I've been with my woobsie (aka the boyfriend) for 2 1/2 years and in late August, he's leaving to go to China for 10 months. I can't stand it and wish I could go with him, but alas, I can't. I'm giving him a great sexual sendoff and then I am buying a webcam to do the Skype thing, but the 12 hour time difference will be hard. I'll have toys and school to keep me busy, and he'll have his hand and whatever sort of porn China hasn't banned.

Does anyone have any advice for doing the super long-distance thing? Anyone have a spouse in the military or anything like that? Phone sex is out of the question. I just want to be as close to him as I can without being there.

Also, cam sex tips or anything would be greatly appreciated, since I've never done that before less

Same, my boyfriend and I are long distance...and get to see each other maybe... 3 times a year. It is QUITE difficult, and yeah.. we have to communicate. Our time zones aren't too different, but.. our work schedule makes it hard for us to find time to sit down and chit chat. Emails and texts.. specific things you love about them and so on..

Also, webcamming.. is fun! I do little videos for him to watch, I usually get little costumes for myself and dress up and masturbate, or something. Like Kck said, lighting can be... very tricky. So maybe try a trial sequence with your camera and then see how it goes, same with audio. I use a bed, or desk.. or anything like that since I also have a laptop.. even have done a few shower scenes but they get tricky.
Best of luck! less

Communication is key, even if it's a one-liner via Facebook or text, etc. That's really the most important thing, in my opinion. It's the little things that will keep your feelings alive, that will help you appreciate each other, that will help you remember why you are together.

My partner and I have been doing the long-distance thing for years. And I mean yeeears. When things get bad, it's because we've become inconsiderate and don't make the time for each other. So e-mail, write, text, whatever, so that your partner knows that you're still there and that, yes, you do still care. It can feel so very alone. So, be a presence.

As far as cam sex goes, lighting can make it or break it! It's best if the light source is coming from behind the camera, facing you. I like to use the desk that I have my laptop on to prop my legs up and straddle. That way, it's a full, face-on view. My guy seems to really like it

Good luck, girl! I know how hard it can be; been there, still doing that, lol. Message me if you have any questions. I'm here for you less

Cyn's in China now, still.... Of all the time differences, 12 isn't that bad. We catch each other about twice a day (9 and 9 or so) on G-chat, not too bad. This is the 3rd summer we've been together that she's went to China, it hasn't gotten any easier. You've got some good ideas so far, not much more to add.

Good Luck!

(No Facebook in China, btw) less

Cyn's in China now, still.... Of all the time differences, 12 isn't that bad. We catch each other about twice a day (9 and 9 or so) on G-chat, not too bad. This is the 3rd summer we've been together that she's went to China, it hasn't gotten any easier. You've got some good ideas so far, not much more to add.

Good Luck!

(No Facebook in China, btw) less

Oh no, no.. I'm super clumsy. Get one of those bath mats.. and you'll be golden. ALSO.. invest in some soapy bodywash.. and waterproof eyeliner (sexiness)
Lots of lighting, also.. depending on your features you can take pictures and decide on the angles. Like, I have pretty big eyes, so most of the pictures focus on the upper area.. in a Facebook-esque type picture.. Also... remember when you make videos.. keep your room clean and sexy. lol.. don't let any stray panties or.. granny panties or anything be loose! less

MMhmmm gotta corral those things...have you ever noticed how you think your room looks fine only to see in a corner or hanging out of a slightly opened drawer is your worst pair of panties, you know the ones you wear during that time of the month? Never fails! They are out to get you!

Seriously good idea but can you do it without running afoul of the censers in China? Don't want him to get in trouble for having "porn". I hope it works though, that's the one thing that keeps us three going! There's something about watching your lover doing things for you that is amazing! less

I've been with my woobsie (aka the boyfriend) for 2 1/2 years and in late August, he's leaving to go to China for 10 months. I can't stand it and wish I could go with him, but alas, I can't. I'm giving him a great sexual sendoff and then I am buying a webcam to do the Skype thing, but the 12 hour time difference will be hard. I'll have toys and school to keep me busy, and he'll have his hand and whatever sort of porn China hasn't banned.

Does anyone have any advice for doing the super long-distance thing? Anyone have a spouse in the military or anything like that? Phone sex is out of the question. I just want to be as close to him as I can without being there.

Also, cam sex tips or anything would be greatly appreciated, since I've never done that before less

Then write the letters as though you mean to send them but tie them with a pretty ribbon and leave them in a box. When he gets home he can read them and it will give you things to talk about. It's a lovely way to get around censorship and it's what my grand parents did...it brought them so much intimacy! less

I've been with my woobsie (aka the boyfriend) for 2 1/2 years and in late August, he's leaving to go to China for 10 months. I can't stand it and wish I could go with him, but alas, I can't. I'm giving him a great sexual sendoff and then I am buying a webcam to do the Skype thing, but the 12 hour time difference will be hard. I'll have toys and school to keep me busy, and he'll have his hand and whatever sort of porn China hasn't banned.

Does anyone have any advice for doing the super long-distance thing? Anyone have a spouse in the military or anything like that? Phone sex is out of the question. I just want to be as close to him as I can without being there.

Also, cam sex tips or anything would be greatly appreciated, since I've never done that before less

Heheh. I just got back from China, so this is a pretty interesting thread for me to see. From what I've been able to see, blocked sites include Facebook, Youtube, Megavideo, Veoh, Blogger, and Twitter. However, if he's willing to pay a monthly fee, there are ways to get around that

The 12 hour time difference does suck, but you'll both be up and about in the mornings and evenings (you'll just be asleep during each other's lunch thru afternoons), so at least you get some overlap wakey time online. The good news is that you can totally buy sex toys in China, and good quality brands like LELO and Tenga are available too, so hopefully if his hand gets too boring he can find a sex toy shop and grab a sleeve of some sort, though the stores I've seen in China mostly target women.

Apparently, porn is teh illegalz in China, which I didn't even realize when I was over there (you kind of stop caring when you're staying with family for extended periods of time). I was still able to access my usual web stops for online porn though, like imagefap and megaporn, soooo... yeah. If he's careful with where he keeps his porn (I'd say preferably on his computer and not on the coffee table), it should be fine. But, you know, if you're really worried about it, better safe than sorry.

As for sending love letters via snail mail... Back when I still wrote to my family in China, I would receive their letters in envelopes that were glued back together. * cough * I wouldn't be super concerned about them actually reading your mail, but email is the better choice for safe, on-time message delivery.

The super important thing for your boyfriend to do, computer-wise, is to get a good anti-virus and anti-spyware program installed. There is so much crap floating around in Chinese webspace; it can really bog down your computer to the point where you can make breakfast in the time it takes Skype to start up.

The other super important thing for you two to do: Remember that this too shall pass 10 months is a long time, but it's shorter than a year. He'll be back before you know it, with ridiculously cute souvenirs and lots of pictures. It's going to suck, yes, but it won't suck forever. less