The New Intimacy

Would you talk to her (or continue ignoring)?

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Contributor: Howells Howells
We broke up 5 months ago. Actually she did in form of 3 texts. We become separated due to distance.. we exchanged some mails before the texts but they weren't about breaking up. She didn't have the balls to say it into my face. I got upset and decided to ignore her (what could I say anyway). We've been together for a bit over 2 years. A few weeks ago she blocked me on facebook after I posted a pic that could have reminded her of the time spent with me.

I'm already over her (why do I check facebook then lol^^) but I'm getting mixed advice from friends whether or not I should talk to her and give her stuff back etc. Just a 'really, what was that' conversation...
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Yes
2  (7%)
No
19  (68%)
Other
7  (25%)
Total votes: 28
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04/17/2012
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Contributor: Entropy Entropy
Ignore, move on. She blocked you to send you a message. From what you've said the message is that it's over.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Raigne Raigne
Give her her stuff back if she asks you for it. If you really are over her, there's no reason to be uncivil with her unless you're doing it out of spite, which would indicate that you aren't over her. Be honest with yourself. If you're pissed off and upset over it still and you need the distance to heal, then keep the distance, but carrying around that spite and resentment isn't healthy and it means she still has an impact on your life.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I wouldn't contact her, move on to something better that will make you happy .
04/17/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
Ignore her but give her stuff back if she asks for it, preferably through the mail or someone else.
04/17/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Box her stuff up and mail it back to her. Then get on with your future. The woman does not want anything to do with your shared past, it is probably too uncomfortable to her after the way she just faded from you. If she did not have the courtesy to tell you it is over, let it go....people like that are not to be counted on, for anything but pain.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
continue ignoring her
04/17/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
Continue to ignore her and move on.
04/17/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
We broke up 5 months ago. Actually she did in form of 3 texts. We become separated due to distance.. we exchanged some mails before the texts but they weren't about breaking up. She didn't have the balls to say it into my face. I got upset ... more
No on the talking for sure but her stuff, if you already gave her time to collect it then chuck it. But to be honest, if she couldn't even tell you to your face, I'd throw it without even asking. Just to be safe though maybe text her once to get it.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I've always ended up friends with most of my ex's, aside from the cases where they decided they didn't want to talk to me anymore, after I'd moved on etc., but I think it depends on what you want out of it. If you want to maintain some level of communication, go for it. Sometimes, it can be nice to keep up with ex's. I enjoy it with the ones who can keep the drama out of things, and we don't get jealous. Not everyone can do this, though, so please keep that in mind. Sometimes staying friends CAN cause drama and open up old wounds if there are any, even ones you may not even know are there.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
We broke up 5 months ago. Actually she did in form of 3 texts. We become separated due to distance.. we exchanged some mails before the texts but they weren't about breaking up. She didn't have the balls to say it into my face. I got upset ... more
give her back her stuff then drop her from your life
04/17/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
Take care of any ends calmly and quickly, bring a friend if you need. Cut ties and go ghost. you deserve better.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
Give her the stuff back. I don't care how bad things were or how much of a bitch she is or was - just give it back. Or pack it up and give it to a mutual friend. If she doesn't want it back, how about donating it to someone who could use it instead of just trashing it ?

No matter how much someone else sucks, it's not going to harm you to keep having personal integrity. Just because someone else might be a cunt doesn't mean you have to be.


As for talking... it's really up to you. Doesn't sound like you're over her, but if you can handle hearing things you might not like (true or not), that's your choice to ask "what happened ?"

This doesn't seem like a situation where "being friends" would be a good idea, but I don't think you were asking that ?
04/17/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Give her the stuff if she asks, but don't go out of your way to bring it to, she did break up via text. You're also better off being friends with people who can speak directly to your face, it solves a lot of issues with trust and prevents underlying problems.
04/19/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
We broke up 5 months ago. Actually she did in form of 3 texts. We become separated due to distance.. we exchanged some mails before the texts but they weren't about breaking up. She didn't have the balls to say it into my face. I got upset ... more
Plenty of fish in the sea-You don't need a person like that in your life.
04/19/2012
Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
You should just keep on ignoring her. If she wants her stuff back, she'll ask you for it. But since she broke up with you, your best bet is to just leave her alone.
05/07/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I wouldn't ignore, but I would press anything either. I would just let it be
05/07/2012
Contributor: evie.amor evie.amor
Quote:
Originally posted by Raigne
Give her her stuff back if she asks you for it. If you really are over her, there's no reason to be uncivil with her unless you're doing it out of spite, which would indicate that you aren't over her. Be honest with yourself. If ... more
I agree, I wouldn't make the first move though. Just drop the whole thing, if she wants her stuff she can bring it up and maybe then she'll have a better explanation for what happened.

It's hard but from my experience, the only way to move on is to put as much distance between you and that person as possible.
02/05/2013