My wife knows I masturbate everyday and is totally fine with it, but I still feel awkward telling her and I'd like to normalize it. So what do you say when you need to? And for guys what do you say when you want/need to massage your prostate?
How do you tell your SO that you're going to masturbate
12/26/2011
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"I'm going to go indulge myself. I'd love it if you'd come snuggle me while I do."
12/26/2011
I add a bit of lingerie and ask if he wants to watch. 99% of the time it is a go, marathon masturbation!!!
12/26/2011
He calls it "practice" while I call it "research" (for reviews). So I say either "I'm going to practice" or "I'm going to research" and he knows what that means. It's also a way to discreetly discuss it since we have a young son and don't want to go around saying "do you plan to masturbate this evening?" So instead we can say "do you have research to do?"
12/26/2011
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I need permission to masturbate so I need to ask first before I cum.
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JoeCanadian
My wife knows I masturbate everyday and is totally fine with it, but I still feel awkward telling her and I'd like to normalize it. So what do you say when you need to? And for guys what do you say when you want/need to massage your prostate?
12/26/2011
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That is a very creative and discreet way to put it. I would like to emulate that as well
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He calls it "practice" while I call it "research" (for reviews). So I say either "I'm going to practice" or "I'm going to research" and he knows what that means. It's also a way to discreetly
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He calls it "practice" while I call it "research" (for reviews). So I say either "I'm going to practice" or "I'm going to research" and he knows what that means. It's also a way to discreetly discuss it since we have a young son and don't want to go around saying "do you plan to masturbate this evening?" So instead we can say "do you have research to do?"
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12/26/2011
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This made me lol but really it is smart. Just a funny way of looking at it
Originally posted by
- Kira -
He calls it "practice" while I call it "research" (for reviews). So I say either "I'm going to practice" or "I'm going to research" and he knows what that means. It's also a way to discreetly
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He calls it "practice" while I call it "research" (for reviews). So I say either "I'm going to practice" or "I'm going to research" and he knows what that means. It's also a way to discreetly discuss it since we have a young son and don't want to go around saying "do you plan to masturbate this evening?" So instead we can say "do you have research to do?"
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12/26/2011
I usually say "I'm gonna go review something;" he knows what I mean
12/26/2011
I just tell him I am going to rub one off or I am starting without him
12/26/2011
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Yup, this!
Originally posted by
- Kira -
He calls it "practice" while I call it "research" (for reviews). So I say either "I'm going to practice" or "I'm going to research" and he knows what that means. It's also a way to discreetly
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He calls it "practice" while I call it "research" (for reviews). So I say either "I'm going to practice" or "I'm going to research" and he knows what that means. It's also a way to discreetly discuss it since we have a young son and don't want to go around saying "do you plan to masturbate this evening?" So instead we can say "do you have research to do?"
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I've also used "rub one out" too. Of course, if my partner is there, I'd rather do something else.
12/26/2011
I usually show up in front of him with two or more toys because I can't ever seem to pick on my own, so I make him pick for me! He chooses which one I should use this time and I walk on off. He on the other hand, has more of an opportunity to be discreet about it since I work. He just does it while I am at work, but he doesn't work so when I'm home, he's home. And I'm not much of a secretive person anyway so he pretty much knows what I'm doing most of the time lol
12/26/2011
Since I need permission to do so, I ask first. And then I 'walk her through it' while she tells me all the things we're going to do once we're together. It's super hot.
12/26/2011
Maybe you can ask her if she'd like to do it for you? (It might get a little more exciting later on..haha) and as for part two of your question "And for guys what do you say when you want/need to massage your prostate?"
I'm not sure what you can say but I can tell you, you will want lots of lube and if using a toy make sure it's non-porous (porous toys would include jelly, rubber, etc) Go for something more along the lines of silicone or glass.
I'm not sure what you can say but I can tell you, you will want lots of lube and if using a toy make sure it's non-porous (porous toys would include jelly, rubber, etc) Go for something more along the lines of silicone or glass.
12/26/2011
I just say I am going to go masturbate! Or I sit next to him on the couch and do it anyway.
12/26/2011
I usually just tell him "I'm going to wank. You can watch or join in if you want.", give him a kiss, do so. lol. I have no shame, and it doesn't bother him. It's actually pretty novel, as I am the first girlfriend he has had who isn't at all embarassed by sex or masturbation.
12/26/2011
I just say, "I'm going to masturbate." I'll tell this with friends that I hang out with too. It's not too hard for me to be open with people.
12/26/2011
I tell him to go take a long shower.
12/27/2011
My boyfriend can be pretty sensitive, even though he's a little nervous to try new things. It honestly frustrates me sometimes that when I'm using a toy on myself and want him to kiss me and play with my nipples and stuff he does so somewhat lazily, like it's a chore. It actually kind of kills it for me. And it makes me really sad, almost enough to cry, because when we were first together, I had more intense orgasms using my toy with him helping than I ever had before. And nowadays it's better when I'm by myself. I once made a joke when I wanted him to come to bed and he was watching tv or something, I held up a vibrator and JOKINGLY said, "Fine, I don't need you, I have this!" and he took it really personally. So I just wait until he's at work to masturbate.
12/27/2011
I've never masturbated around my boyfriend before
12/27/2011
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