The New Intimacy

Panic about Teeth

Skip to last post
Set alerts
Updates
Forum search
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Okay, so for the record - I have all my own teeth, I brush daily, no history of cavities, etc-etc-etc But ... my teeth have a natural yellow tint to them (like the color of butter) and I haven't had any orthodontia done (just some gaps between a few of the top row in front, but nothing drastic). No one has ever complained about my teeth - the few guys I've been with and my ex have never indicated that it was a turn off that I they're less-than-perfect, and it really wasn't an issue for me before.

A problem that I got myself into is that I haven't sent my LDR Master any open-lipped smile photos - but he knows from phone conversations that I laugh and 'smile with my voice' a LOT, so he knows I'm not always close-lipped in day-to-day life. After a short photo shoot involving the mirror (and grinning), I realized that it seems rather obvious to me that I have the British Teeth Syndrome (as opposed to him being British but having nice straight teeth in his photos) and it's three weeks until his visit.

Question: should I just go ahead and send an open-lipped smile photo like nothing's wrong, or wait until he visits to spring it on him? I'm feeling self-conscious about it, but really, nobody's ever said anything before.

EDIT: Of course my post would show up in the middle of a spam-posting. *sigh*
04/24/2011
  • Treat Her! Gift Set For Women For $69.99 Only
  • Complete lovers gift set
  • Upgrade Your Hands-Free Play!
  • Long-distance pleasure set for couples
  • Save Extra 20% On Love Cushion And Toy Set!
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Contributor: ShadowKitten ShadowKitten
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Okay, so for the record - I have all my own teeth, I brush daily, no history of cavities, etc-etc-etc But ... my teeth have a natural yellow tint to them (like the color of butter) and I haven't had any orthodontia done (just some gaps between a ... more
huh, I was actually about to pose this question from a single person to dating scene standpoint later, my teeth are in really rough shape (mostly acid erosion and they're not very white either, I brush everyday but they seem to stay that way and I can't afford luxuries like bleaching/replacement/ etc as well they're slanted inwards on the bottom half and frankly look like a mess) and are one of the 2 biggest concerns about dating/attending events I have (with weight being the first >_>)

not to hijack your thread or anything but I'd love to see both perspectives of folks opinions on 'bad teeth' in relationships, personally I hope people I meet won't be shallow as hell and act like total dicks but it has happened before :\

again apologies if it seems I'm jacking your thread, though it's a bump at least and saves the forums from having a separate thread (which is in the tos for the forums, to search to see if a thread already exists)

hope you find what you're looking for :3
04/24/2011
Contributor: REDRUM REDRUM
Do you drink a lot of coffee?

And I applaud you for having no history of cavitys. I love sweets so much that it'd be abnormal for me not to have at least one cavity.
04/24/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by REDRUM
Do you drink a lot of coffee?



And I applaud you for having no history of cavitys. I love sweets so much that it'd be abnormal for me not to have at least one cavity.
My teeth have been like that since childhood. The dentist said it was perfectly normal for people to have a darker natural color and no amount of cleaning/bleaching will change it - the only option would be veneers. However, I'd prefer to have my teeth realigned.

Thanks. I adore sweets, too, but just never seem to get them. I once freaked out my biology teacher when we had to do inner cheek cell scraping to see the bacteria in our mouths and I had absolutely none.
04/24/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I say bite the bullet and send him an open lipped smile photo because nothing is wrong with that or your smile. I doubt he will even notice and if he's worth your love and affection, he will care for you all the same regardless of how your teeth look. We are always our own harshest critics and I'm sure there is something he feels that way about too on himself.
04/24/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I say go ahead and send the open lipped smile too. We all have things we're uncomfortable about, he probably has some too. (And if he's going to be a jerk about such a shallow thing, it would be better to know now, I think.)

Best wishes!!
04/24/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
i would just send it
04/25/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I'm with liilii and indiglo, everybody's got something they're the same way about, and if he notices at all, he's probably not going to care. As long as you're taking care of yourself and your teeth are healthy, that's what matters. Go ahead and send him that open lipped smile
04/25/2011
Contributor: Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
My teeth are terrible.

I was born missing several (they never grew in) so my teeth are very gappy. I have 20 total, vs the normal 32. Not only that, I didn't take very good care of them so they aren't pretty.

I am self conscious about it, and avoid the open lipped smile like the plague... but have never had a single person comment negatively about them. I suppose it's possible that they were just being polite by not saying anything, but I tend to think most people just don't care.
04/25/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I would send the picture. If you're going to meet, he's going to see your teeth soon anyways, so you might as well get it over with now. I'm sure he'll be happy to see you smiling.
04/25/2011
Contributor: bluekaren bluekaren
I would just send the pic....my teeth are not the best either but I don't think guys are as picky about this as women are for some strange reason. I have never had a guy (and they have all had perfect teeth) say anything about my teeth.
04/25/2011