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Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has told me that he loves having sex with me but could probably go without it for a few weeks, if need be.
05/24/2011
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Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has ... more
My fiance and I don't have this issue at all. We get frustrated when we want to have good sex, but just can't. But when it comes to taking a break, being busy, etc. We don't really get bothered by it. We both have hands and toys, and if we are that frustrated we just take it to the shower.

We stop having sex when I'm on my period, which can be stressful because that is the most horniest time of the month for both of us. Either because I want it so bad and can't have it, or because I am simply a hormone infested horny monster for that entire week.

My sister is having this issue, and I pointed out that maybe their focus is solely on sex. So basically, sex means TOO MUCH to them. I love sex, absolutely. Never want to give it up. But sometimes your focus has to be on other more important things, or this can just keep happening. She said that they hadn't had sex for about 5 days and she wanted to like leave him because it was making her so upset. And then another time she said that she didn't feel loved because it had been like 3 or 4 days since they last had sex.
05/24/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
Considering I have a MUCH higher sex drive than my husband it happends often that there are days between sessions. I dont get crabby (at least not anymore), I just get extremely horny, like crazy horny!
06/02/2011
Contributor: kjkitty kjkitty
I don't always notice a difference, but the other day I got off with a new vibrator I bought and when my boyfriend came home from work he INSTANTLY knew I had gotten off from the way I was acting. Haha.
06/02/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has ... more
yes. sometimes i just NEED to come or NEED to feel connected to my partner.
06/02/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
If I haven't had it in a while, I get irritated at first and then my libido goes away slowly
06/02/2011
Contributor: Brosia Brosia
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has ... more
Absolutely. We've noticed that we tend to start arguing if we go without sex.
06/06/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has ... more
Absolutely. Both of us are much nicer when we both have regular orgasms, versus getting a bit cranky when we haven't.
06/06/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has ... more
I can get cranky if I go without sex for a few days although I've gone months before without it during pregnancy and after giving birth. I enjoy sex with feeling connected to my Master but sometimes with having kids it just gets too busy to find time. We treasure our overnights when we get them and can find time to be together.
06/06/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
i get a little moody
06/06/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
I never have sex anymore. And no, it doesn't. I mean, I am a bit tense sometimes, so having sex would probably loosen me up, but it's not a big deal.
06/06/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has ... more
Little things do start to irritate me after about 3 days without. Now, if there's a reason we're not having sex (sickness, injury, out of town, etc) then I don't get cranky or irritated, but if we're just at home being normal, then yes I do.
06/06/2011
Contributor: Ajax Ajax
I've really never noticed, but it could very well be true. I'm a wee bit cranky all the time though so...maybe not :p haha
06/06/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Absolutely - I'm easily agitated when it's been a long time.
06/06/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
We only seem to get frustrated when we cant find the time or the kids keep getting up but if we go for a bit without I think we are ok with it
06/06/2011
Contributor: curmudgeoncat curmudgeoncat
I have a higher sex drive than my partner and am easily excitable, so I get blue vulva fairly frequently. Most of the time I fix it myself or by using toys. But I do get pissed off and highly irritable when I can't during family functions or what have you.
06/07/2011
Contributor: ac0313 ac0313
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Little things do start to irritate me after about 3 days without. Now, if there's a reason we're not having sex (sickness, injury, out of town, etc) then I don't get cranky or irritated, but if we're just at home being normal, then yes I do.
similar for me, but it is after just 24-36 hours...

She has a higher sex drive than me and with our open relationship, has more partners and opportunities for sex. As long as her extracurricular fun does not cut into our sex time, I'm good!
06/08/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
I haven't noticed any mood change from lack of sex
06/08/2011
Contributor: lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
If we go more than a week my husband definitely gets more irritable.
06/15/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
This has not really happenned in our relationship.

We do go through periods where life makes it such that we are too tired or do not have the time to have penetrative sex. Sometimes it bothers us, one of us mentions their worry about it, the other chimes in.

I do not orgasm from sex, everytime I have sex. But when I do it's nice. Being close to my partner is really important and when we lose that sort of connection it bothers me, but I will not get irrate after 5 days without sex. I can reason why things are slow, to be compasionate and I find ways to be close to my parter that do not require penetrative sex (ex: oral, mutual masturbation).
06/16/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has ... more
I need it about every 24-36 hours. If I don't get it, I get snarky and sometimes, down right bitchy. He will tease me and tell me I need a beating (that will usually make me change gears and make me think bedroom thoughts). He gets moody and short with his temper when he has been without too.

He has been away for work a lot this year. Right now he is gone again, dammit! The snark is riding high on my tongue and my tolerance for things that annoy me is VERY short.
06/16/2011
Contributor: Penguin Penguin
Sort of, it can make me more stressed out.
06/16/2011
Contributor: crbliss crbliss
yea Two nights without having sex feels like a week to me..
06/19/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
I find that when my partner and I have not had sex for a few days (3+), I start getting really irritated. After I finally get my big O, I feel a lot better.

Im wondering if anyone else out there gets this way too?

By the way... He has ... more
uh! if my boyfriend said that to me i'd be a bit offended.


i certainly can feel it... o's let out your endorphins and stimulate all kinds of stress-relief which starts in your body, and radiates into your mind


... and your soul.


06/23/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
I could go for a few days, but if it's over a week I start getting grouchy and being more aggressive about getting some
06/23/2011