I'd like to reach a compromise with him, but it would really depend on why he was asking me to get rid of all my toys.
If They Asked?
03/24/2011
If he/she was asking me to get rid of my toys because they didn't like it when I masturbated without them(Jealous of my toys haha), hell no. There are times when I need to relieve my sexual urges when they are not around, or unavailable.
Now if they were asking me to get rid of some my toys because I have too many. Then I'd probably comply, because some of my toys suck. So I'd get rid of the ones I barely, or never use.
So it depends on the situation.
Now if they were asking me to get rid of some my toys because I have too many. Then I'd probably comply, because some of my toys suck. So I'd get rid of the ones I barely, or never use.
So it depends on the situation.
03/24/2011
no but he like to see me use them
03/24/2011
I voted "No" but it would also have to do with the reason. Mostly, we use the toys together, so I don't see what the big deal was. And a fair portion of our toys are for prostate or BDSM play, so he'd be missing as much as me.
I think, at this point in our lives and marriage, that I wouldn't give them up based on his self esteem. I feel that he would need to find a way to come to grips and openly discuss his own insecurities and why he feels that way. I'm quickly learning that while we are in this together and I can help him with his issues, I cannot be his everything. Nor can he be mine.
I think, at this point in our lives and marriage, that I wouldn't give them up based on his self esteem. I feel that he would need to find a way to come to grips and openly discuss his own insecurities and why he feels that way. I'm quickly learning that while we are in this together and I can help him with his issues, I cannot be his everything. Nor can he be mine.
03/24/2011
My boyfriend has bought some of my toys, and he said he's happy to. So if he suddenly told me to get rid of them, I'd want a damn good explanation for the change of heart.
Thank God that would never happen though.
Thank God that would never happen though.
03/24/2011
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there would have to be some good reasoning behind it
Originally posted by
Kaltir
If your partnered asked you to get rid of yours toys, would you? Feel free to elaborate.
03/25/2011
My boyfriend is the one who is encouraging me to buy the toys - and I'm beginning to think he likes them more than I do. That being the case, if he asked me to get rid of my toys there would definitely be a serious discussion taking place to explain such a huge change.
03/26/2011
I would hope they would never ask!
03/27/2011
At this point in my life, no way.
03/27/2011
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This.
Originally posted by
Taylor
Well I would want to talk with them to understand why they want me to get rid of them in the first place. If it's an insecurity issue I'd want to figure out what was behind it so we could figure out how to work through it.
03/27/2011
I'd really try to keep the toys we use as a couple as they make orgasm so much easier.
03/28/2011
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luckily this won't ever be a problem cuz he has just as many toys as me! hehe!
Originally posted by
Kaltir
If your partnered asked you to get rid of yours toys, would you? Feel free to elaborate.
03/29/2011
If he can go to a strip club then I can keep my toys!
04/04/2011
Absolutely not. I'd sooner dump the guy. Why would he not want me to have as much pleasure as possible? Why would he want to take away the easiest way for me to come? I don't care if he's just insecure - I'm through dealing with insecure guys.
Sexual pleasure is political, and is something women have been historically denied and shamed for. It's something I deserve and I won't let anyone take it away from me.
Sexual pleasure is political, and is something women have been historically denied and shamed for. It's something I deserve and I won't let anyone take it away from me.
04/04/2011
no way. let me have my stuff, and you can have yours.
04/13/2011
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yea cuz i don't even USE toys to begin with unless its a bad week or something which isnt much, and its mainly free gifts i have otherwise i dont have toys
Originally posted by
Kaltir
If your partnered asked you to get rid of yours toys, would you? Feel free to elaborate.
04/13/2011
We would have to compromise! He was the one who wanted me to buy them for when he is on the road
04/13/2011
Oh wow! I guess if it really was an issue and it made him very uncomfortable, then yes. I would. I don't think he'd ask, but I would try to be understanding as I know men can have insecurities just like we women do. I like for people to be understanding and respectful of my wishes, so I try to be as well. I don't think he'd ever ask me to get rid of them though. I could kind of see why a man wouldn't feel so happy like if their partner turned down sex all the time but used only their toys. We use mine together. I don't feel the need to do it alone. I thankfully, don't have to.
04/13/2011
I dont think he'd ask me to do that. But if he did then I would try to compromise.
04/15/2011
I would consider it. I wouldn't be happy about it. I don't think my partner would ever ask me to get rid of my toys. We enjoy using them together
04/15/2011
I wouldn't date somebody who asked me to throw orgasms away.
He has straight up told me not to use ones that show up in sketchy packaging, but that's more of a safety issue.
He has straight up told me not to use ones that show up in sketchy packaging, but that's more of a safety issue.
08/07/2011
For the sake of being understanding I would try to reach a compromise, but if that weren't possible I wouldn't get rid of any. Why should I make 100% of the sacrifice?
08/07/2011
It would depend on the reason, but I would hope that we could communicate rationally about it.
09/18/2011
I'd be really upset about it. But if he asked me to get rid of them, I'd do it.
10/05/2011
My girlfriend actually encourages my use of toys, so as long as they don't replace her. Which they wouldn't. Toys can't touch or kiss me, nor keep me warm at night. She also is excited to use the toys on me herself.
10/05/2011
I would give them up, but I'm with a person who is open minded about toys.
02/01/2012
I definitely would, but id put up a good fight lol
02/01/2012
I'd have to compromise on this one because there's no way I'd get rid of all of them and it would depend on their reason. My husband doesn't like to feel like I'm replacing him so we've compromised where I buy mostly clitoral vibrators and insertable ones that don't look like the real thing.
02/01/2012
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i would have to hide toys or something, i could never get rid of all of them..
Originally posted by
Kaltir
If your partnered asked you to get rid of yours toys, would you? Feel free to elaborate.
02/03/2012
Definitely compromise. Actually I don't think she will ever ask that question, knowing I could ask the same of her
02/03/2012