I am engaged to my sons father. we have been together for almost 4 years. After children, stretch marks and loss of time to get all prettied up for my man i feel that he does not find me attractive anymore. Is there any one else out there having the same problem? and what should i try to do to spice things up?
sex after children
04/22/2011
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spice things up some. I dont think that it is him not finding you attaractive anylonger; I think it is the lack of spice in your love life. 4 years is a long time to be with someone, you need to mix things up and make your love life interesting.
04/23/2011
Chances are he is becoming settled as your partner and a father. Don't mistake that for not finding you unattractive. Set one day a week for you and him to share. Get a sitter and do something special with him, and only him. Guide it towards the romantic side of things, but take it slow. Speaking as a man, we are creatures of habbit. Don't put us in different situations at the spur of the moment. A gentle push is best. I too have ran into the "settled" part. It doesn't take much for it to change; just some slow, loving guidance.
04/23/2011
I agree with the above suggestions. I have been with my partner for what will be 5 years next month. I don't have children of my own as I'm unable to now, but we lost 2 and we take care of my nephews and neice so I can kind of relate. I know it can be very tough to even have a minute without the kids and when you do it seems you're constantly working. We've done pretty good keeping things very alive, but we've had moments like when I was ill.
I would suggest (when the kids are not with yall!) take a small road trip, I say small since gas prices are through the roof, but even just a trip to the store or an event you both will be attending and make the car ride play time! It can be loads of fun. I wouldn't suggest trying to make love while driving, but other play things are extremely hot! You could always take a small trip to somewhere quiet where y'all would be alone. Where we live (on a mtn.) there's a huge water fall and pond area in a wooded space. It's pretty popular and there,but not many people until the summer time. If you have any types of places like this in your area, they can be very fun too! It's good for getting away from the craziness of everyday; phones ringing, work, house work, kids, etc.
I wish I had better suggestions, but I can't think of many. Most people would say a candle lit dinner, but I'm not that type. Sometimes we have fun shopping together! If your man's interested, it can be a fun experience.
One of our favorite things to do is our family get-togethers, but that isn't exactly alone time. It's really nice to have a quiet evening with family/friends/loved ones and your partner to just sit on the porch, eat,sometimes have a drink or 5 and talk! Maybe I'm too much of a country girl, but it really is a fun, relaxing idea (if you get along with family members)
I would suggest (when the kids are not with yall!) take a small road trip, I say small since gas prices are through the roof, but even just a trip to the store or an event you both will be attending and make the car ride play time! It can be loads of fun. I wouldn't suggest trying to make love while driving, but other play things are extremely hot! You could always take a small trip to somewhere quiet where y'all would be alone. Where we live (on a mtn.) there's a huge water fall and pond area in a wooded space. It's pretty popular and there,but not many people until the summer time. If you have any types of places like this in your area, they can be very fun too! It's good for getting away from the craziness of everyday; phones ringing, work, house work, kids, etc.
I wish I had better suggestions, but I can't think of many. Most people would say a candle lit dinner, but I'm not that type. Sometimes we have fun shopping together! If your man's interested, it can be a fun experience.
One of our favorite things to do is our family get-togethers, but that isn't exactly alone time. It's really nice to have a quiet evening with family/friends/loved ones and your partner to just sit on the porch, eat,sometimes have a drink or 5 and talk! Maybe I'm too much of a country girl, but it really is a fun, relaxing idea (if you get along with family members)
04/23/2011
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married with children
spice things up some. I dont think that it is him not finding you attaractive anylonger; I think it is the lack of spice in your love life. 4 years is a long time to be with someone, you need to mix things up and make your love life interesting.
04/23/2011
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