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Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
My partner and I have been together for 3 and a half years now. I've found that as time goes on, out foreplay time becomes shorter and shorter? Has this happened to anyone else?

Probably because he knows the right buttons to push now. But I'm just curious if you still take the same amount of time exploring each other as you did back when you first slept together.
06/27/2012
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Contributor: LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
Quote:
Originally posted by Mitzuki
My partner and I have been together for 3 and a half years now. I've found that as time goes on, out foreplay time becomes shorter and shorter? Has this happened to anyone else?

Probably because he knows the right buttons to push now. But ... more
Yes my boyfriend just wants to skip to the "action"
06/28/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
No, not at all. My Man and I have been together for more than 20 years. We spend hours exploring each other most of the time. We sometimes have a quickie, but most of the time we play for a long time. PIV isn't the end all and be all of our sex play. We pop from oral to toys, to PIV, back to some oral for one of us or the other, then for the other one, them more PIV, more toy play, maybe some other stuff depending on what we're wanting.

I don't like the term "foreplay" as it implies that only PIV is important. My Man and I like all the fun and play, I don't like to consider "foreplay" as unimportant nor for PIV to be considered "the main event."

EVERYTHING WE DO is the "Main Event." Oral, anal, toys, hands, everything.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Checkmate Checkmate
Over the many years we have been married, I would have to say foreplay time is longer rather than shorter. Just like a long trip,,we often enjoy the trip better than reaching the destination.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Sir Sir
No, not necessarily. It depends on my mood, on their mood. I would actually say that I prefer a lot of foreplay personally, so it isn't something that dwindles as time progresses.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Scrawberry78 Scrawberry78
for the most part we dont do fore play.
06/30/2012
Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
I'm glad I'm not the only one that kind of experiences that.

I'm the same way..I always enjoyed the trip there more rather then the actual destination. Hm.
07/01/2012
Contributor: Bittenflame Bittenflame
Not really. I mean if we are in a rush it does, besides that, we enjoy taking our time to woo eachother
07/01/2012
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I think ours actually gets longer. We keep learning more about one another and coming up with more drawn out roleplays and such.
07/02/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Sometimes, since we're more effective at knowing what's going to work and don't spend time on the less effective stuff. On the other hand, it's sometimes nice to take a long weekend and really enjoy some longer foreplay
07/02/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
Yea, it's been getting shorter and shorter but I'm trying to work with him to add more time again.
07/02/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Depends, sometimes it can be the only thing we do. As the kids get older and with our schedule changing we do not always have the time for long sessions. As such foreplay can get skipped when there is only time for a quicky. When we do have time we enjoy drawing out the foreplay as long as possible.

It's the road traveled not the destination most of the time.
07/02/2012
Contributor: Feisty Feisty
nope! we like to take our sweet time. there are times where we do skip it all together and straight to the action, but generally speaking we still take our time to sweeten things up!
07/02/2012
Contributor: Crimson Vixen Crimson Vixen
Foreplay varies. But what I have noticed is that we can't seem to have just normal cuddling/make-out sessions without it most likely leading to sex. Sometimes I miss the hot and heavy sex denial aspect of when we first started dating. Where the kissing was intense because we chose not to have sexual activity.
07/09/2012
Contributor: MnK MnK
We have been together for 3 years and the foreplay has definitely gone away. For the most part it's because we live with his parents so the only time we really get to have sex is when they're asleep (or else they'll end up bothering us in the middle of it), so we both are usually tired and just want to get straight to the point.

I'd love to have more foreplay though, sex just ends up being so much better for me with it! Hopefully by trying new sex toys it will bring foreplay back into our relationship.
07/10/2012
Contributor: epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
Yes it has shortened! after 10 years and going on 3 kids we usually don't have time or energy to go at it like we used to. but on occasion when family takes the kids off our hands for a night or two we take advantage and I do get some foreplay time back, especially since I mentioned it a year ago how I missed it, he's made a point to play around when we do have time.
After a few years you know where to go, and how fast, how hard, it just gets more efficient. but you do need to go back and try new things all over again sometimes your body changes after kids and other events in life or just getting older your tastes could change. I'm not there yet but I'm assuming when you hit menopause you'll need another adjustment period of not knowing exactly what you want in bed or maybe knowing you want something completely different.
07/11/2012
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
We've been married over 20 years and we still have lots of foreplay. Of course sometimes we have quickies, but our norm still includes lots of pregame stuff.
07/11/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Foreplay and connecting is far more important than orgasms. Foreplay increases with time.
07/11/2012
Contributor: joolie joolie
Foreplay has vanished. I don't even enjoy sex anymore.
07/19/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
Quote:
Originally posted by Mitzuki
My partner and I have been together for 3 and a half years now. I've found that as time goes on, out foreplay time becomes shorter and shorter? Has this happened to anyone else?

Probably because he knows the right buttons to push now. But ... more
I found this a little bit, but then it got longer. I can turn her on faster, but I like foreplay, so I made it longer again. To me foreplay is a part of sex. Not just the facilitation of sex.
07/19/2012
Contributor: Rawr4483 Rawr4483
Our foreplay started to diminish until I told my boyfriend how much I loved it...since then it's been going on for quite some time before the action really starts
07/25/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Mitzuki
My partner and I have been together for 3 and a half years now. I've found that as time goes on, out foreplay time becomes shorter and shorter? Has this happened to anyone else?

Probably because he knows the right buttons to push now. But ... more
yep
07/25/2012
Contributor: Sureshot Sureshot
Shorter? maybe, it tends to vary in length and breadth. I can sometimes enjoy an hour or more of foreplay, but sometimes a quicker foray is necessary, I think it all depends on schedule and syncing our time and mood
07/25/2012
Contributor: cgerling06 cgerling06
I have been with my husband for 8 years now married for 3. Foreplay use to be the best the first few years. Now its he just wants to skip right to the point. So your not alone!
07/25/2012
Contributor: Crimson Vixen Crimson Vixen
Quote:
Originally posted by joolie
Foreplay has vanished. I don't even enjoy sex anymore.
That's very unfortunate.
07/25/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
It did at one point and then I made it clear that I needed more and he fixed it.
09/25/2012