Have any of you slipped up once and made a mistake of sleeping with someone else while in a LTR

Have any of you slipped up once and made a mistake of sleeping with someone else while in a LTR

Trillian Trillian
And you never told anyone, felt terrible about it, and it never happened again?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, in current LTR
3  (3%)
Yes in the past
15  (17%)
Never
68  (79%)
Total votes: 86
Poll is closed
06/29/2011
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And you never told anyone, felt terrible about it, and it never happened again?
I'm sensing a story here....but no I have never 'slipped up' and cheated on my partners. If I am interested in sex with someone I am very open about it, it's pretty rare though to be honest.
06/29/2011
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I don't think you can "slip up" and cheat.

You don't trip over a stair and fall into someone's vagina.
You don't accidentally fuck someone.


You make a deliberate choice (sober, drunk, I don't think there's really an excuse) and do it.


But, admittedly, this is a topic I'm especially strident on.
06/29/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
yes
06/29/2011
ss143 ss143
How can one slip up and cheat isn't it a choice? I have never had sex with anyone other than my bf and cheating is out of the question.
06/29/2011
Trillian Trillian
I should have asked the question better. I thought of it whilemreading the other posts/polls on here about cheating and affairs. Just curious about if someone who really isn't a cheater and who had made a one time mistake. Not making excuses for it or meaning to imply that it was somehow out of their control.
06/29/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I don't think you can "slip up" and cheat.

You don't trip over a stair and fall into someone's vagina.
You don't accidentally fuck someone.


You make a deliberate choice (sober, drunk, I don't think ...
I feel the same way that you do. I've never done it, my husband has never done it, but he's had more than one girlfriend do it to him. I really don't see a way to "accidentally" end up having sex with somebody while you're in a committed relationship. It's a choice, sober or drunk. If you know you make stupid decisions when you're drunk, then you should make the conscious decision to drink less, or not at all. "I was drunk" is an acceptable answer for things like "why were you sleeping on the bathroom floor" and "who dyed my cat pink" but not for things like cheating on your partner.

Aaaaand an edit after reading down past DS's post. Based on your better explanation of what you're asking, Trillian, the answer's still no for my husband and I, lol.
06/29/2011
Acorn Acorn
I never have and it's never happened to me. I know that a few hours of fun is not worth losing someone that I love. I think that if you want to sleep with someone other than your current partner, you should have the decency to break up first. That is assuming that they don't approve, of course.
06/29/2011
Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
Nope.
06/29/2011
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Never.
06/29/2011
Trillian Trillian
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
I feel the same way that you do. I've never done it, my husband has never done it, but he's had more than one girlfriend do it to him. I really don't see a way to "accidentally" end up having sex with somebody while ...
Yes, I should have put more thought into the question. It seems in general that once a cheater always a cheater but I was just interested if to learn if anyone who was not that type of person but made a mistake. Granted, pretty big mistake but we all have the potential to screw up. I have never cheated but have been cheated on so I know how painful it is. I can't imagine ever cheating but I think we all have the potential. Next time I will put more thought into my poll
06/29/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
Yes, I should have put more thought into the question. It seems in general that once a cheater always a cheater but I was just interested if to learn if anyone who was not that type of person but made a mistake. Granted, pretty big mistake but we ...
I agree that we all have the potential to screw up. I took some time to think about it and I don't think I personally have any friends that only had a one time deal like that. Either they didn't cheat at all, or they cheated repeatedly. I'm not really friends with anybody that did any cheating anymore lol.
06/29/2011
Alyxx Alyxx
I've cheated, but I can't really say it was ever a "slip up." I knew what I was getting myself into, drunk or sober. And it was never really a "didn't tell anyone about it, felt terrible about it, and never did it again" type thing. But those days are over.
06/30/2011
onehotmomma onehotmomma
I've never done it, but if it were to happen, it wouldn't be a slip up..I would know what I'm doing. I wish I could say my bf has never done that to me..but truthfully, I don't know. Some trust issues need working out!
07/01/2011
sassyNsensual sassyNsensual
I accidentally slept with my FWB's roommate when we were both drunk. It took a while for me to get up the courage to talk to him about it....he was a little upset but didn't hold it against be. He was wanting to keep our sexual relationship a secret....so it really wasn't a cheating situation.
07/03/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And you never told anyone, felt terrible about it, and it never happened again?
Cheating is cheating, but we are all human and things can happen. If you feel "terrible about it", the key is to not let it happen again. Hurting your partner by letting them know serves no real purpose.
07/03/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I don't think you can "slip up" and cheat.

