He enjoys both, but doesn't want to use toys as often as I would like.
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Your Partner's Stance on Toys or Lingerie?
06/19/2012
we both like it
06/19/2012
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same here.
Originally posted by
gsfanatic
She enjoys both toys and lingerie, as do I.
06/19/2012
My Man likes toys for me and lingerie.
He bought me my first half dozen toys, and I didn't even like the first one at first. But, I changed my mind.
I had some hormonal problems and started having problems having an orgasm and he thought (quite right) that some sex toys might help the problem. I had gotten to the point where I Might have an orgasm every few times, after an hour of oral sex. We were both exhausted and I was stressing out like crazy. Bring in the toys! I began to have more reliable orgasms and also got on a hormone replacement program.
He even knows the exact moment we need to switch from oral with a dildo (he can't be in two places at once! There is nothing like having cunnilingus along with using a phallic toy....) to using the Wahl so I can come. He's pretty good at knowing the right moment to grab a dildo or phallic vibrator while he's performing oral sex, too. We also found that using a dildo or vibrating phallic toy vaginally that anal sex is a lot easier and more fun, too!
He likes lingerie (but doesn't want me to spend too much on it) even if it ends up on the floor after only a few minutes.
I think when a man realizes that he isn't being replaced with sex toys, and that the toys enhance the action for both of you and he feels secure in his masculinity and feels secure in his sexual prowess, the toys aren't a problem.
As others have said, you may have to have a talk with him.
He bought me my first half dozen toys, and I didn't even like the first one at first. But, I changed my mind.
I had some hormonal problems and started having problems having an orgasm and he thought (quite right) that some sex toys might help the problem. I had gotten to the point where I Might have an orgasm every few times, after an hour of oral sex. We were both exhausted and I was stressing out like crazy. Bring in the toys! I began to have more reliable orgasms and also got on a hormone replacement program.
He even knows the exact moment we need to switch from oral with a dildo (he can't be in two places at once! There is nothing like having cunnilingus along with using a phallic toy....) to using the Wahl so I can come. He's pretty good at knowing the right moment to grab a dildo or phallic vibrator while he's performing oral sex, too. We also found that using a dildo or vibrating phallic toy vaginally that anal sex is a lot easier and more fun, too!
He likes lingerie (but doesn't want me to spend too much on it) even if it ends up on the floor after only a few minutes.
I think when a man realizes that he isn't being replaced with sex toys, and that the toys enhance the action for both of you and he feels secure in his masculinity and feels secure in his sexual prowess, the toys aren't a problem.
As others have said, you may have to have a talk with him.
06/19/2012
I have three boyfriends and all three are just thrilled when I break out a toy or show up in lingerie. In fact, they like lingerie more than I do!
06/19/2012
At the beginning of our relationship, my man said he really didn't care about lingerie. After talking about it, we came to realize he just never dated anyone who wore lingerie for him - I wear it regularly and he loves it. So while he thought he didn't care about it or need it, now he's realized he really, really likes it! He has even developed his own tastes in what he likes, and favorites from my collection.
As for toys - he is really happy we can use toys together. He's surprised me over the years by getting me several that I had been saving up for. His stance is that every woman deserves to have several nice sex toys.
I have to agree with everyone - communication is the way to go. Open, loving, non-confrontational communication outside of the bedroom that doesn't blame or shame either of you. We've often found that our "disagreements" are sometimes both of us feeling the same way, but just stating it differently. Talking always helps us.
Best wishes!
As for toys - he is really happy we can use toys together. He's surprised me over the years by getting me several that I had been saving up for. His stance is that every woman deserves to have several nice sex toys.
I have to agree with everyone - communication is the way to go. Open, loving, non-confrontational communication outside of the bedroom that doesn't blame or shame either of you. We've often found that our "disagreements" are sometimes both of us feeling the same way, but just stating it differently. Talking always helps us.
Best wishes!
06/19/2012
I've never played with anyone who didn't like toys and lingerie. Although, I did once play with someone who felt threatened by dildos. Not other toys, just dildos. We no longer play together.
My current partner is very sex-toy oriented. He absolutely loves playing with toys, and he loves seeing me in lingerie. It's wonderful.
My current partner is very sex-toy oriented. He absolutely loves playing with toys, and he loves seeing me in lingerie. It's wonderful.
06/19/2012
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Toys and lingerie are always welcome during our playtime! They are fun, exciting, and can increase the pleasure for both...or more...people involved! Lingerie to us is like wrapping paper, it looks so nice and pretty but you can't wait to tear it open! No reason to fear or be intimidated by toys...well except for that huge dildo I saw earlier. Seriously both can bring a lot of enjoyment to the bedroom. Maybe he feels you don't need him if you have a toy that you enjoy? See if he would like to try a toy on you, works for us. Good luck also kendra30752 had a pretty good response to your situation.
