Well, I understand both sides of it.

As someone with extremely long hair, I understand that having long hair can be a huge pain in the ass; it's harder to maintain, it can hurt your neck, you can't try doing all kinds of crazy new designs because there aren't a whole lot of at home styles you can do with long hair, and sometimes you just want a change.

On the other hand, if you're asking her not to, and you have a fetish for long hair, then she should take that into consideration. I wouldn't want to destroy something that brings my partner a lot of joy.

On the other hand, it's my body and my hair, and I dress as I do and wear my hair (and everything else) the way I want to because it makes me feel attractive.




Have you asked her to consider cutting it shorter but not short? You said that she knows you have a fetish, but also say that you won't tell her not to cut it... If she knows, then why aren't you explaining honestly why you don't want her to cut it? less

I've tried... I mean I have quite long hair myself and I do understand it's a pain, but what she really seems to want is choppy scene kid layers which she can get with longer hair... all I want is for her to leave it below the shoulderblades, if it stays there I'll be a perfectly happy little camper less

I understand this topic and also have a thing for long hair. My wife grew hers out for me but recently chopped it off in favor of something more manageable. I was mildly worried about it because I absolutely hate short hair on women. But when she came home, I must admit, the new length drove me wild. As it turns out, she spiced things up for me without even knowing it.

I worry sometimes that our fetishes are an extension of narcissism, that is, our constant obsession with ourselves and "our way". Don't forget that your girlfriend has her own thing going on too. Your focusing too much on qualities that are of your own making, rather than those that make her valuable and sexy in her own right. If long hair is the only thing that drives you, what does it matter who you're with? less

To be quite honest, I think you're being very selfish. It's her hair to do with what she pleases. Also, it's hair! It grows back. It's unfortunate for you that it's your fetish, but that shouldn't dictate what kind restrictions are placed on her life. less