I'd talk to them first. Won't know what they want until you talk.

I was with My Man for years, we had time for an Open Relationship and years of dating before we got married. I was, though, only 16 when I met him.

It depends on how important marriage is to you. Is it a designated finale of a relationship or does it really mean that much to you? I believe it is not the be all of a relationship. A piece of paper is not everything. If your relationship is good without it why it so important that you could end the relationship?

talk to them wait it out. my hubby and i got married on our 10 year anni. of dating

Sounds like my friendship with my wife. I had wanted to go out with her for the longest time, but she just wasn't ready. I waited quite a while for her, but it was worth it.

Talk with them, I can't just make a decision, why don't they want marriage, what is it keeping them from being ready? this isn't just a yes or no answer, it requires alot of conversation

I suppose it depends on how much you love them and what exactly YOU want. Seems to me that if you want to marry THEM you'd probably want to talk about it and work something out. But if you're just wanting to MARRY someone... you might be more willing to just walk out the door and find the next person to marry you.

For me, that kind of an issue would not be make or break - I love my man, period. Not with conditions, not with any end goal in mind, I just love him and want to be with him - married, not married, whatever. But if someone really highly values marriage, and holds that in higher regard than their current partner... well then their response would probably be different.

Just my 2 cents.

If it doesn't align with what you're looking for, don't waste your time