I do have an appointment in awhile--but will answer this when I get back. Maybe I can add a couple ideas that helped my relationship out in the past.

Sorry it took a bit to get back to you. Please keep in mind, I might not state everything properly--I am not judging or trying to be harsh in any way, but it may come out like that occasionally.

1. What do you do when he goes to masturbate?
--The hardest thing I have ever done sexually with my husband was masturbate in front of him the first few times. Or let him know I was going to have a 'solo'. I started be leaving the room BEFORE him, getting my pocket rocket and letting him know I was running solo and let him sit there and think about it... Then when he decided that if I was soloing he wanted to as well, I agreed to lay with my head at the foot of the bed while he lay normally and we watched each other pleasure ourselves. It got much easier the more we did that!!! Also--NO TOUCHING!! The hands off during solos made it hotter than hell and really built up tension only one thing could take care of, sex!!! The anticipation was un-fricken-believable. ...

2. Make HIS toys your friends. You cannot be jealous of his toys--you have your own. Put your sexual frustration to the side for two weeks...give him a hot handjob and do not have sex. Let him relax and take it---nothing at all expected or allowed in return. Use his toys for these times--and try them on you, experiment with ideas and sensations.

3. When he leaves you wet--grab your toy in bed and satisfy yourself. Grab his hand and get yourself off with it, you do all the moving of his hand--he lays there(and thinks about it later...).

4. Monday, Wed. Friday are game nights for him, spoil him all night. Tuesday and Thursday are couple nights--lay in bed and play a board game, card game, watch porn or read sexy stories out loud to each other. No pressure for sex--that does make it undesirable after awhile. Snuggle over a movie, have dinner in bed--go for a short car ride and surprise him orally when you stop. You are allowed to not wear panties and have a bullet vibe or other tiny toy already going for your satisfaction. (I got comfortable enough to pull his side of my skirt up and thoroughly 'tease' myself with a vibe while he was otherwise occupied at a stoplight, parking lot--mostly deserted--or when we stopped.

5. Once you two start relaxing and getting the emphasis off penile penetration, the more it will happen (pressure to perform is off), and the more you will find other satisfying sexual adventures together. This really does add a ton of intimacy and closeness to the relationship!!!

Good luck, let me know if you have questions, want to vent or talk and if this helped. Huge hugs!!!

Thanks for the responses! We normally give each other privacy when we masturbate but I've been more comfortable doing it beside him. So, I'm trying to be more and more comfortable. He's not very comfortable doing it but I think maybe the more I show how comfortable it is he'll lose the awkwardness and feel more comfortable. thanks for the suggestions, I'll try some!