I have been engaged for four years, I feel like this is a long time. I guess we just are not ready but I'm not sure. So how long is too long, and how much longer should I wait.
How long is too long for being engaged?
11/21/2012
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I think its a personal choice but in my opinion if you get engaged it means you are ready to get married. I was engaged for 1 year and a half and that felt right for us. Don't get married if you aren't ready, there is no race to the alter.
11/21/2012
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I think 2 years is pushing it but people are different.
Originally posted by
Sharay88
I have been engaged for four years, I feel like this is a long time. I guess we just are not ready but I'm not sure. So how long is too long, and how much longer should I wait.
11/21/2012
Until both of you are ready and able to get married. Do NOT rush into or be forced into something you are not ready for--that usually ends in divorce. I commend both of you for being honest and waiting until you are ready!! Very mature and responsible, also very brave when others seem to know your business better than you do! Do not let other people's opinions force you into a situation you are not ready for--go at your own pace!!
11/21/2012
I always thought after 2-3 years you should be married or at that point your just staling but I was engaged for 4 years with my ex and we just never wanted to get married until everything was right. It is a choice and you should not get married until your ready.
11/21/2012
Every couple is different. I do like the idea of setting a goal time when getting engaged, like when we both graduate from college, both have a good job or a similar goal. I think that as long as both parties agree about when they are getting married the length of the engagement doesn't matter. It only matters when one person wants to get married sooner or later than the other. Then feelings get hurt.
11/21/2012
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It's up to the couple really, plus it could take up to 1-2 yrs to just plane the wedding so I would say 4-5 yrs might be long.
Originally posted by
Sharay88
I have been engaged for four years, I feel like this is a long time. I guess we just are not ready but I'm not sure. So how long is too long, and how much longer should I wait.
11/21/2012
I think 2 years is long enough. But it also depends on how long you dated before getting engaged.
11/21/2012
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I agree
Originally posted by
deltalima
I think 2 years is pushing it but people are different.
11/21/2012
Personal choice. For me, it'd be a year to a year and a half, but part of it depends on how long you've been dating before that
11/21/2012
I could be engaged forever depending on the circumstances. I don't want to get married until I have finished my master's, but my parents might like it more if I was engaged because I live with my boyfriend. Sooo, it might end up being 4 years for me. Which does seem long, but that's not a bad thing!
11/21/2012
We were engaged for about 7 years, and we've been married 21. Ours falls on the long end, I guess
11/21/2012
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Four years is definitely waaay too long for me.
Originally posted by
Sharay88
I have been engaged for four years, I feel like this is a long time. I guess we just are not ready but I'm not sure. So how long is too long, and how much longer should I wait.
11/22/2012
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My sister and her fiance have been engaged for about 9 years. Personally, I think it's too long but for them, they both have things they want to accomplish before they get married. They want to be able to spend good money on their wedding and help their family come together for it, which right now just isn't in their budget. So they're waiting. And while my sister will sometimes complain about how long it's taking, she understands why it is and I guess that gets her through.
Originally posted by
Sharay88
I have been engaged for four years, I feel like this is a long time. I guess we just are not ready but I'm not sure. So how long is too long, and how much longer should I wait.
Me personally, it'd drive me nuts. I'd want to get married as soon as the engagement was out of the way... But every person and couple is different.
11/22/2012
I think it's different with every person, it just depends on what you're comfortable with and if you want to get married soon maybe bring it up with your significant other, maybe there's reasoning behind the wait and maybe they just think this is what you want and is waiting for a sign from you. All you can do is ask if you want things to change
01/22/2013
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