Should You Have Extracurricular Sex If Given Permission? - from Em and Lo

That's a tough one... I wouldn't really consider it cheating, since permission has been given, and to me, cheating involves being dishonest and doing things behind your partner's back. If it were me, though, I'd choose to pass up the "chance" to screw other people. After all, in that scenario, I've only been given permission to have sex with other people, which sounds like I'm just using other people to get off with, and I'm not emotionally capable of doing that. And doing anything more than "just sex" really would feel like cheating to me.

That's a tough one. When I was younger, I may very well have done it. But now I think I would make the best of what is possible with my spouse.

Seeing as I don't deeply believe in monogamy, I don't know what a person in that situation would do. Having said that, I personally wouldn't have a problem with it and wouldn't see it as cheating since my partner gave me permission. I'd have to make sure that my partner is really OK with me sleeping with other people and not simply giving me permission because they're worried I'll cheat. Regardless of the circumstances, both parties must be on the same page.

I don't know if I could do it.

I don't think I'd do it, I'd make due with what i can with my partner, and any gaps I'll try to fill by other means. And by the way she said with pain and such, I think some doctor somewhere should be able to help her bf.

I think there's a lot to think about with this question, but I would have to say no for multiple reason.

First of all, is your partner really giving you permission? They may say it's okay, but in their heart is that what they really believe? They may simply be saying it out of guilt since they are not able to have sex with you.

Secondly, if we're talking about a committed relationship, sex is not a requirement, it's merely icing on the cake. There are many people going through this exact same predicament and have found alternate ways to be intimate with partners.

Personally, even if given permission, I would still feel like I was cheating and wouldn't do it.

I kind of agree with the post above, Is your partner really giving you permission? I think the guilt definitely plays a roll in that. Its a generous act on their part but i dont think it's right to accept that offer. i totally agree with it's still cheating..

If you felt bad about having sex without them involved, maybe you could keep them involved in some way? They could stay in the room and help or watch or participate.

I might. idk.

No, I just couldn't do it. A commitment to a relationship is a commitment. There are perfectly legitimate ways to pleasure yourself without resorting to using other people just for sex. Plus, I could not risk causing additional pain to the one I love who is already suffering so much.

Yes, I would. Sex is important to me and I would not want to live without it. If my partner was giving me full, honest permission then why wouldn't I? For me, sex is not an "added bonus"" in a relationship, it's a very important part of it.

Then again, my relationship is poly so I'd never find myself in this situation.

Regardless of whether I was granted permission or not, I couldn't do it. I'm just not wired that way, I can only have sex, kiss, make out, be intimate, etc with someone I love or have feelings for. Since that is and will always *only* be Synthetik, my fiancé, I could not do it.

While, yes, like S,L&L, Sex is *very* important to me, in the end I would manage with what Synthetik was able to do and, of course, with the aid of toys. Besides, even if he gave permission, I know that Synthetik would probably be upset in feeling that he could no longer satisfy me, and therefore felt that he had to have others do it (I've heard that gents take very seriously whether or not they're able to satisfy their ladies). Even if I were wired differently, just knowing that I'd be out, having sex with some other man, while he'd be at home torn up because he couldn't do that for me, I'd feel terrible. And if the situation were reversed, I don't think I could extend that permission to him, and if I did it'd tear me apart, just like it would him.

Now, other people will have differing opinions from mine, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it of course. But that's just how I feel on it .

Wow what a question. At first I thought no. There is ways that we can still have a sexual and loving connection with each other. But after reading some answers and thinking about the question more I thought what if it was I that could no longer have sex with my partner? I would want them to go out and have some sexual fun. I would feel bad/guilty that they are no longer experience the joys and pleasure of sex. So I think depending on my partner and how I feel, cause we might think and say one thing but once we are in the situation we might do the complete opposite, I think I just might.

i would have to say no. there are plenty of places like this wonderful edenfantasys sight to satisfy any issues. really there are tons of people with out a partner that make it work. why couldn't i? also the other would have to be a vegetable to not be able to interact in some way, even if it's just a little tongue action(paralyzed neck down). I am a very sexual person and my wife is not (well this sight has helped improve that) but i still never could consider another.
I've gone 7 months with out due to her surgeries.