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Contributor: Kayla Kayla
69 is one of those things that you hear about often when it comes to oral sex, and Em and Lo say that it has some upsides and downsides. 69 is the act of both giving oral sex to each other at the same time, and Em and Lo mention five positions that work best for doing 69.

On the upside, the act of mutual oral stimulation is a pretty big plus. Not only that, but engaging in 69 can push your boundaries and make you feel younger as well as allow the two of you to approach each other's genitals in an angle that is not normally used.

In terms of the downsides, it can be difficult for the two of you to focus on the task at hand while receiving pleasure at the same time. During 69, you also don't get the usual view of watching your partner give oral sex, and depending on your height and weight, it may be very uncomfortable to have stay in the 69 position for long.

[italic|Learn more sex facts like this in the Sex: How to do Everything book by Em and Lo.

Is 69 fact or fiction in your book? Is it better than just taking turns giving oral sex? Do you have any tips or experiences to share about 69?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I've done 69.
231
No, I've never done 69.
23
Yes, it's better than taking turns giving oral sex.
32
No, it's not better than taking turns giving oral sex.
89
I think the good things of 69 outweigh the bad things.
92
I think the bad things of 69 outweigh the good things.
52
Total votes: 519 (274 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
69 is my man's favorite so we do it often. I like to please him so it pleases me too, but, I do have a hard time focusing on him when I'm about to come. That doesn't seem to bother him though!
05/09/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I think the best part about 69ing is the inability to focus completely. I am way too in my own head during sex and I love being taken out of my comfort zone.

Most of the issue for me is size compared to my partners. I am quite short, and generally date people with a foot or more on me height wise. It can definitely make things a bit awkward at times.
05/09/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
69 is one of those things that you hear about often when it comes to oral sex, and Em and Lo say that it has some upsides and downsides. 69 is the act of both giving oral sex to each other at the same time, and Em and Lo mention five positions that ... more
I enjoy 69 not as a means to bring each other to orgasm but as a really erotic activity in foreplay.
05/09/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by newfoundlust
I enjoy 69 not as a means to bring each other to orgasm but as a really erotic activity in foreplay.
Same with us, it is more of an appetizer than the main course.
05/09/2011
Contributor: mandiegk mandiegk
Quote:
Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I think the best part about 69ing is the inability to focus completely. I am way too in my own head during sex and I love being taken out of my comfort zone.

Most of the issue for me is size compared to my partners. I am quite short, and ... more
I have the size issue as well. My boyfriend is a foot taller than me we which makes it awkward.
05/09/2011
Contributor: AOutrajus AOutrajus
I personally don't like 69ing. I cant feel anything and its hard to pay attention, plus i just don't like having my butt in someones face lol
05/09/2011
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I have done 69 before, but I am one of those people that starts to get distracted from me "job" when I get closer to orgasm... so it doesn't always last long
05/09/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I love 69!
05/09/2011
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I just get distracted from the start. It never works well for me. I'm sort of concentrating on what I'm supposed to be doing, which is sort of distracting me from enjoying what my partner is doing. And then I end up giving these sort of occasional half-assed motions of what I am supposed to be doing but I'm not fully into what my partner is doing. It's just too much going on at once or something. I don't know what my deal is there.
05/09/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
I love it so much
05/09/2011
Contributor: yoham45 yoham45
69 is delicious.
05/09/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
We do it, but we often run into the situation where whoever is close to finishing will be enjoying it so much that they can no longer give pleasure. It's better as a warm up to other things.
05/09/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
We like it, and we probably do it as often as we do each other separately.
05/09/2011
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
I prefer it in a more lesbianic situation--that way, I can be on the bottom, and not have a gagfest (as I would with a penis).
05/09/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I enjoy doing the "69" position. She says that she has a hard time cumming. So we dont do it for very long, but while we are it is great.
05/10/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
i done it and like doing it
05/10/2011
Contributor: Dizzykakes Dizzykakes
I like doing 69 sometimes.. but sometimes.. it feels so good i cant control myself.
05/10/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I usually don't like it, but as I am gaining more control over my pleasure I like it more and more.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Same with us, it is more of an appetizer than the main course.
Agreed! We just use it as a warm up. A very exciting warm up for both of us, in fact.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
69 is a favorite position. I am admittedly somewhat of a control freak and 69 just let's me go to orgasm w/o a thought as I am taking care of my man.
I am usually on the bottom but he is heavier then me but he doesn't crush me. He does "work" harder though...
05/11/2011
Contributor: leatherlover leatherlover
We both like to do it on occasion, but sometimes it is too much for me to pay attention. She really gets going when I lick her, and trying to lick her right at orgasm gets difficult.
05/11/2011
Contributor: It's a Hooker! It's a Hooker!
It's not better than taking turns giving oral sex..
05/11/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
We've done 69 several times but we prefer taking turns, we like to concentrate and enjoy when we're on the receiving end.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Lolla Munz Lolla Munz
No, I've never done 69.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
I like it, but i prefer to concentrate on the person i am pleasuring and sometimes 69ing can distract me. So, I prefer taking turns.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
I've tried a few times but I really don't like it. I'm too focused on what I'm doing to enjoy what I'm receiving. My partner feels the same way, so it's kind of pointless for us.
05/11/2011
Contributor: chris PA chris PA
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
69 is one of those things that you hear about often when it comes to oral sex, and Em and Lo say that it has some upsides and downsides. 69 is the act of both giving oral sex to each other at the same time, and Em and Lo mention five positions that ... more
never had a bad 69!
05/11/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
Quote:
Originally posted by Waterfall
I have done 69 before, but I am one of those people that starts to get distracted from me "job" when I get closer to orgasm... so it doesn't always last long
Haha, me too.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Quote:
Originally posted by Bunnycups
Haha, me too.
I think a lot of people do. Maybe that's half the fun?
05/12/2011