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How many of you in long tern relationships would choose their current partner or partners again?

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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
I was listening to the song "I'd Choose You Again" by the Forrester Sisters and I was wondering how many of you felt the same. These are the lyrics:
Looking in my life through the eyes of a young girl
Growing older all the time, maybe just a little wiser
I can clearly see all my mistakes keep coming back to visit me
Pointing out the roads not taken
So much I'd like to change but one thing I'd do the same

I'd choose you again, I'd choose you again
If God gave me the chance to do it all again
Oh, I'd carefully consider every choice and then
Out of all the boys in the world
I'd choose you again

Times weren't always good
Seems like the Lord gave all the easy parts away
But every time the road got rocky
You'd look at me and say
Had all you needed long as I was there with you
You're the reason I kept going
If I could start my life anew
The first thing that I would do

I'd choose you again, I'd choose you again
If God gave me the chance to do it all again
Oh, I'd carefully consider every choice and then
Out of all the boys in the world
I'd choose you again

I'd choose you again, I'd choose you again
If God gave me the chance to do it all again
Oh, I'd carefully consider every choice and then
I'd listen to my heart and I'd choose you again
You again, you again

So would you?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes I would choose my guy/girl again.
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197  (78%)
I don't know if I would choose my guy/girl again.
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11  (4%)
I'd definitely do things a bit differently but I'd probably choose him/her again.
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44  (17%)
Nope I am so done with this troublemaker...
Why are you asking me this? What are you some closet pervert?
Squirtz Starz
1  (0%)
I didn't choose him/her in the first place he/she just followed me home like a lost puppy.
Dark Muse
1  (0%)
Total votes: 254
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Ok so as corny as it sounds and despite all the problems we have had I would choose BOTH my guys again. And again and again. In fact I plan to...I believe in reincarnation and they aren't getting away from me...ever!

Seriously though I would choose them again even knowing the problems we'd have, it's been a bumpy ride but the smooth bits have been amazing.

LONG TERM dang it TERM...type in the dark and see what it gets ya.....
07/17/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I've been married 25 years and I would definitely choose my husband again. I couldn't picture my life with anyone else. I got very lucky finding the exact right person for me.
07/17/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
After 20 years I would do it all over. If it wasn't for her I would not be were I am today or have my wonderful two kids!

I would make some small changes but nothing to major.
07/17/2010
Contributor: sarahbear sarahbear
9 years together and I would absolutely choose him again. If there was a way to learn what we learned from the heartache we've experienced without experiencing the hard parts, I would love to not have to go through that again. But, I also believe that without the heartaches you don't know just how happy and full of love you can be for each other. We are 100% right for each other. True soul mates.
07/17/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I wish I had met him at a time in my life when I was fully healed from the damage my ex-husband did, but he nursed me back to life with his kindness and humor and I know that he is one of a kind.
07/17/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I'd choose my guy again for sure. Without him I don't think I'd have ever pursued sex toys since he kinda nudged me in that direction along with my dad's gf, saying it was okay and natural. He also gives me lots of love and support, something my family doesn't really give to me. It just sucks the chances of us actually being together in the future (it's a long distance relationship) are very very slim.
07/17/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
I would definitely choose my hubby again!! He has taught me sooooo much about sex and is the best sexual partner I have ever been with! He isn't afraid to try anything new or something not so new! There isn't really anything he hasn't done, so it's mainly me that it's new to! He's not jealous at all and has taught me not to be and is sooooo open!!! We never have a dull moment when it comes to our lives and our bedroom! Other ex's never again, now that I've met my hubby! LOL
07/17/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I would definitely choose my husband again, no question.
07/17/2010
Contributor: 00 00
No doubt whatsoever...he was, is and always will be..THE ONE. 29 years now and counting.
07/17/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Absolutely - I have no idea how I got so lucky - I'd marry her every day if I had to!
07/18/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
These showings of love are just so..._______!