You don't trip over a stair and fall into someone's vagina.
You don't accidentally fuck someone.


You make a deliberate choice (sober, drunk, I don't think ...
Did I tell you about that one time a stubbed my toe and then cheated on my girlfriend? I gotta be more careful!

I'm just messin' with you

If someone tells you they "slipped up" and slept with someone...they're prolly trying to get back in your good graces and will prolly do it again. DTMFAR.
07/04/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
No, never and never will!
If I'm involved with someone, they are all I want. I find it hard to imagine how one 'slips' up. You either decide to cheat on someone you supposedly care about, or you don't!
07/04/2011
Envy Envy
I didn't cheat, but my ex did. We're no longer together, he picked the other girl over me. Supposedly to him the grass was greener on the other side, but he just ended up in a slew of problems. It's his life, though, he made his bed so he can lie in it.
07/04/2011
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
Did I tell you about that one time a stubbed my toe and then cheated on my girlfriend? I gotta be more careful!

I'm just messin' with you

If someone tells you they "slipped up" and slept with someone...they're ...
Oh, is that like when you fall off the curve and accidentally get pregnant?
07/04/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
Oh, is that like when you fall off the curve and accidentally get pregnant?
That's what happened with my first child. Isn't that how everyone gets pregnant?

07/04/2011
sarki sarki
No I haven't
07/04/2011
indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I don't think you can "slip up" and cheat.

You don't trip over a stair and fall into someone's vagina.
You don't accidentally fuck someone.


You make a deliberate choice (sober, drunk, I don't think ...
I totally agree. But like you, I'm especially strident on this matter too.
07/05/2011
K101 K101
What? I totally missed the ? What on earth is LTR? Sorry, I'm out of the loop. I understand it has to do with "slipping up and cheating" though and no. I don't believe there's a such thing as "slipping up and cheating." You don't slip up, it's not an accident. Lol. I mean it may be a mistake by far, but no accident. I've never slipped up and cheated and I've never slipped down and cheated. Lol Sorry, for some reason that sounded funny to me. I just don't cheat period though. I would feel terrible though if I ever did. I don't do well with that. Even if I for some strange reason decided I didn't love or care for my partner, I could never do something so hurtful. I'd at the very least break things off first.
07/18/2011
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
What? I totally missed the ? What on earth is LTR? Sorry, I'm out of the loop. I understand it has to do with "slipping up and cheating" though and no. I don't believe there's a such thing as "slipping up and ...
LTR = Long Term Relationship.
07/18/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I had an Open Relationship at one time. Once we closed the relationship to just the two of us, neither of us have ever been with anyone else.

We have discussed re-opening the relationship to mutual get togethers with an other couple, but at this point in time, I don't think its a good idea.

He seems to think there will be no side effects, he thinks it will be "just for fun and sex." But I know him well enough to know what will happen; I'll enjoy it more than the does, want to continue, while he will become jealous and want to stop. It's happened with enough things over the years that I can nearly predict it.
07/18/2011
Beck Beck
I am allowed to sleep with woman and I would not want to sleep with any man besides my husband(only penis for me is his except for ones that take batteries). So no I never slipped up and slept with someone else.
07/22/2011
Lady Nina Lady Nina
Never
07/27/2011
Ansley Ansley
I'm with those that say you don't just slip up and sleep with someone else. The intent was already there or the person completely lost their mind and went for it anyway and didn't think about the consequences. And in my household the insanity plea would not fly.
07/27/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Trillian
And you never told anyone, felt terrible about it, and it never happened again?
Yes...but long before being married and not with the woman I am married to...thankfully.

I was seriously dating a girl, and she went away for the summer with her family, when in college. I met a girl who was only going to be there one semester, and a fling started.

I did feel guilty and felt like I was cheating on the girl I was dating...even if she was away for eight long weeks (in college..that is a lifetime) and so I broke it off.

In retrospect, however, I think the girl I broke it off with was more a right match for me then the girl I was dating...and when she got back with me...it was not another two months before she pulled the "I'm not ready to commit, maybe we should date other people". ARRRGGGHHH.....(worst brush off EVER).

However, that DID lead to meeting my wonderful wife...so all was happy endings anyway.
07/27/2011
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