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Do you need Shared Hatreds in a long term relationship?

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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
This is a simple question, really. So, I'll just cut to the chase.

Is it important to the success of a long term relationship to have shared dislikes/hatreds? Show your work!
05/07/2012
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Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I don't think so, the wife and I share many different views on things. She hates yard work, I love it. She enjoys cleaning, I can't stand it. We do have some shared hatreds, things like some people, they way the government is currently and a bunch of other things I can't think of. Honestly, I think if we both hated all the same things it would get kind of boring.
05/07/2012
Contributor: ValerieRayne ValerieRayne
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I don't think so, the wife and I share many different views on things. She hates yard work, I love it. She enjoys cleaning, I can't stand it. We do have some shared hatreds, things like some people, they way the government is currently and a ... more
I agree with you completely. The Boyfriend and I sometimes hate the same things and other times, we haven't completely different views of things. It's the same as everything else in our relationship - we're not one in the same person, we are two different people with two very different views of the world in which we live.

Not only do I think that without that difference it would be boring, but it would also be the demise of our relationship. I never signed on to dating myself!! *shudders* I leave that to someone else
05/07/2012
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I think some shared hatreds are good, as are some shared loves
05/07/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
I personally feel that there does need to be at least a few shared likes and dislikes--otherwise the relationship could be a bit chaotic and distant.
05/08/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
Well it is good to have things in common. So probably a few shared hatreds are good as well as a few common passions. But sometimes opposites attract and that can be good too. It is good when you complement your partner. If you both hate doing the dishes, life might get pretty uncomfortable.
05/08/2012
Contributor: Gary Gary
Liking and disliking a lot of the same people does help. It makes going out a lot more neutral, and it has kept our parties and get togethers more fun for both of us.

In general though, we are both pretty opinionated and have a bad sense of humor - so disliking the same things is often fun. It's not really fun to joke about things you do like, you know?
05/08/2012
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
I think it is somewhat important, yes. You don't have to have all of the same dislikes, but it's nice to both hate opera or football or toe lint.
05/08/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
It can be nice to both not like the same thing, but it's not essential.
05/08/2012