I'm a female. My partner and I have been together for almost 6 years (next month!) and we still do it often! Maybe not 3 times a day, but always at least once or twice a week. I don't feel that I NEED to impress him, because he constantly tells me I should "let myself go." LOL. Yea right! I could not do that, but only because I feel good when I'm all prettied up because that's what makes me feel like me the most. I'm not talking lots of makeup or anything, but I love my dresses and sexy clothing! That's for me because I feel nice. I know he's going to be happy with anything I wear. Strange and it's taken me 5 years to even believe that he really thinks I'm still as great looking in my big Saliva T-shirt. Do I think or feel sexy or fantastic wearing nothing but that ugly shirt with hair everywhere? NO! Lol. He tells me I'm just as attractive that way and maybe it's true that he loves me that much and I really appreciate that I have that. However, I still try to impress him as much as I did (probably MORE!) when we first started seeing each other. I think maybe I get ideas in my head when I hear people or read about how men lose interest, women MUST keeping trying harder and harder each year or he's a goner. I think I've let those words sink in far too much! I cut myself off from that sort of advice though and try to just listen to how HE feels. I think deep down I know that even if I started wearing jeans and shirts everyday, nothing would change. I have my spells where I'll stick with plain old jeans for a week straight and he doesn't act any different. No I don't think women should have to adopt this "keep him interested" pressure. That is not what marriage/relationships are about. No siree.

I guess I have a lot to say on the subject. Lol. In shorter words though, I don't think it's the woman's fault. I say all women should have a man who says "I'm happy and just as attracted to you whether your naked and sexy or greasy and wearing work clothes." I mean face it, we do have a LOT of pressure when it comes to looks. I think we should give ourselves a break. Easier said than done! We should all be allowed to be comfortable, leave off the makeup and wear an ugly T-shirt without being made to feel ugly. When you love someone oh-so much, it's so far beyond looking like hell. At least, we're blessed enough to feel that way anyhow.

As for lowered sex drive. I'm not sure. There are so many reasons. Being belittled/critisized about your body, age, meds, stress, not feeling good enough and believe it or not, MOST women's terribly low sex drive stems from their partner being attracted to others. If my partner was ever attracted to someone else, no way in hell I'd feel like having sex! Of course that's not the only cause. My partner just turned 25 and I just turned 22 and I feel that my sex drive is pretty equal to his. Anytime I'm up for it, he's ready! I always tell him that I hear men will have a decrease in sex drive around his age or a little older and I'll still be young and wanting to do it! Lol. He swears he could never not jump at any chance for sex. I sure hope it stays that way. We're not THAT far away in age diff. though. He still does special things for me and even after nearly 6 years he still tells me "I only have eyes for you" and all those things that guys say in the beginning. That helps too. When men stop trying to show care and affection, women tend to worry (some of us) and that could cause them to not be totally ecstatic about sex anymore.