Oh. I didn't actually answer the question.
We were together for years. I was living with him part time, while I was in college and when I got my first full time job after I graduated. I lived at home during the week, as it was closer to the City, where my job was, then I lived with him on the weekends.
We bought a house and I planned a day to move in permanently. We were in the midst of planning a wedding. We had been engaged for about a year.
The last night in our apartment, we had sex on our mattress on the floor, and for the first time in our relationship, we didn't use protection. I don't know why. He said he didn't want to pull out, and I said, "It should be OK, I'm in my Safe Time." (Natural Family Planning is a JOKE!) A few weeks later I didn't feel well, we were cleaning up the new house, he was living there and I felt sick all the time.
We took a pregnancy test and it was positive. We were both very happy, as I had been told it would be "difficult" to get pregnant, due to some health problem. ONE TIME! That was all it took.
I was happy waiting until our wedding date, but his parents were breathing down our necks. They wanted us to have a "secret" wedding. Probably so they could lie to everyone and tell them the baby was early or some bullshit. I don't like dishonesty. We moved the wedding up about a month or two, so I could fit into my very simple dress (it was a bridesmaid dress, I didn't want anything too busy or expensive.)
We got married, and I was totally honest with everyone. We talked about the baby at our wedding. I refused to pretend I wasn't pregnant. Unbeknownst to us, one of my cousins had just gotten his girlfriend pregnant, they got married a few weeks later. They did the "pretend the baby was early" thing, but she and I were both in Maternity Intensive Care at the same time. I was in for preterm labor, and she was in due to her diabetes. She admitted to me she was pregnant, *duh* she was in MIC, but I wasn't supposed to "tell anyone." I don't get that kind of lying. With one exception, nearly all the first babies of all my cousins on that side were present at the wedding, usually in utero.
One of my cousin's children just had a baby and broke tradition and refused to get married. I admire her strength. My Man and I got married because we were in love and were getting married anyway, some of my cousins (who had shotgun weddings) only got married because there was a baby on the way, and some of them are very unhappy with the choice now.
Catholics.... fertile and often refusing to use birth control.
Yeah, babies are going to happen.