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Contributor: MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
your spouse's friend, co/worker, family member, or someone else they know hits on you, gropes you, says something highly inappropriate, or something along those lines?

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Oh I would be all over this one. I'd say something right then and there to that person about how inappropriate it is, then tell my husband. Tell them if they don't watch themselves that it will be ME they have to worry about and not the hubby. I can be a downright bitch where its warranted lol.
04/02/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
your spouse's friend, co/worker, family member, or someone else they know hits on you, gropes you, says something highly inappropriate, or something along those lines?

Please explain below. This poll is private with multiple answers.
I wouldn't know how to handle it. Probably just stay away from the person as much as I can from now on.
04/23/2012
Contributor: lisasharrer lisasharrer
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
your spouse's friend, co/worker, family member, or someone else they know hits on you, gropes you, says something highly inappropriate, or something along those lines?

Please explain below. This poll is private with multiple answers.
tell them to back off
04/23/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Depends a lot on the circumstances, since my friends are weird. If it's a joke, I'll laugh it off, but if it's more serious, I'll privately tell them no.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
Never had it happen. But I'd tell DH since I obviously wouldn't want to be around said person anymore.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
your spouse's friend, co/worker, family member, or someone else they know hits on you, gropes you, says something highly inappropriate, or something along those lines?

Please explain below. This poll is private with multiple answers.
The only other man I have ever dated besides my fiance is his cousin... and sometimes he hits on me(not in a sexual way) but I can tell he still has feelings for me, I always tell my fiance but other then that I don't know what to feel, because his cousin is a really nice guy and he can't help how he feels right?
04/24/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
your spouse's friend, co/worker, family member, or someone else they know hits on you, gropes you, says something highly inappropriate, or something along those lines?

Please explain below. This poll is private with multiple answers.
I am VERY uncomfortable with unwanted advances and tend to come across as a cold or aloof bitch...if the person persists and I am not interested in that sort of attention then either of my significant others is more than willing to explain to the offender the benefits of stopping the behavior. If it's a friend of my SOs then they would know from the outset that it's not appreciated unless I indicate I am interested to my SOs FIRST. One of the benefits of being poly I suppose but really all couples should do this for their lovers...as well as believing them when they admit to feeling uncomfortable. A friend, even an old one you've know forever, should respect yours and your lover's boundaries.
Coworkers have laws to govern their behavior! Personally, I didn't get real close to mine, when I worked....I was openly pagan and just a bit weird. LOL Being an adult survivor of alcohol abuse I tended to keep people at arms length. I was also usually right in the middle of highly inappropriate conversation so it wasn't really an issue. If someone got rude or pushy I simply froze them ouot.
With family, however that is a sticky subject as you are just as likely to be blamed as believed. That one requires major trust on your partner's side but I always believed in giving my lover's the benefit of every doubt. Still I don't tolerate it...but if it's a 'beloved aged elder' I might let it pass...or ask my partner to. It really depends on the circumstance. For instance my Great Grandmother would make playful passes at my husband...no big deal but my Aunt accused him of raping her....BIG deal. Yes I know, my family is fucked up....
04/24/2012
Contributor: badk1tty badk1tty
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
your spouse's friend, co/worker, family member, or someone else they know hits on you, gropes you, says something highly inappropriate, or something along those lines?

Please explain below. This poll is private with multiple answers.
depends on the relationship of the person. co-worker? tell spouse, be offended. close friend? tell spouse, slap friend, not sure how to handle.
04/24/2012
Contributor: sunkissedJess sunkissedJess
I am one to call them out right then and there.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
It depends. If they are not really close, I would tell him because there is no need to build a closer relationship with that person. If they were really close to my guy, that would be tough. I would probably give them a one time freebie with a warning and hope it doesn't happen again.

The only times this has happened to me was when my guy was around me (some people). He's pretty perceptive and picks up on some guys before me.
04/24/2012
Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
I generally tell my significant other, try to laugh it off (unless it is something truly horrible that needs to be addressed), and feel uncomfortable and offended by that person. I also avoid them.

A lot of how to deal with that situation depends on your relationship with the person and your SO's relationship. If it's someone who they might defend, you have to approach it differently than if they also hate that person.
05/07/2012