest from the first minute we met.
05/21/2013
I'm honest, but I bring things up when it's appropriate. Some things might be dealbreakers and others might not.
05/21/2013
Playing games and lying about who I am just seems like a waste of time. But I also don't need to throw all my deeply held beliefs at someone right away. Try to be truthful but not overshare.
05/21/2013
I believe in being 100% honest — but not in 100% immediate disclosure. I've always been more concerned about what the other person believes than about how they'll respond to my beliefs, so I've always done A LOT more listening than talking about sensitive subjects, until they ask for my opinion. And then I give it to them, straight. Or, if they give an opinion/belief I agree with, I'll let them know I agree. This has always worked out well for me.
05/21/2013
My (now) wife and I are no-bullshit people. We addressed everything pretty quickly to see if we even wanted to spend time together. Which we did. ??
05/21/2013
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