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When your partner is late to either get home, or call home, how long before you start to worry?

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Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
When your partner is supposed to get home, or if you live in seperate houses, call you to let you know they got home, at what point do you start to worry when they're late?


I worry after . . .
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0-5 minutes
daveysgirl
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pinkzombie , Fuck it.
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10-20 minutes
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9  (9%)
20-30 minutes
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30-60 minutes
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60+
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24  (24%)
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5  (5%)
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Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
After about 30 minutes I start to worry, especially if they aren't answering the phone.

After about an hour I'm considering driving over there.
03/11/2011
Contributor: PinkPedal PinkPedal
About 45 minutes.
03/11/2011
Contributor: idunshire idunshire
20-30 minutes. I'm such a worrier AND crazy punctual, it's not a good combination.
03/11/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I would say about an hour. We live thirty minutes from town and she does not have a phone, so I would give her time for forgotten errands. At the two hour mark I will be getting in the truck to go look.
03/11/2011
Contributor: kittychilla kittychilla
usually 30 minutes to an hour or an hour and a half. if it's the weekend, i expect his calls to be real late, but i still worry..
03/11/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
My husband is extremely prompt, if he is more than ten minutes late I need to be in contact. As a matter of fact, both of us are known for not being late. My mother once called me because I was two minutes late picking her up from work. Had it been my sister, she would have waited at least an hour.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
I usually wait at least an hour before calling to see whats up. If that call isn't answered I wait another half hour or so before starting to worry.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I'll usually give it an hour before I attempt to call his cell.

He does go out after work sometimes, so I try not to worry. He doesn't have a regular scheduel so I do not expect him to come at a particular time everyday. But if he tells me he will be home for a particular time and he is late, I'll usually give it an hour.
03/12/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
It usually takes me 10-20 minutes before I start to worry about my girlfriend.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
It depends on where he was coming back from, because sometimes he'll say he's leaving a friend's place and end up getting caught back up in conversation. If he's 10 minutes late or more, I'll give him a call just to see where he's at in his trip.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
30 min
03/12/2011
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
My husband is so punctual that 10 to 20 minutes would worry me.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Ajax Ajax
It depends on the time of day. If it's early in the day or even the evening I usually give it an hour or two. If it's late at night 20 minutes tops. It doesn't happen often, but when it does he's usually gotten himself distracted somewhere along the way home or he's taken a shopping detour, but he always makes it home in the end.
03/12/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I start to worry at about the 30 minute mark. But, I talk myself out of worrying too much for a little while longer, maybe another 30 minutes. My man, otoh, worries about me a lot more quickly.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Lily Night Lily Night
I start to worry after about 15 minutes, my girlfriend only lives half an hour away so if she hasn't arrived 45 minutes after she leaves its long enough for me to worry.
03/12/2011
Contributor: null null
I worry after about 30-60 minutes, but it really depends on the situation, where he is, what he was doing, etc.
03/12/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
I'm really surprised that some people are saying it will take them an hour to start worrying. If my girlfriend was an hour late and she wasn't answering her phone, I'd probably call the cops and then go out looking for her.
03/12/2011
Contributor: aBeastlyLittleThing aBeastlyLittleThing
Quote:
Originally posted by vegan.guy
When your partner is supposed to get home, or if you live in seperate houses, call you to let you know they got home, at what point do you start to worry when they're late?


I worry after . . .
he's always out later than he says he will be...so ppsshht. i rarely worry.
03/13/2011
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
I start to worry after he's 20-30 minutes late. This usually never happens, and if it does, I've either already got a call letting me know, or I'm dialing him up right that minute to find out what the heck is going on. My man's good to me though. He doesn't make me worry too much.
03/13/2011
Contributor: leatherlover leatherlover
With her current job, it can take anywhere from 15 minutes to close up to an hour. So after about 30 minutes of when I was expecting her home, then I start to worry a little bit.
03/13/2011
Contributor: pinkzombie pinkzombie
About 10 to 15 Minutes because my husband always always calls me on his way home!
03/13/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
Between 30-60 minutes.Usually closer to 30. Sometimes he gets caught up and does extra stuff before he leaves after he's told me he's leaving. Although he also has horrible service at work so I can't always count on the phone to get a hold of him.
03/13/2011
Contributor: CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by vegan.guy
When your partner is supposed to get home, or if you live in seperate houses, call you to let you know they got home, at what point do you start to worry when they're late?


I worry after . . .
Normally I knw how traffic can be and how long it would normally be. After around 30 minutes I may give him a call to see what's up.
03/13/2011
Contributor: CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by PiratePrincess
Between 30-60 minutes.Usually closer to 30. Sometimes he gets caught up and does extra stuff before he leaves after he's told me he's leaving. Although he also has horrible service at work so I can't always count on the phone to get a hold of him.
Yes, same thing here!
03/13/2011
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
Quote:
Originally posted by vegan.guy
When your partner is supposed to get home, or if you live in seperate houses, call you to let you know they got home, at what point do you start to worry when they're late?


I worry after . . .
This is more about my dad than my significant other, but, the same applies to anyone I care about.

I have this semi-irrational fear of being alone (not physically, but, like, not having anyone to go to emotionally) and I start worrying very quickly. If there's a range of time he's supposed to call me (he's a truck driver) and he doesn't, I start calling quickly after that. I worry a lot.
03/13/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I'm super punctual so I worry a lot, and super fast.
03/13/2011
Contributor: moonch1ld moonch1ld
I don't live with my partner but if I did I wouldn't worry until very late or the next day. I don't need to be informed where she is all the time. As long as she does get home that night it's fine.
03/13/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by Annemarie
This is more about my dad than my significant other, but, the same applies to anyone I care about.

I have this semi-irrational fear of being alone (not physically, but, like, not having anyone to go to emotionally) and I start worrying very ... more
You could have some minor anxiety diorder. Might be something you should ask your doctor about the next time you see them.
03/13/2011
Contributor: ID42 ID42
I have always had a very active and sometimes over-active imagination... sadly, when worried or waiting for my husband to make it home, my mind tends to go the route of the most extreme horrible case scenario. It's a curse.
03/13/2011