Does you significant other tell you I told you so or do they support you when you are hurt and upset. Even though they did warn you. Do you feel like it is poking a caged animal with a sharp stick when they do?
I told you so.... or just be there for me.
12/15/2011
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My boyfriend is really good about not saying I told you so. He always gives me good advice, but I tend to ignore it and do stupid things anyways. But he's still there to support me and doesn't rub it in.
12/16/2011
My husband is really good about being supportive until enough time has passed and then I may get a playful "I told you so" from him. But I do the same thing too. Neither of us rub it in while the other is down because everything is a learning experience. We just deal with it, move on, then joke about it later.
12/16/2011
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Same with my husband. He is good about knowing exactly when I need to just be held and when to say well, I did tell you that would happen. He is my biggest supporter.
Originally posted by
Jul!a
My husband is really good about being supportive until enough time has passed and then I may get a playful "I told you so" from him. But I do the same thing too. Neither of us rub it in while the other is down because everything is a
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My husband is really good about being supportive until enough time has passed and then I may get a playful "I told you so" from him. But I do the same thing too. Neither of us rub it in while the other is down because everything is a learning experience. We just deal with it, move on, then joke about it later.
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12/16/2011
Mine can and will be an ass, he will tell me I told you so. He can be hurtful and disrespectful at the same time. But he has his moments. I also can be a bitch and a bit nutty, so we forgive. It all works out before bed time, so it never last long. I do sometimes feel very angered, but I am not sure I would say poking an animal, but I do get what you are saying. For me that is a good time to go for a walk or take a shower, that way you get a cooling off period as well as them.
12/16/2011
Eh it depends on the situation. Sometimes I deserve it, though. If I'm set that I'm right, he might do that, but I don't have any hard feelings about it because it is usually a situation where I really should have taken his advice and was too stubborn to lol.
12/16/2011
Usually, he supports me. Sometimes he reminds me that he told me so, but we're both like that. We'd rather have blunt honesty than comforting lies. Typically I get a mix of comforting and advice for the future from him, and I typically give the same.
12/16/2011
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Yep, we are the same way. Maybe a playful "I told you so", but usually the other is painfully aware that's the case. lol We don't rub it in or anything like that. I don't think there's room for that kind of behavior in a relationship, or least it wouldn't work for me.
Originally posted by
Jul!a
My husband is really good about being supportive until enough time has passed and then I may get a playful "I told you so" from him. But I do the same thing too. Neither of us rub it in while the other is down because everything is a
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My husband is really good about being supportive until enough time has passed and then I may get a playful "I told you so" from him. But I do the same thing too. Neither of us rub it in while the other is down because everything is a learning experience. We just deal with it, move on, then joke about it later.
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12/16/2011
He would never say "I told you so" in a condscending way, and I think I've heard it only a handful of times in the many, many years we've been together. I'm usually way ahead of the game and I've weighed pros/cons and any foreseeable outcome that may have consequences down the line before I make decisions.
12/16/2011
My boyfriend is very supportive and is always the one to comfort me. Even when I'm a total nut and a wreck he is always there.
12/16/2011
I'd never use those exact words, but maybe something along those lines. Just think about what they mean before you say them, I'd suggest.
12/16/2011
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actually I'm not sure never thought about it...umm he loves me but he will won't baby me like I'm right because I'm upset about something he will give me a new way to look at it and make me want to fix it or change something. I guess it depends what its about if its oh I fell down and hurt myself he will support me or if someone upset me(that depends too....was it my fault did I deserve it and because I don't like something he wouldnt take my side for example I was late for work and got fired he would say well you should have got here on time.)whether I do it or not...well sometimes it takes forever other times I just try to get around something lol. IDK,do u get what I mean?
Originally posted by
js250
Does you significant other tell you I told you so or do they support you when you are hurt and upset. Even though they did warn you. Do you feel like it is poking a caged animal with a sharp stick when they do?
12/16/2011
I have a family member who is extremely self centered and self righteous and has made many promises he will not keep. My husband said I would have problems with him and he would not follow through. I said, probably not, but I will give him the benefit of the doubt. The family member did not follow through, ok, but then in retalliation, he has been very derogatory toward my daughter and I, hateful and manipulative with other family member. I was ok with not following through, but NOBODY fucks with my kid!!!Especially when she did nothing to deserve it!!! Instead of finding out about the rest of the issue, my husband walked in from work and said, I told you so and I do not want to hear about it. When it is his issues, he expects me to drop everything and totally baby him.WTF???
12/16/2011
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Both of my partners are not above saying "I told you so" BUT they are also not above putting their arms around me and doing their best to support me through whatever. Sometimes the amazing thing about having two partners is that they kind of check each other from being too evil or from reacting with anger (it's common to react with anger when scared). One or the other will say something like, "Ok we know there were warnings let's deal with the problem at hand..."
Originally posted by
js250
Does you significant other tell you I told you so or do they support you when you are hurt and upset. Even though they did warn you. Do you feel like it is poking a caged animal with a sharp stick when they do?
I think that every couple regardless of their lovestyle should have a close friend/loved one who can knock your heads together when you need it!
But yes it is like poking the feral wolf with a short stick if they DO say the dreaded "I told you so".
12/17/2011
Alot of the "I told you so" and then after im really wounded I get the support.
01/19/2012
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