Originally posted by
dirtythoughts:)
My Boyfriend of 2 years now has voiced his opinion on sex toys, he doesn't like them! When I recently ordered my second vibrator,he got a little fussy. He claims he just likes natural sex and has never really been into toys. We have really only
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My Boyfriend of 2 years now has voiced his opinion on sex toys, he doesn't like them! When I recently ordered my second vibrator,he got a little fussy. He claims he just likes natural sex and has never really been into toys. We have really only tried a vibrating ring together and some use of vibration from my first vibrator but he wasn't into it. He also thinks lingerie is a waste of money. We also don't usually use lubes but that's more my fault as I have had problems with them, very sensitive skin. I personally don't care, as inconsiderate as that may sound. I like them and will use/buy them if I want too.
So my question is, how does your PARTNER feel about toys? Lingerie? less
So my question is, how does your PARTNER feel about toys? Lingerie? less
06/19/2012
I actually don't know, and it saddens me to say so, but I actually hadn't introduced sex toys into our relationships.
I guess it's ok, cause so far i've chosen to use them alone, and understand and the way they make me feel, before i bring them on with him.
I think he will actually go for it, cause we're both into mild bdsm, but I could be wrong, we use Lube constantly, and he was the one to bring it into the relationship.
I don't know, I am actually very doubtful on this cause my previous boyfriend was kind of mean when it came to sex toys. I guess I am just worried the same thing would happen.
I guess it's ok, cause so far i've chosen to use them alone, and understand and the way they make me feel, before i bring them on with him.
I think he will actually go for it, cause we're both into mild bdsm, but I could be wrong, we use Lube constantly, and he was the one to bring it into the relationship.
I don't know, I am actually very doubtful on this cause my previous boyfriend was kind of mean when it came to sex toys. I guess I am just worried the same thing would happen.
06/19/2012
He likes both.
06/19/2012
we both like toys
06/19/2012
My girlfriend likes toys and likes lingerie.
06/19/2012
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kendra30752 did have a good response but it wasn't exactly accurate. Read my newer post. It was a reply to my original. I think i may need to change the original....I appreciate everyone's responses but he and I are alot closer and talk constantly about everything than what i originally posted made seem.
Originally posted by
HusbandandWife
Toys and lingerie are always welcome during our playtime! They are fun, exciting, and can increase the pleasure for both...or more...people involved! Lingerie to us is like wrapping paper, it looks so nice and pretty but you can't wait to tear
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more
Toys and lingerie are always welcome during our playtime! They are fun, exciting, and can increase the pleasure for both...or more...people involved! Lingerie to us is like wrapping paper, it looks so nice and pretty but you can't wait to tear it open! No reason to fear or be intimidated by toys...well except for that huge dildo I saw earlier. Seriously both can bring a lot of enjoyment to the bedroom. Maybe he feels you don't need him if you have a toy that you enjoy? See if he would like to try a toy on you, works for us. Good luck also kendra30752 had a pretty good response to your situation.
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06/19/2012
Husband likes toys we can use together, is OK with lingerie, does not like solo toys.
06/20/2012
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We shop for them together. He LOVES to buy me toys and lingerie. He lavishes them on me, in fact. Every holiday and event, I get a "real" gift and a "naughty" gift (or basket of them!!!!).
Originally posted by
dirtythoughts:)
My Boyfriend of 2 years now has voiced his opinion on sex toys, he doesn't like them! When I recently ordered my second vibrator,he got a little fussy. He claims he just likes natural sex and has never really been into toys. We have really only
...
more
My Boyfriend of 2 years now has voiced his opinion on sex toys, he doesn't like them! When I recently ordered my second vibrator,he got a little fussy. He claims he just likes natural sex and has never really been into toys. We have really only tried a vibrating ring together and some use of vibration from my first vibrator but he wasn't into it. He also thinks lingerie is a waste of money. We also don't usually use lubes but that's more my fault as I have had problems with them, very sensitive skin. I personally don't care, as inconsiderate as that may sound. I like them and will use/buy them if I want too.
So my question is, how does your PARTNER feel about toys? Lingerie? less
So my question is, how does your PARTNER feel about toys? Lingerie? less
The MOST fun is ordering together...and anticipating the arrival of the toys so we can try them out.
If I use a toy on myself...which happens pretty rarely, and he walks in, he gets a HUGE grin, and enjoys watching me put on a show for him.
In fact, I had gotten one new rabbit vibe from EF a few weeks back. I was watching some porn on TV (lazy afternoon), and was post shower laying on clean sheets, laying back on my pillow, legs spread wide and my vibe deep in my vagina, when in walks hubby from doing his yard-work (I thought he would be outside a couple more hours).
He smiled at me, sat on the edge of the bed watching for about a minute, then came over and with JUST the tip of his tongue, flicked my clit a couple times, then dropped his cloths.....and jumped into the shower.
