Could you masturbate in front of your partner???

Contributor: Yesenia Yesenia
I was wondering if you could do it or would you be embarrassed if your lover would ask you to masturbate for them?
06/02/2010
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Yesenia
I was wondering if you could do it or would you be embarrassed if your lover would ask you to masturbate for them?
I frequently masturbate in front of my life partner. It was a bit of a shock and slightly uncomfortable at first since my only other regular partner was my husband and we didn't mutually masturbate. Then again Sigel LOVES to taste me and has never wanted to watch me make myself come whereas Arch loves to watch me. Different strokes I guess!
Now a days Sigel will ask me to show him what I like and he loves using my toys on me, or watching me use them on myself.
I was slightly embarassed to masturbate in front of my guys at first but the awkwardness disappeared fairly quickly once I saw how much it turned them on.
06/02/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
OK - I'm sexist on this one. I'd love to watch my wife - but would never do it in front of her.

She doesn't literally masturbate in front of me - but I have gotten her to massage her breasts and use a vibe on her clit while I use a dildo on her, and I can get her thrust her hips somewhat in response to the dildo.

Sometimes when we're in the cowgirl position she grinds herself on me to get off almost like I'm inanimate. Seems like pseudo-masturbation if there is such a thing!

Maybe some day she'll go all the way for me.
06/02/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I love to watch my fiance masturbate for me, but I don't know if it counts if I jump in and play with him too. I want to be able to masturbate for him, I've just never been comfortable enough to do it. He would love to watch me, I'm just not sure I can do it yet.
06/02/2010
Contributor: buzzvibe buzzvibe
Oh yeah, definitely. Sometimes when we're really tired or just feeling lazy we'll masturbate together. It's pretty hot, actually. Plus, he's usually present when I'm "testing" products. I always get first turn playing with a new toy before I let him use it on me, though. I'm selfish that way.

I will say that I wasn't always keen to play with myself in front of him. In fact, it took me a long time to feel comfortable doing it. But we've been married almost 13 years now, so there isn't much he hasn't seen.
06/02/2010
Contributor: Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
We have done this before, but it doesn't happen very often and it has been a while. I remember feeling like it was an unusual request at the time though.
06/02/2010
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
We do it all the time. Usually he starts when I'm not in the mood, then I end up wanking, too, cuz watching him gets me in the mood.
06/02/2010
Contributor: Yesenia Yesenia
I think it something fun you can do to spice things up Plus I enjoy it
06/02/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I don't even think twice on it, almost never to completion though.
06/02/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I started by phone sex with my one boyfriend in high school. After high school was my oversexed friend Jenny who talked me into masturbating with her whenever we slept at each other's houses; never to each other, just did it in the same room. After that, I was comfortable with doing so in front of my future husband (no reaction from him). Had no problem with Mulder when we were together - sometimes he'd finish sex before I could, so he'd help me get off by mouthing my breasts and talking dirty.

It's part of sex, right? So it's fair game for doubles.
06/02/2010
Contributor: Gary Gary
Of course! How do you think we met?
06/02/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Yesenia
I was wondering if you could do it or would you be embarrassed if your lover would ask you to masturbate for them?
I...I have never done that, but I'm not adverse to it. I would masturbate for him, and get him all hot and bothered, it sounds so very bold, my face got hot thinking about it. I think, it might be a good anniversary present for him, thanks!
06/02/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
We do this quite a bit. I think it was hard to do at first, but now it doesn't really phase either of us
06/02/2010
Contributor: Yesenia Yesenia
Teasing each other like this is fun.
06/03/2010
Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
Nothing wrong with this. It's part of intimacy.
06/03/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
We do it all the time. Usually he starts when I'm not in the mood, then I end up wanking, too, cuz watching him gets me in the mood.
Normally watching him will turn into sex because most of the time, if I can have him, I go for it and watching him gets me in the mood too, lol.
06/03/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I do masturbate in front of my b/f, sometimes he chooses the toy....he loves to see me use my Pure Wand and the NJoy Eleven. His arousal certainly adds to my pleasure and desire Most of the time when he is present we end up having sex. I usually find it uncomfortable and not too satisfying, when my b/f uses most toys on me. Yes, I have tried to show him but the pressure needed to satisfy me is constantly changing during my masturbation sessions.
On the other hand,(pun intended) my b/f rarely masturbates to climax, with me present. I have used a masturbation sleeve on him but he is not overly receptive.
06/04/2010
Contributor: fungo fungo
We masturbate in front of each other from time to time, and while it's fun it's not quite the same. For us, masturbation sessions are usually where we explore ourselves, and indulge ourselves, and enjoy the solidarity of reflecting (and focussing on) our own sexuality and nothing else. I don't think that's possible when you're in the room with somebody and, perhaps, focussing on what they are doing as well.

