This guy and I are discussing dating, both of us know the relationship will end next summer when I go off to school. Is this stupid of us?
Should you get into a relationship knowing it won't last?
11/30/2012
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As long as you know that and don't mind wasting time
11/30/2012
I don't think it's stupid as long as you understand what that means and don't invest yourself too much, but who knows what might happen, you might stay together if you want that to happen
12/01/2012
I wouldn't but that's because I would worry about getting attached.
12/01/2012
Depends if you know that you can handle the ultimate end of it without getting too hurt. I've done it and I wouldn't recommend it, but I always get attached too much too fast. It depends how easily the two of you get attached.
12/01/2012
Enjoy each other and what you can learn about yourself during it. Relationships help us grow and know ourselves. Avoiding them because there isn't long-term potential is just a lonely way to live.
(Incidentally, I'm also in a "will inevitably end" relationship because of us being on opposite sides of the child issue. I'm enjoying it while I can and learning what a real relationship is like. I know I'm not going to like the ending of it, but ... it's part of Living.)
(Incidentally, I'm also in a "will inevitably end" relationship because of us being on opposite sides of the child issue. I'm enjoying it while I can and learning what a real relationship is like. I know I'm not going to like the ending of it, but ... it's part of Living.)
12/01/2012
As a side note: I'm a firm believer that it never HAS to end. Back on topic, if you don't think the relationship break-off will be dramatic, then let it run it's course. I think there's nothing wrong with having some wonderful company and friendship for a little while, even if it won't last forever.
12/01/2012
Eh, most relationships don't last forever anyway!
12/02/2012
It isn't a waste of time just because you know it will end at some point. I think we are taught to look at relationships like definite, final things, but I don't think that's always the best way to go about it. Relationships that aren't for forever can still provide you with wonderful experiences, something to learn from, and great memories. Someone who is good for you now may not be the one for you later on, but that's okay. Take it as it comes and see what happens. Not everyone you get with is going to be "the one," and that's okay. Do what feels good in the moment and just flow with it. Yes, there's a chance that you will get attached, but there's always risk of that in a relationship. If you're mentally and emotionally prepared for it to end, then it doesn't have to be a traumatic experience, but rather, something you look back on, fondly. Or something you look back on and say, "well, I learned from that one!" which is also valuable.
And really, who is to say it will end when it's supposed to end? I wasn't expecting to stay in my long distance relationship over a year later, but here I am. And I'm glad I just went with it. Do it if it feels right, and don't get caught up on the idea of something lasting forever. If it does, it will play out that way. If it doesn't, take it for what it is, and be happy with the experience.
And really, who is to say it will end when it's supposed to end? I wasn't expecting to stay in my long distance relationship over a year later, but here I am. And I'm glad I just went with it. Do it if it feels right, and don't get caught up on the idea of something lasting forever. If it does, it will play out that way. If it doesn't, take it for what it is, and be happy with the experience.
12/02/2012
nope. not a good idea
12/02/2012
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^ THIS THIS THIS!!!
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It isn't a waste of time just because you know it will end at some point. I think we are taught to look at relationships like definite, final things, but I don't think that's always the best way to go about it. Relationships that
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It isn't a waste of time just because you know it will end at some point. I think we are taught to look at relationships like definite, final things, but I don't think that's always the best way to go about it. Relationships that aren't for forever can still provide you with wonderful experiences, something to learn from, and great memories. Someone who is good for you now may not be the one for you later on, but that's okay. Take it as it comes and see what happens. Not everyone you get with is going to be "the one," and that's okay. Do what feels good in the moment and just flow with it. Yes, there's a chance that you will get attached, but there's always risk of that in a relationship. If you're mentally and emotionally prepared for it to end, then it doesn't have to be a traumatic experience, but rather, something you look back on, fondly. Or something you look back on and say, "well, I learned from that one!" which is also valuable.
And really, who is to say it will end when it's supposed to end? I wasn't expecting to stay in my long distance relationship over a year later, but here I am. And I'm glad I just went with it. Do it if it feels right, and don't get caught up on the idea of something lasting forever. If it does, it will play out that way. If it doesn't, take it for what it is, and be happy with the experience. less
And really, who is to say it will end when it's supposed to end? I wasn't expecting to stay in my long distance relationship over a year later, but here I am. And I'm glad I just went with it. Do it if it feels right, and don't get caught up on the idea of something lasting forever. If it does, it will play out that way. If it doesn't, take it for what it is, and be happy with the experience. less
12/02/2012
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