They just make me happy!
07/18/2010
Contributor: Miss B Haven Miss B Haven
I would definately choose my honey again
07/18/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Quote:
Originally posted by 00
No doubt whatsoever...he was, is and always will be..THE ONE. 29 years now and counting.
29 years? Wow! Congrats!
07/18/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
I'd choose him again, but after nearly 20 years together I look back and know I'd do things differently. When we started out I was so shy and awkward about my body that I wasted too many years on routine sex because I was too stupid to say what I really wanted. Knowing what I know now, I'd be far more outspoken and adventurous right from the start. I would have been more outspoken non-sexually too, because I had a tendency to just shut up and let things go that bothered me, and we had to learn to communicate when those things threatened the relationship years later.
07/18/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
These showings of love are just so..._______!

They just make me happy!
I know, right? Love this outpouring...I hope each of the partners of these wonderful lovers read their posts!
for each of you!
07/18/2010
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
definitely!
07/18/2010
Contributor: AU AU
I would choose my partner again. He forgives me for things I have done and likes the person I have become because of my mistakes--But I wish sometimes that I could go back and do things differently.
07/25/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
I'd choose him again in a heartbeat. We've been together for five years, and he still gives me butterflies.
07/26/2010
Contributor: Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
I have been with mine for 12 years, and will stick around for life but it's complicated.
07/26/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
I've been with my husband for over 4 years now. High school sweethearts. And we've been married for almost 3 of those years. I would definitely still choose him again!
07/27/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
If you wanna get technical, I did choose him again, lol. We dated for about 9 months in high school, then 9 years later, I chose him again
07/28/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I'd most likely choose him again, that is if everything happened the same prior to meeting him. It was such a happenstance that we met that everything would have to go just right. The timing was bad or good depending on how you look at it. I think I would have waited a little longer to get involved but would have eventually again.

Did that even make sense? LOL basically yes, I would choose him again-I just would have given myself more time to get my heart in order before getting involved.
07/28/2010
Contributor: Hopeless Romantic Hopeless Romantic
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I was listening to the song "I'd Choose You Again" by the Forrester Sisters and I was wondering how many of you felt the same. These are the lyrics:
Looking in my life through the eyes of a young girl
Growing older all the time, ... more
I think everything happens for a reason. I like to realize every relationship is not perfect, everyone has their ups & downs. So The only thing I'd change is I'd choose him first before all the others who broke my heart.
07/28/2010
Contributor: Sera Sera
I'd do things differently before we met, but I'd absolutely choose Jonathan all over again. He's one of a kind.
08/01/2010
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
I love my wife-to-be.
08/02/2010
Contributor: BoomersGirl BoomersGirl
I doubt if I would. Sorry to say. I jumped into it after just separating from my ex husband (of 15 years). If it wasn't for the 2 sons my new hubby and I have together, I would say definitely not. Funny how people change when they get you trapped...
08/02/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I was listening to the song "I'd Choose You Again" by the Forrester Sisters and I was wondering how many of you felt the same. These are the lyrics:
Looking in my life through the eyes of a young girl
Growing older all the time, ... more
I don't know that song, but the lyrics are just beautiful! Despite some rough times in the last 2 decades + and sometimes thinking we wouldn't make it, we're still together, and I know we'd choose each other again, despite our differences.

I originally met him when I was a child and he was a teenage punk, (we had a stick fight over a fort at a local park) then I started dating him when I was in High School, not realizing until years later we had met as children. I was too inexperienced to make a Life Decision then, and he wanted to sow some wild oats, too, so we started an Open Relationship. When I was almost done with college, we became monogamous, then eventually got married. Because of, or in spite of all this, I think we belong together. DO NOT ask me during PMS week, though.
08/02/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I know, right? Love this outpouring...I hope each of the partners of these wonderful lovers read their posts!
for each of you!
I really wish the people who think people with high sex drives, perhaps unusual set ups, many partners, and who love sex toys and "out of the ordinary sex" "can't love" and aren't able to settle down with a lover would be able to see this thread!

There's been many discussions on Em&Lo, where some of the more prudish members seem to think those of us who are "hypersexual" are incapable of relationships, despite great odds to the contrary.
08/02/2010
Contributor: Latsyrc728 Latsyrc728
My Hubby is the one and I would choose him a million times over again, even with all of our problems.
08/03/2010