So is there hope?

Eesh...starting to think the answer is no

I'm so sorry Tori.

I don't feel that I've had enough life experience with matters like this to be able to speak on it very well, but I will tell you there are good things to come, because you are a great person. It does suck now, but it will get better. I can't promise that you'll have that exact same connection, but you are young, and you will find someone else and be happy again. And if you need an ear, I'm always around.

Much love and hugs

I'm sorry you're feeling so hurt right now. It will take awhile to heal but I'm very sure that you will be able to feel connected to someone else again.

Whenever I'm feeling heartbroken my dad always told me that "every pot has a crooked lid that fits it." That is how pots are made. So when you are ready you can go look for a few more lids until you find the one that fits. Don't rush the process though, because that can leave you even more hurt.

Baby, it's going to get better. Concentrate on healing now. Sometimes a clean break is better than it dragging on for a long time. It hurts like hell, but then you have a clean cut to heal.

Hugs and love, sweetie.

There is absolutely hope. Just try to survive the initial horribleness that is right now and soon enough it'll start to fade and become less acute. Great connections are hard to forge and I have definitely been where you're at, just wondering if it's worth all the effort to try all over again with someone new and/or if it's even possible. The answer is, invariably, that it's both possible and worth it and all you need is time. Just breathe, lovely lady

There is absolutely hope. And not just a little hope, but TONS of it! I had to end a 5 year relationship in my 20's. He was the first person I loved, and when we were in a good place, I really saw a future with him. I was single for a really long time after that. I dated a few guys here and there, but nothing that amounted to anything. Fast forward to about 10 years later... I met a wonderful that I love SO MUCH MORE than my previous "love". We have a MUCH better relationship, much more open communication and MUCH better sex. So things will get better, and you will find someone when the time is right. Don't rush yourself. Focus on feeling each emotion you're dealing with. Once you're healed from this, you will find love again. And my guess is that it will be a much better kind of love, because you'll be more mature and ready for it. Best wishes!

Tori, I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. I know it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel right now, but believe me the light is there. When you're feeling down like this you need to remember this: Falling down is a part of life. Getting back up is living.

Also, I'm not sure if you believe in a higher power or not, but I am a firm believer that if He leads me to it, He'll lead me through it. God isn't going to put you in a situation that you can't handle. He knows it's only going to make you stronger.

Maybe this partner isn't the one that's intended for you. Maybe there is one out there that is better. One that you will have an even stronger connection with. I know it's happened to me. I was seeing this man, even left my ex-husband for him because of the connection he and I shared. Then my current husband came back into my life and the connection that we share is far beyond anything I've ever shared with any one else. So even though things didn't turn out the way I planned, it worked out the way it was meant to. It always does hun.

Thank you all. I still do feel so freakin lost... My future was taken out from under me and I'm really not sure where I'm going or what to do with myself now. Unfortunately, nothing is appealing or distracting. I just want my life back - I want to understand how someone that couldn't live without me yesterday can cut me off from communication today with no warning. I just don't get it.

I'm sorry you feel this way. When my first love couldn't even bother to break up with me (he just disappeared) I wondered the same thing. I wondered how it was that he could just drop what we had and leave me without so much as an explanation to what had gone wrong. Some people, it seems, are able to put walls around their heart like that. It's such a kick in the pants to go from planning a future together to looking down what appears to be a lonely road.

But it's not a lonely road. There is hope and until you find your next great love, there will be friends and family who walk with you. Right now, it's ok not to know what you want because you are healing and the feeling won't last forever. Pretty soon, you will wake up and things won't feel so bad and you'll start to have an interest in old hobbies and new ones. You're still on the journey so try not to be too hard on yourself. We're all here for you.

Baby, I have been there, done that, got the tshirt, moved on and then.. survived.

and I know you will also.

I found it helped to write. an anonymous public blog, a private for your eyes only blog. whatever. just go, put it out there. in a few weeks/months when the hurt is gone and you are past this stage you will look back and (probably) enjoy deleting the page.

another thing that helps (especially seeing the weekend is here) go have some girl time. Call up your girlfriends and have a night out. get out of the house, do your hair and make up. even if it only lasts 5 mins, for that 5 mins you feel like a million bucks. if you dont want to paint the town red, go to a friends house and have a few drinks, shoot the shit, laugh. LAUGH. sometimes youll cry. a good friend will let you get it out, and crack a joke after to make you smile. Just get out. away from the memories, the pain, the what ifs.

above all else, heal. you can and you will. it may take time, or no time at all. everyone is different. but you will be fine. This too shall pass. *HUGE hugs*

I can't really really add more advice than: "That's what she said" (cuz most of the people above are of the female/girl/woman persuasion).

I thought my life was romantically over at 28...then I met Cynthia.

"This too shall pass"

*HUGS*

I went through a bad break-up and divorce. I thought my world was over, but then I met my wife now. I only look for better things to come, now! You will go on to better days.