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At what point does a relationship become "long term."

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Contributor: dks210 dks210
I'm interested to learn people's opinions on when a relationship becomes long term. Is there a specific time?
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6 months
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1 year
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2 - 3 years
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Contributor: js250 js250
When it becomes exclusive and you have made it a long term to permanent relationship. The longer I am married, the longer the actual time period becomes. However if you are a serial dater, a month would be long term for you or if you are a selective dater a year might be considered long term.
01/19/2012
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by dks210
I'm interested to learn people's opinions on when a relationship becomes long term. Is there a specific time?
depends on the couple and how they go about the relationship..
01/19/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Gotta agree here, it depends on your dating habits and the relationship itself.
01/19/2012
Contributor: Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
Personally I don't think it's time based but rather when both people in the relationship are committed to being with each other long term. If I were to guess at time based, even though everyone is different, for me after 6 months I would start to consider long term.

To some, 6months is a long time, but in my opinion a long term relationship is when things tend to be getting more serious. After 6 months there is still so much to learn about a person even if you are with them every day.
01/19/2012
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
I think its more of a state of mind rather than a time frame. I think long term is seeing a possible future with the other person, commited and whatnot
01/19/2012
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, and I felt it was a long-term relationship around 6 months.
01/19/2012
Contributor: Ms. N Ms. N
I am going with 2-3 years. Before my SO, long-term was more than 6 months. He changed everything for me.
01/19/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
When it becomes exclusive and you have made it a long term to permanent relationship. The longer I am married, the longer the actual time period becomes. However if you are a serial dater, a month would be long term for you or if you are a selective ... more
This is my opinion too.
01/19/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
Wow! These answers are different than what I was expecting.
01/19/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I agree with those that have said it is the commitment level, more so than the time. Once you're exclusive, are making plans, merging your lives, etc... it's long-term.
01/19/2012
Contributor: Daemonin Daemonin
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
When it becomes exclusive and you have made it a long term to permanent relationship. The longer I am married, the longer the actual time period becomes. However if you are a serial dater, a month would be long term for you or if you are a selective ... more
I couldn't have worded it better. Those are my thoughts as well.
01/19/2012
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
When it becomes exclusive and you have made it a long term to permanent relationship. The longer I am married, the longer the actual time period becomes. However if you are a serial dater, a month would be long term for you or if you are a selective ... more
i agree completely!
01/19/2012
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
When it becomes exclusive and you have made it a long term to permanent relationship. The longer I am married, the longer the actual time period becomes. However if you are a serial dater, a month would be long term for you or if you are a selective ... more
Agreed
01/19/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
It just depends on the person and the couple. I have NEVER dated someone when it wasn't exclusive. That is not my thing. I do not like feeling cheated on. If I'm going to date someone, they're only going to date me and I'm only going to date them. So exclusivity doesn't decide for me if a relationship is long-term or not because they're ALL exclusive. I'd say that it's when it feels like you're not going to leave each other and you have every reason to stay. My boyfriend and I, who are going on one year and five months soon, were long-term well before a year went by.
01/19/2012
Contributor: dhig dhig
it depends on the relationship, but i'd say after a year it's a definite
01/19/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
6months to year
01/19/2012
Contributor: MizzMistress MizzMistress
Quote:
Originally posted by dks210
I'm interested to learn people's opinions on when a relationship becomes long term. Is there a specific time?
at least 2-3 years.
01/20/2012
Contributor: MizzMistress MizzMistress
Quote:
Originally posted by LAndJ
6months to year
What do you consider short term then?
01/20/2012
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
When 2 people decide that they want to be together forever.
02/19/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by dks210
I'm interested to learn people's opinions on when a relationship becomes long term. Is there a specific time?
7 years
02/20/2012
Contributor: Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
Quote:
Originally posted by curious kitten
When 2 people decide that they want to be together forever.
I like this answer.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
It depends on what type of relationship it is... if you are still going out with other people then it is harder to tell. But generally speaking I would say 2-3 years, though one year is definetly a milestone.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
It just depends on the person and the couple. I have NEVER dated someone when it wasn't exclusive. That is not my thing. I do not like feeling cheated on. If I'm going to date someone, they're only going to date me and I'm only going ... more
Cute answer and I agree, my situation is the same as yours, besides the fact that we where going on 3 years this march, but a couple of months into our relationship I new he was the one I wanted to be with
02/20/2012
Contributor: Swish Swish
it depends per person, if you normally have 2 year relationships then maybe 4 or 5 if u normally have 6 month relationships, maybe a few years, it also depends on how serious you are getting
03/03/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
I think a relationship becomes longterm when the participants realize that they are willing to work hard to stay together. This can take days, weeks, months or years.
03/03/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
Not until we realize that there isn't anyone else out there we would rather be with at the moment.
03/03/2012
Contributor: purple579 purple579
Quote:
Originally posted by dks210
I'm interested to learn people's opinions on when a relationship becomes long term. Is there a specific time?
I believe that if both parties plan on it being long term it is at least in their minds long term.
03/12/2012
Contributor: Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
Quote:
Originally posted by dks210
I'm interested to learn people's opinions on when a relationship becomes long term. Is there a specific time?
I think it absolutely is not measured by time. I think it's more based on commitment.
11/01/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
Each relationship evolves at it's own rate, I don't think there is any one right answer.
11/02/2012