If your long term boyfriend wants you to have a relationship with his wife and you don't get along, can it work?

If your long term boyfriend wants you to have a relationship with his wife and you don't get along, can it work?

TheirPet TheirPet
I think you know the answer to this already.
pix pix
Don't be pressured into a relationship with someone you don't like!
Scrawberry78 Scrawberry78
NO!!! if it doesn't work don't force it
Artishok Artishok
Andrey2052 Andrey2052
No, you don't get along for a reason
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I think it could work. Not friends. But a civil relationship. Especially if there are kids involved. But both you and her would have to want that understanding, not just your man.
Ayumi Ayumi
Perhaps, if you both gave it a good and honest go, but I think both people would have to be willing to try to work through the differences. If not, then it wouldn't work. Compromise and genuine effort is key.
Mitzuki Mitzuki
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I will respectfully disagree with the pack on this one. I am assuming that your long term boyfriend's wife knows about you and that you and she just don't seem to be able to see eye to eye.
I was in the same situation, myself, with my ...
Definitely agree with you on every bit.
hall5885 hall5885
If you can't get along with someone, you can't force yourself to like them. It'll just cause resentment and most likely a lot of toxic feelings.
Feisty Feisty
Sounds like a messy situation. Ditch him.
SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
Communication is really important here. He may not grasp why you don't get along. If you aren't interested in her, he needs to hear it from you. If she feels the same towards you, put aside your differences, and sit him down together.

A splinter in a relationship or feeling forced into something you're not comfortable/happy about can really mess things up!!
bog bog
Originally posted by LadyRelentless
....this is the polyamory board.

Have some respect for other peoples choices. If "seeing a married man" is absolutly a bad choice for you, then maybe this isn't the right part of the forums for you.

polyamory=more then ...
lol, this. LadyRelentless, I was thinking the exact same thing.

If it's ok with you all that the two ladies will never be best buds, it shouldn't be an issue. However, if you both really despise each other, she may begin picking on him for the time he spends with you, or vice-versa.

I could see the situation going either way.

It could DEFINITELY work.

I like NOT meeting my partners' other partners. That just works well for me. Part of the reason I like this is so I don't have to know if they're dating insufferably awful people when they aren't with me.
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