ON & OFF Relationships?

Contributor: ParisLove ParisLove
How do you fell about them? Have you ever been in one? How did it turn out? How long did it last?
08/24/2011
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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I've been in one of these, we lasted 2 1/2 years, we are just friends now, she's kinda crazy :/
08/24/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I would avoid them. If it's on and off, there's something wrong and both people should probably just stop torturing themselves.

Just because the cake looks good, doesn't mean it won't give you a tummy ache, no matter how many pieces you've had.
08/25/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
I would avoid them. If it's on and off, there's something wrong and both people should probably just stop torturing themselves.

Just because the cake looks good, doesn't mean it won't give you a tummy ache, no matter how many pieces you've had.
Pretty much this. On and off means you don't work well together generally speaking. I don't do on and off relationships. I'm either on or off, and someone can either treat me right or not be in my life. I'm not a fan of them, as you can see. lol
08/25/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
It depends on what exactly you mean. I've had friends who became friends-with-benefits for a while, then faded back to friends due to full schedules or moving or other things, and back to friends-with-benefits when neither of us was seeing someone or schedules freed up.

But I get the feeling you're not talking about casual relationships. With a serious relationship, if it ends, it usually ends for a good reason, and I don't see the sense in ignoring a lesson I've already learned just to be with the same person again.
08/25/2011
Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
i've been in 1 for 3 yrs. the 1st time we broke up was b/c we were going to be far apart for a long time, & since we'd only been in a relationship for a short while & we didn't want to have to start it off long distance. we decided that when he got back, we would try again if we still felt something. a yr later, he came back, & we rushed into it, which lead to break up number 2. about a week or 2 later, we were hanging out again & dating, & a few months later, made it an official relationship again. we've almost made it a yr now. he's going to be about 4 hrs away from me again this semester, but we've been together for so long now that we're willing to try & make it work this time. so far, so good.
08/25/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
I have never been in one.
08/25/2011
Contributor: ParisLove ParisLove
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
i've been in 1 for 3 yrs. the 1st time we broke up was b/c we were going to be far apart for a long time, & since we'd only been in a relationship for a short while & we didn't want to have to start it off long distance. we ... more
Awwww Goodluck!
08/25/2011
Contributor: ParisLove ParisLove
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Originally posted by Antipova
It depends on what exactly you mean. I've had friends who became friends-with-benefits for a while, then faded back to friends due to full schedules or moving or other things, and back to friends-with-benefits when neither of us was seeing ... more
Yes I was talking about serious relationships but thanks I love what you said about ignoring a lesson you've learn't just to be with the same person again. You couldn't have said it any better.
08/25/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Fuck 'em, I try not to waste my time, I've been through 2 in my life but neither lasted more than a few months, at most. One in high school may have lasted over a longer span of time but each time she 'wanted to be with me again' it only lasted a day, I just fell for her shit because I was in love :/
08/25/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Once a relationship ends for me that's it. There is no going back to that person. I move forward. It's like - been there, done that!
To me a relationship ends for a reason and I don't like torture.
08/25/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
usually when i end it a relationship, it's forever dead. i've had friends that have had successful on/ off-ers though
08/25/2011
Contributor: mizzmilla mizzmilla
They're just emotionally draining. Most of my long term relationships have been on and off.
08/25/2011
Contributor: Sarah <3 Sarah <3
Im not sure how i feel about this.
08/28/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
It depends entirely on the reason why it's off. I've done it and we're still together. I was young and just wasn't grasping a few concepts that were key. I grew up. We got back together. It's been fabulous ever since!
08/28/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
I feel that it depends on the situation, and how frequently the on/off switch is flicked. If it's every few days, multiple times a day, then there's probably something wrong with the relationship and it is most likely unhealthy. I was in one. It ended up badly, we had an extremely horrible breakup, and I'm still in the moving on process. I'm getting much, much better though.
08/28/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by ParisLove
How do you fell about them? Have you ever been in one? How did it turn out? How long did it last?
No good at all. If it isnt enough to keep it a solid relationship you aren't going to get any distance out of the relationship.
08/28/2011