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Affairs with "Ugly Women"

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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
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Essentially, the writer is wondering why the 'other woman' is always unattractive when the woman he's with is hot as hell. And why should he go after other women if what he already has is 'perfect'?

This made my blood boil.

As having been and offered to be the 'other woman' (and certainly not being conventionally attractive in this era), I cannot believe the shallowness these fuckwits display. They have no clue that men want someone who'll accept their vulnerability and they can connect to emotionally! Women bitch about all men wanting drop-dead gorgeous women and nothing on the inside, but that's just casual dating. It doesn't work like that in long-term relationships! As one of the commentators (a man) had said, once he gets used to the physical stuff he's going to want to engage with the emotional stuff.

Any comments? Additions? Rants?
02/15/2011
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Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
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Essentially, the writer is wondering why the 'other woman' is always unattractive when the woman he's with is hot as hell. And why should he go after other women if what he already has is 'perfect'?

This made my ... more
I'll rant right along with you! That's appalling!!! First of all, many cheating and affair situations are not based on appearance - they're based on something lacking either in the cheater themselves or in the relationship.

Secondly, who is this poster to say that this woman was so much less attractive than her friend? Everyone's opinion of attractive is different, and once you get to know a person, your opinion on their appearance can change entirely. If you don't like a person inside, chances are you will begin to dislike them outside as well, and vice versa. This is really a piece written with what I would personally consider a deplorable mindset. And anyone that really thinks initial physical attractiveness is a cornerstone of a relationship has most likely never been in a deep, long lasting, committed, and successful one. Should you be attracted to the person you're with? Yes. Should you go by society's thin and blonde ideal of attractive? Fuck no!

Just because this woman's friend could 'turn heads' clearly doesn't mean that she could turn hearts. I'm not advocating her husband cheating by any means, but being pretty doesn't keep someone in a relationship with you with no additional effort required.
02/15/2011
Contributor: CamelliaGirl CamelliaGirl
that article was full of the ugliest kind of subtle misandry
11/01/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
This article is about as dumb and cram packed with idiotic assumptions as it gets. And that goes for the comments on it, too......"I mean would it have made the wife feel better if it was a pretty girl? I actually would've felt better that he downgraded and couldn't get anyone better than me. IMO"......as if you are automatically better in all ways than all women less attractive than yourself.

And I hate all the things that are assumed about men...like "guys only care about looks" and jazz like that. I think maybe it scares beautiful women who only have their looks to depend on to suggest that looks aren't enough?
11/01/2011
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Wow, that article was just ridiculous. While I am sure there are a handful of shallow people who cheat just purely based on looks I would guess that most cheating occurs because of relationship and personal issues that go far beyond appearances.
11/01/2011