Men: Why do feelings change how you have sex?

Men: Why do feelings change how you have sex?

Kat Vanir Kat Vanir
Men, do you find it easier to fuck a woman with no strings? If you're dating someone, do emotions change how you behave sexually?
05/17/2016
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Quote:
Originally posted by Kat Vanir
Men, do you find it easier to fuck a woman with no strings? If you're dating someone, do emotions change how you behave sexually?
I've never had an opportunity to do it with no strings. No, take that back. I did have the chance, but passed it up. As for dating, I was always on my best behavior the first few dates.

Is that what you are asking ?
05/18/2016
Andykh Andykh
I've never done it with no strings attached but have had several opportunities. I think that emotions make sex more passionate
05/18/2016
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by Kat Vanir
Men, do you find it easier to fuck a woman with no strings? If you're dating someone, do emotions change how you behave sexually?
I think its an age and understanding thing...

The truth is now that I have some mileage on me, I have found when you find a good woman and you spend good time trying to learn her (and she has those same goals for you) you will go from sex to mind blowing sore the next day sex. (Nothing is better than going to work sore with scratch marks all over you... imo... yeah I get off on her digging her nails into my back.)

When you are in college and high school and for some in your early 20's in a guys mind its just completing the act. (hey!!! yay for me I got some!) When you get a bit older its not just completing the act its how well you complete the act. I am far from old but lets say I am just barely out of my 20's... If she doesn't cum I am not happy until she does and I will do anything I have to do to make her cum until she says enough. (Ladies lets be honest, some of you cant get off every single time)

I can't count all of the unsatisfied girls and I say girls referring to college high school and right after college I have ran into and spoken to. (Why... because girls date boys or guys not men) However when they get a man who knows how to perform what that lady needs its a whole different story.

Maturity really shows when it goes from I'm going to "bang her out" (That term just makes me sick) to I went out made a nice dinner, bought a nice Australian red cleaned up the house to a T before she got home and lit the fireplace so we could really put ourselves in the mood and see how far our bodies will allow us to go tonight before we pass out.

Young guys are just happy to get off, mature men enjoy watching their women get off. (Well thats my view on things.... I sure enjoy her getting off!I just love going down on her and having her hips start to buck uncontrollably to an orgasm and squirt just a little bit.... Its like her body is saying thank you, like its tasty reward)

Oh and last thing...

My new fun thing to do it put together little sex classes with the secretary... for me and for her with each other.

Where we leave the lights on and step by step we point out and instruct each other exactly where and how to make each other get off. For her we have been teaching me the finer points of the G-Spot and working on more than two multiples and for me... actually its been multiples for me but also fine tuning oral sex.

It seems silly... but when you make it educational but you still have an orgasm its fun BUT!!! When its one of those the kids are asleep the wine is poured and the candles are lit moments nobody has to say a word. Its VERY sexy.
05/19/2016
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Sex is just like anything else in life. Let's say you don't enjoy cooking. When you enjoy something, you put more effort into the task instead of just doing enough to get by. You'll want to try harder and push your limits. If you didn't enjoy cooking, then you might be eating out more often rather than taking the time to produce something you've crafted yourself.

I think It Guy got most of it right. I'd also agree that both age and maturity have a lot to do with it. With no strings, things are just different. There are no expectations. Who knows if this will turn into something more or if this is just a one time thing. Hell, who knows if the guy even wants to be more than your F*ck Buddy.

In a relationship a guy wants to be in, I feel like he wants to please her more. Just like IT Guy, I'm more than willing to go the "extra mile" for my partner.

These are just my $.02. I'm sure others feel differently about this.

Finally, when IT Guy said,

Young guys are just happy to get off, mature men enjoy watching their women get off. (Well that's my view on things.... I sure enjoy her getting off! I just love going down on her and having her hips start to buck uncontrollably to an orgasm...

I whole heartily agree with that statement. Not all guys enjoy going down but I sure do with my partner.
05/21/2016
MrClark MrClark
I haven't done the "no strings"/casual sex kind of thing; however, a friend and I agreed to a friends with benefits kind of relationship until one of us met someone new. There were a variety of factors here that lead to this, but in the end we're still friends. I'm hyper-rational but at the end of the day if there is no connection/friendship, sex on it's own would feel hollow and I'd likely not even be able to get hard if I wanted.

I agree that I think on some level it's an aspect of maturity, but I think for guys a purely no-strings engagement is purely selfish. And I think maturity leads to you realizing you can get more out of the experience when your partner enjoys it too. Or in my case I almost only ever get off during sex when my partner does too. The most erotic thing for me is a woman enjoying herself/orgasming.
05/25/2016
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Sex is just like anything else in life. Let's say you don't enjoy cooking. When you enjoy something, you put more effort into the task instead of just doing enough to get by. You'll want to try harder and push your limits. If you ...
$.02 More like $2.00 and some change
05/25/2016
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