I slowed the pace of my Rabbit down a bit, anticipating he was planning to join me, and it was almost painful waiting for him to shower, dry off and he actually took his time with the blow dryer...just watching me in the master bathroom mirror.
Again, once he was dry, and without a single word between us, he approached the bed, and simply placed his penis (already pretty firm) between my lips, and as I sucked him to full rigid "ready mode", he had reached around and lubed my tush very well with his finger.
He then, with me STILL with my RABBIT inserted vaginally, turned me on my side and entered my rear, smoothly and slowly, but with one, continuous motion, till he was completely inside me. It was....SENSUAL and DELICIOUS.
He filled me VERY well that afternoon....and along with the toy, it was PURE BLISS.
BOTTOM LINE? No...my guy is NOT intimidated by any TOY, and in fact, he uses them to HIS advantage, as they help keep ME hot. It's such a WIN/WIN!!!!
06/20/2012
He's very neutral on it.
Though we haven't really experimented with a lot of it.
Though we haven't really experimented with a lot of it.
06/20/2012
We both love both. Toys are always fun, and lingerie is so versatile
06/20/2012
My partners greatly enjoy both!
08/04/2012
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He loves both!
Originally posted by
dirtythoughts:)
My Boyfriend of 2 years now has voiced his opinion on sex toys, he doesn't like them! When I recently ordered my second vibrator,he got a little fussy. He claims he just likes natural sex and has never really been into toys. We have really only
...
more
My Boyfriend of 2 years now has voiced his opinion on sex toys, he doesn't like them! When I recently ordered my second vibrator,he got a little fussy. He claims he just likes natural sex and has never really been into toys. We have really only tried a vibrating ring together and some use of vibration from my first vibrator but he wasn't into it. He also thinks lingerie is a waste of money. We also don't usually use lubes but that's more my fault as I have had problems with them, very sensitive skin. I personally don't care, as inconsiderate as that may sound. I like them and will use/buy them if I want too.
So my question is, how does your PARTNER feel about toys? Lingerie? less
So my question is, how does your PARTNER feel about toys? Lingerie? less
08/05/2012
My fiance loves seeing me in lingerie and likes helping me pick out my next outfit. As far as my toys go, he's pretty neutral about them. He doesn't have a problem with me using toys but he doesn't get overly excited about it.
I just recently ordered him his first masturbator so we'll have to see how he enjoys male toys.
I just recently ordered him his first masturbator so we'll have to see how he enjoys male toys.
08/05/2012
My partner is very open minded. Though I've never talked to him about it, I'm sure he would be just fine if I whipped something out. I just need the push to do it lol
10/09/2012
He loves it all--we're both pretty adventurous and like trying new things. Good thing too, because I wouldn't put up with someone who did have a problem with it for very long. That's the way I am--I'm protective of my sexuality because I spent too many years in unfulfilling, unhealthy relationships where I was constantly getting the shaft (no pun intended). I absolutely refuse to put up with it now. It's a deal breaker these days.
10/09/2012
My wife would never have bought toys on her own - but she had plenty of lingerie. Luckily she was open and is now a big fan.
10/10/2012
Not only does my man LIKE toys and lingerie, more often than not he is the one who spends my Eden points and picks things out for me! Not that I mind, so long as he does his research and reads the reviews!
10/10/2012
Likes both. More so the lingerie.
10/10/2012
He loves the toys and lingerie I get
10/10/2012
Is neutral
10/10/2012
My husband bought me my first vibrator. He wanted a way to ensure I have an orgasm during sex just in case he had one before me. Ever since, we have become much more experimental with our sex life and incorporate much more than just a traditional vibrator. Granted, the only thing he will use on himself are lubes and an occasional cock ring, but he loves using toys and lingerie an he loves seeing me in lingerie.
10/10/2012
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She likes both and I am greatful for it
Originally posted by
dirtythoughts:)
My Boyfriend of 2 years now has voiced his opinion on sex toys, he doesn't like them! When I recently ordered my second vibrator,he got a little fussy. He claims he just likes natural sex and has never really been into toys. We have really only
...
more
My Boyfriend of 2 years now has voiced his opinion on sex toys, he doesn't like them! When I recently ordered my second vibrator,he got a little fussy. He claims he just likes natural sex and has never really been into toys. We have really only tried a vibrating ring together and some use of vibration from my first vibrator but he wasn't into it. He also thinks lingerie is a waste of money. We also don't usually use lubes but that's more my fault as I have had problems with them, very sensitive skin. I personally don't care, as inconsiderate as that may sound. I like them and will use/buy them if I want too.
So my question is, how does your PARTNER feel about toys? Lingerie? less
So my question is, how does your PARTNER feel about toys? Lingerie? less
10/10/2012
She loves toys and lingerie also
10/10/2012