When do you stop trying to impress your partner?

Contributor: K101 K101
I honestly don't know many couples who ever try to impress their partner. Most of the men and women I know don't even care to go all out with nasty and I mean NASTY language and do not care how they look or act even at the beginning of the relationships. I however care alot about how my partner sees me. No matter how many times a day he tells me he only has eyes for me & I'm the only beautiful woman to him, I still want to feel beautiful myself and get his attention. I'm really unique when it comes to my look/style. I'm a firm believer in neon eye shadow and sparkles! I'm always trying to improve something with my looks and I've yet to give up. We still do romantic and sweet things for each other too. I don't mind him seeing me when I first wake up in my big yellow smiley face t-shirt or my other big t's, but I don't care for having sex while my hair and look is a mess. He don't mind he tells me he thinks I'm most beautiful when I'm in the ugly big tees and no makeup with a poofy, crazed mess of hair! lol I will never stop doing things to excite our relationship.
06/20/2011
Contributor: AU AU
I really dislike saying we've lost spark because I feel that implies our relationship has dulled. We are pretty happy, but things just aren't quite how they were a decade ago. We will probably never shed certain parts of what we consider "decency", but we have had for some years a very slow, gradual comfort and some walls have fallen? My attempts to impress aren't quite as they once were, but I still try to keep up my appearance somewhat and remain charming. :3 I have to at times feel a need to compete as my partner has made a greater attempt to satisfy me with his appearance and I feel like he can outshine me at times. I occasionally wish that I could make things (art, food, ect.) that he would really, really love. It is really easy for me to satisfy him, but I wish so much that I could figure out what would impress him. I suppose that is how my chasing him started. I couldn't figure this out from the beginning!
06/20/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I hit the wrong button on the poll! I thought the first one said "I never STOP trying to impress my partner." It in fact says, "I never try to impress my partner."

As I said earlier, I work hard to look good for My Man and act kind and arousing for him. I wish we could change poll mistakes. I don't want anyone to think I don't TRY or I've let myself go.

Anyway, it isn't that hard to take a little extra work and do a few small things a day so your partner notices. I've known him long enough to know what he likes and I do go out of my way to do those things, along with work on my physical appearance; which he says he doesn't care about, but I know makes a difference even if he says it doesn't.
06/20/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Eliza
A lot of people claim that over time relationships lose their spark. This usually happens when partners become comfortable with one another, and flirting/impressing becomes less important. Has this happened to you, and if so, when?
I answered "never", but it is because I have never, ever done "flirting and romance" to impress them. I may have really misread the "tone" of your question. We BOTH, still, after 32 years of marriage, leave little love notes, buy flowers for NO reason, hide little gifts, flirt/date and admire our partner....and our SPARK is not gone, it has gone from FLINT sparks, to full blown METAL WELDING BLOW TORCH over the years. However, I still am not sure you could call it "impressing" them. It is to HAVE FUN with them. It is to KEEP that spark burning. It is to HONOR them with your love. "Impressing" I think of as trying to show them how feminine or macho you still are...and neither of us needs to do that, or ever did.
We are VERY comfortable with each other, as someone might know every curve and part of their prized antique car, but that also does not mean that they ignore that car to rot and rust...oh no, they can often be found lovingly applying leather polish to the seats, hand rubbing and buffing the paint, gently keeping the tires at a perfect pressure and standing back to admire and love on their prize, while still being incredibly proud to be seen driving around town in it....and they even go on special weekends to show it off to adoring fans. Understand? Relationships can grow like that. You are the treasured prize in your lovers life....old means more special and more loved. Care is what keeps it running and humming like new. AND THE SPARK PLUGS ALWAYS BURN BRIGHT...and the engine is thus ALWAYS READY TO REV.....!!!
06/20/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
For me, I'm incredibly hard to embarrass, I can have manners if I actually try but prefer not to. The best part is, my guy can be just as bad as me, if not worse, and he actually thinks the fact that I shove piles of food in my mouth while I eat something I love, or that I don't mind being a little gross (and don't mind when he is either) is attractive, and thinks its cool that I am not too shy to hold a conversation while on the toilet.

The first date we had I was on my period. We actually ended up in a long discussion about how so many girls don't like to admit they are on it, and how many guys are grossed out by it. He is not grossed out at ALL and doesn't mind having sex while I am on it, and the weirdo loves to pull on my tampon string sometimes just for the fun of my weird noise and full body twitch at the weird feeling.

We...are a weird couple...

And yet, we find each other 100% attractive. Except when he is threatening to spit on me
10/07/2011
Contributor: TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
We've been together for 5 years now, and haven't lost the spark yet, even though we're comfortable with each other.
10/27/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
I don't need to impress her.
11/06/2011
Contributor: freshbananas freshbananas
Going on six years and I always want to be a bragging right!
11/06/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
You should never lose your groove.
11/06/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I never try to impress my fiancee, but we'll never lose the spark we have!
11/06/2011
Contributor: Feisty Feisty
we're both very comfortable with each other, so i dont feel obligated to impress him all the time. but i do like to go the extra step most of the time for my guy because he deserves it! <3
07/23/2012
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
A lot of people claim that over time relationships lose their spark. This usually happens when partners become comfortable with one another, and flirting/impressing becomes less important. Has this happened to you, and if so, when?
i havent tried to impress my husband he fell for who i am sometimes i suprise him but even then i dont try
07/23/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I really don't think I'll lose the spark. Just last night I painted a picture of my partner for my partner. A month ago they hid little handwritten notes all over the house that said, "I love you."
07/23/2012
Contributor: booboo111926 booboo111926
we balance each other out so well, i know we'll never lose the spark
07/24/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
We'll never lose the spark. Do I constantly make sure I'm all done up? No of course not, but I try my best to never let myself take him for granted and always make sure to do a little something to impress him every so often.
09/18/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
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Originally posted by Not here
I believe in keeping a certain level of mystery, if you will. Basically, as far as my man is concerned, I don't fart or poop, and I intend to keep it that way. I think there is such a thing as being too comfortable with a partner, and it ... more
I realize this comment is almost 2 years old, but I have to say that this is ridiculous and unsustainable long term. If you can't be yourself in front of him, he's not the one.
09/18/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
It depends on what you mean by "impress." My husband and I actively work to please each other and grow our relationship. We've been married for 8 years, together for 14 years next month. But as far as, "Oooh look how great I am, baby!" We don't do that.
09/18/2012