Mutual and solo masturbation are both great, but for us, they're definitely apples and oranges.
06/04/2010
Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
I used to enjoy watching her masturbate in front of me and I still do. These days however, she's enjoying watching me. She usually requests that I penetrate myself with a dildo while jerking off. She's REALLY into that now. Usually will want my butt pointed at her so she can see every single detail as she masturbates as well. Is this common ladies? Apparently she's into watching anal play.
06/04/2010
Contributor: AU AU
Years ago, without Him asking, I masturbated to a climax. He mostly just watched. It was kind of weird. I can't put on shows for him. Occasionally I will play with an object against my pantied body or insert something, but that's usually taken as a sign that I want to play with a partner!
07/30/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
It was VERY weird at first, but I've gotten a little more comfortable with it. It's still not completely comfortable with it, but I try, because he will do it for me whenever I want.
07/30/2010
Contributor: twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and I'm still slightly iffy to it. I think it's more my self confidence as I don't mind him watching.
07/30/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
We do this a lot. Once in a great while I might not be in the mood, or have a UTI or something, and he'll just say, "Mind if I jerk off?" and it's fun. Sometimes he just likes to finish by himself, often I'll jump in an help him. My body has changed to the point where he can get me ALMOST to orgasm, but I need a strong vibrating toy to actually get over the edge (it didn't used to be this way, peri-menopause SUCKS) So, he'll play with my breasts or mess with a phallic vibe while I use the Wahl on myself. Sometimes he just wants to watch, and if he has already come, he'll get horny again, so there's a lot of good use for it. I guess this qualifies as "masturbation?" I'm not sure. Sometimes, he'll tell me to do it for him, but I NEVER get very far before he butts in.
07/31/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
We're still in the early stages of doing this and it is still a bit uncomfortable for me to do in front of my husband. But I do like watching him, and I tend to jump in and help him because it turns me on so much.
07/31/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I have masturbated in front of a previous partner, but it usually has to be someone who I am more comofortable with, like if we are in a serious relationship
08/01/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
Oh yes. Quite often. I rather enjoy handcuffing him and putting on a show
08/01/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
If he wanted to watch I have no problem with it. Actually thats what I do for work so the person I'm with is really no big deal at all. Free shows are the perks of being a cam models bf.
08/01/2010
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by Yesenia
I was wondering if you could do it or would you be embarrassed if your lover would ask you to masturbate for them?
I don't think I could do it spontaneously but if he asked, I would assume that he would want to watch. Still, I would feel self conscious.
08/01/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I think I would have a little bit of shyness if he was simply eyeing me without participating (ie. licking my nipples, rubbing my body, etc).

Both my partner and I usually keep masturbating private. Sometimes I feel particularly horny and my man is indisposed so I heal my need and so does he. So it is very unusual for us to masturbate in front of each other.

Mutual masturbation is awesome, but we don't do it very often. We experience no shyness about it being mutual. As long as one of us is participating with the other ones experience we feel no embarassment.
08/05/2010
Contributor: Pixie Pixie
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Originally posted by Yesenia
I was wondering if you could do it or would you be embarrassed if your lover would ask you to masturbate for them?
I do this regularly in front of my boyfriend. I like to grind against a vibrator, which he finds hilarious. I can't get REALLY into it if he's watching. He loves to see me rub my clit during sex though, and often requests it.

I have asked him to masturbate for me, but he seems shy about it. After about 30 seconds, I usually get asked to take over, lol. I would like to see him masturbate to climax though, that would turn me on! I also want to see how he treats himself so I can give him better handjobs.
08/05/2010