How to deal with a argument?

How to deal with a argument?

Carolinagirl08 Carolinagirl08
Im sure everyone in a long term relationship has had a argument? How do you and your partner deal with it?

One rule i always have is ALWAYS go to bed angry. In the morning we have cooled off and sometime thought about the fight and we will talk about it. Also give each other some space. It always helps.
04/22/2011
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El-Jaro El-Jaro
I hate fighting with my girlfriend. Thankfully, we're more rational than emotional people when it comes to discussions.

The best way we deal with it is to know when to say when and go to bed.
04/22/2011
Ansley Ansley
We talk. A lot. Most of the time the argument is stupid or petty so it doesn't take long to resolve. I don't think we have had an argument last more than two or three hours at most.
04/22/2011
Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
One of my rules is to NEVER go to bed angry, heh. I force myself on him and give him head. Shuts him up and I win the argument
04/22/2011
indiglo indiglo
We usually stop for a moment and cool off. (In fact, I have a safe word that I use when I'm starting to get aggravated. When I say it, he knows what's going on inside of my head, so the conversation stops and then we revisit it in a short while so we can resolve the issue, but after the heat of the moment.) Then we work on finding out the real issue we're arguing about, rather than whatever silly topic it started on. From there, it's important to be honest and admit your part in the argument. We talk a lot, and we both try to figure out what we did, and how we can do better in the future. Then we both agree to work on our part next time, and apologize.
04/22/2011
Mlee Mlee
I always try to work out my problems with my boyfriend because you never know if that day is going to be your last and what the last thing you say to that person. I hate fighting with him but there is just sometimes it is not avoidable.
04/22/2011
K101 K101
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Originally posted by Mlee
I always try to work out my problems with my boyfriend because you never know if that day is going to be your last and what the last thing you say to that person. I hate fighting with him but there is just sometimes it is not avoidable.
I agree! That is exactly what my partner always tells me. He always makes sure we resolve whatever we can which usually isn't anything big and we never stay mad. He says he couldn't forgive himself if I ended up dying or something and he was angry. He's usually good about apologizing when he's done something really hurtful like last week he said "fu** you" to me! He apologized thank God. He never does talk down to me or belittle me, but everyone can be hurtful at times.

We never just let something fester. We always take care of it right away. It will only make things worse if you leave hurt feelings alone and never revisit to make things right or even the simple things like a simple misunderstanding can really cause a great deal of pain and I've been there before, but if you just talk about it as soon as possible, it can be quickly fixed.

Usually we get over it and say I love you before an hour has passed. We always talk about hurt feelings and explain misunderstandings which is what most arguments are over.
04/23/2011
Curves Curves
i agree that space helps after an argument. it helps you get things straight and into perspective.
04/25/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
We need a short time for space, but we never go to bed still upset with each other. We always talk it out in detail first.
04/25/2011
FREE MR PERRY FREE MR PERRY
Quote:
Originally posted by Carolinagirl08
Im sure everyone in a long term relationship has had a argument? How do you and your partner deal with it?



One rule i always have is ALWAYS go to bed angry. In the morning we have cooled off and sometime thought about the fight and we ...
Take etn and have a smoke then make up sex
04/25/2011
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
I usually like to resolve things right away, because I don't like feelings or misunderstandings to fester. When they go unresolved for too long it builds walls, then lack of communication, which then becomes quite serious.

She prefers space and cooling off method. I've adapted to that better recently, so I give her time alone then approach the subject later with a more level perspective.
12/13/2011
GRRRRR GRRRRR
Letting things settle down is a good idea but going to bed angry is bad. Well at least for me. the few times that i have gone to bed angry i had the worst nights sleep and woke up even more cranky.
12/13/2011
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