I have two really good friends that I have known for awhile who both are very open with me and we have no problem talking about anything. I have been with my girlfriend for awhile and she gets a little mad that I talk to other girls about sex ideas and toys. I see it as no problem because they are in long term relationships also and we at no point at all flirt with eachother at all. Do you think that it is okay as long as it is kept friendly?
Sex discussion with just a good friend of opposite sex
03/09/2011
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yeah i see no harm in it. as long as its just friendly conversation.. i do it. i mean, what good is it to talk sex (not about it) with your gf? yall should be tellin each other everything and know stuff already! what if youv talked about everything sofar? how is it any diff than you and a guy talking about sex? if anything id think talking with a guy would be worse, hearing about all those girls hes fucked.. you might get jealous! so whats so bad about hearin about your female friend gets some? as long as yall talk about other good stuff, why worry?
Originally posted by
cobiffle
I have two really good friends that I have known for awhile who both are very open with me and we have no problem talking about anything. I have been with my girlfriend for awhile and she gets a little mad that I talk to other girls about sex ideas
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I have two really good friends that I have known for awhile who both are very open with me and we have no problem talking about anything. I have been with my girlfriend for awhile and she gets a little mad that I talk to other girls about sex ideas and toys. I see it as no problem because they are in long term relationships also and we at no point at all flirt with eachother at all. Do you think that it is okay as long as it is kept friendly?
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03/10/2011
I dont think it's a problem just as long as it would be kept friendly. Do you ever talk to your girlfriend about that stuff or is it more with your other friends?
03/10/2011
I used to have conversations with a former female coworker quite often.
03/10/2011
Talk with her more about it. It could be many things (including the concern that you're publicizing private stuff), and it's important that you show her you respect her. This might mean laying off the sex talk with other girls, or maybe not.
03/10/2011
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This is something I totally agree with.
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ScottA
Talk with her more about it. It could be many things (including the concern that you're publicizing private stuff), and it's important that you show her you respect her. This might mean laying off the sex talk with other girls, or maybe not.
I was with someone who announced every sex act we ever had in the company of friends of both genders. It was mortifying when a mutual friend told me it was embarrassing him, too!
I have a male best friend, and I do get into sex talk, because we've been best friends for about eight years, including our college years. Things like that come up. We've been friends single, partnered, married, divorced, confused about sexuality...you name it! So my current partner doesn't give a damn, you know? We even talk as a group after the bars sometimes.
I do draw the (grey) line at exes. If a partner is friends with an ex and talks to him/her about sex with me, I would be uncomfortable. I don't think current partner would like if I did that with an ex. Perhaps with a very, very casual ex (for instance I have a friend who was a friend before and after a three-week stint of dating when I was 20) would be ok.
Jealousy can be difficult to handle, but seeing it from her perspective can be eye-opening.
Good luck; that is a tough one.
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