Breaks

Breaks

ToyGurl ToyGurl
So my newly wed best friend gave me a call earlier this week. I've been meaning to post about this. She wanted me to go to Vegas with her - I said no, of course. I have too much to do and not enough time... Anyhow, I asked her why she wasn't taking her HUSBAND? Well, she said they are on a break. I wanted to laugh, but I was extremely concerned. They always took breaks in their pre-marriage relationship, and they're still doing it? She said they got in a fight and decided to go on seperate vacations for Christmas.

This sounds awful and unhealthy to me. What do you all think?
12/02/2011
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Every relationship is different, but taking a break during marriage usually means serious trouble. However, if your friends have a history of taking breaks and their relationship works out better because of it, this could just be their way of working through things when the stress and immediate anger has been overcome by time and perspective. Talk to her, tell her your concerns and be there for her emotionally if not physically if she needs you.
12/02/2011
Peggi Peggi
Well, I think first of all it depends on the couple. Inevitably it isn't a good sign for the future in most cases but maybe it's what they need. I am friends with a couple who did this and ended up working things out that way and are now 5 years later still married with two more kids. So you never know, but I agree it sounds unhealthy in the sense that whatever caused it must be pretty bad! Breaks aren't necessarily the unhealthy part, staying around the person who has caused frustration or anger or grief to that extent is more stressful and unhealthy.
12/02/2011
Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by Peggi
Well, I think first of all it depends on the couple. Inevitably it isn't a good sign for the future in most cases but maybe it's what they need. I am friends with a couple who did this and ended up working things out that way and are now 5 ...
I agree. It seems to show that they get VERY upset with each other and have trouble talking it out. While the break itself may be good, the possible underlying causes may be trouble! Talk to her and let her know that you're available to talk!
12/03/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
I just find it so interesting that their break is involving a VACATION! They don't have the money and it seems like they want to be far away from each other. I wish there was something I could do to help them. I can tell something is wrong. She called again today saying she wants to prolong the trip and is practically begging me to come with her :/
12/03/2011
Ghost Ghost
I don't think it's necessarily unhealthy. Some people just need SPACE (myself included) and sometimes I need to take a "break" from my husband and our household.
12/03/2011
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